Boyfriend of a Nursing Student

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I'm in a very committed relationship with a nursing student at a different school about a half an hour from me. We've been dating for a little over a year and both agree that marriage is in or future, I'm extremely proud of her for her career choice and try everything to be as supportive as I can from a distance but for the past few weeks I can't get one thing off my mind. I've seen the threads about a boyfriend being upset that his girlfriend has to touch or see another man's member among other things and that isn't what this is about, at first that thought and picture really bothered me but at this point I'm honestly over that and don't really care about it, I understand it's part of the job and I'm not concerned. I'm also not worried about her being turned on by inserting a catheter or giving a bed bath but the one thing that bothers me is how a nurse can have any interest in seeing her significant other naked after seeing several men naked that day at work, I know they are "just body parts" on patients but is it really different when it's your boyfriend or husband's? I know this question will probably seem dumb to everyone on here but as a management major who has no experience in the medical field it's hard for me to imagine that she won't eventually become desensitized to the male body and anatomy and develop the "seen one, seen them all" mentality. That would just really be hard because I know the way I look at her body and like to think that it goes both ways and I would just hate to lose that. Any advice would be appreciated, if you want to tell me how immature it is or to get over it then save your time, I realize it's small and probably largely unreasonable but I'm just looking to see how other couples or husbands have dealt with this if they've had the same problem or if it really isn't a problem then I would like to hear that too. Thanks in advance

Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
That would have made me so mad! I've got a bit of Irish in me and man oh man, a prison inmate is no match for the Irish side of Purple_roses. No no. How long did you last at that job?

Awhile, I was new so I had to be broken in some how. :p I love corrections & once I get my RN I'm applying at the BOP near me.

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Awhile, I was new so I had to be broken in some how. :p I love corrections & once I get my RN I'm applying at the BOP near me.

Well that's good! I guess it's better to develop that tough skin sooner rather than later.

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I really don't think it's the patients you have to worry about. Now if some hot orthopedic surgeon show your girlfriend his "body part" then you should be worried. :uhoh3:

That's all. :confused:

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First of all, thank you for your input. I'm sorry but I said "I'm not worried about her being turned on by that" and I said that because on every other post I've seen regardless of whether or not the original poster mentioned it or was concerned about it everyone says "well I can assure you inserting a catheter or giving a bed bath isn't sexy" so I wanted to clear up that I wasn't jealous or concerned about that. I sincerely appreciate your input.

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I really don't think it's the patients you have to worry about. Now if some hot orthopedic surgeon show your girlfriend his "body part" then you should be worried. :uhoh3:

That's all. :confused:

Ew...

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We hear this from time to time. Here's another thread that addresses it extensively and may be of help to you.

https://allnurses.com/student-nurse-practitioner/boyfriend-of-a-986020.html

Short answer: We are fully able to separate our professional caring for comparative strangers' memberes and other parts from our loving caring for those with whom we have an intimate relationship. We do learn not to tell patients not to worry or be afraid about things, because people have their feelings and we don't want to make them think their feelings aren't important. But we do say that in our experience these things are not to be feared, and they will find out, and we will talk again after it's all over. Same here.

If you want someone to think about, imagine the gynecologist's wife. I worked with one fabulously competent and profane GYN from TX once who said he had guys leering at him all the time, jealous that he got to look at and handle that-other-word-for-kittycat all day long. He said, "You know what? It's my work. I wouldn't cross the street for it." And he loved his wife, with whom he had 5 kids. :)

I have been married twice and I don't even compare those two memberes, much less all the ones I've seen at work. Seriously. Never occurred to me.

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Ew...

That was joke.....:geek:

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Thank you, I appreciate that and I know it's just an average day in the profession but I guess for someone on the outside it can be hard to understand how anything could be special or intimate after a while of being in those positions every day. Again I appreciate the input, and I know everything will be fine and I'll get over worrying about it after a while.

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I have never before even thought about my boyfriends member and a patients member at the same time. Two completely 100% separate things. You have nothing to worry about.

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:D
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Specializes in Emergency/Cath Lab.

My wife is infinitely more attractive than 99% of what comes through the doors.

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My wife is infinitely more attractive than 99% of what comes through the doors.

What about the 1%? :D

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