At my wit's end...

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For starters, I'm a newbie to the site so I hope I'm posting this in the right place. I..am just at my wits end.

how do you all deal with obnoxious people at school!??!?!?!?!?! I'm so fed up. It's not my fault if I get the answers to the questions right and they don't. They act like it's my fault that they're stupid. Ugh...talk to me.

Its like this group of drama mamas up near the back. I can hear them being stupid throughout the whole class...

I taught K-12 and in Adult Education for many years so I went through 4 years of college for the BS in Education and 3 years for the ADN so I can say this with some confidence.

Many, not all, of the people who sit in the back, are drama mamas and are "stupid throughout the whole class" whether it's in middle school, high school, GED prep courses, any college class or nursing class, first, you most likely don't want to be friends with or even want to be around much and second, if I had to bet, would put money on that they won't make it in your program for a variety of reasons.

That being said,

They're just mad that whenever somebody can't answer the question, I have the answer.

They may be mad when you have the answer but word to the wise, have the answer in your head more and out loud less.

Unless a huge portion of your grade is classroom participation which it most likely isn't, what you do on the exams, projects, papers etc. is what gets the good grade not what is answered in class.

Good luck!!!!

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There's a lady in my class who blurts out the answers - either when the instructor asks one, or when another student asks the instructor - and we all hate her for that. And it's not because we're stupid, Jason. It's because it's downright rude, especially when another student is asking the instructor and she blurts out the answer before instructor can. And also, it's because some of those times, despite what she thinks, her "answer" is actually wrong.

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My personal opinion is you do you and let them do themselves. People shouldn't even know your grades nor you know theirs. Stay humble. I am not concerned with anybody but myself. Ignore the negativity be proud of yourself and stay positive!

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
It's not my fault if I get the answers to the questions right and they don't. They act like it's my fault that they're stupid.
How do your classmates know that you get all the right answers? Are you broadcasting this information to them?

As a rule of thumb, my grades are my personal business. Nothing good ever arises out of broadcasting that I performed relatively well on a test that the majority of the class bombed. Rubbing your good grades and right answers in your classmates' faces only serves the purpose of inciting hard feelings.

Good luck with your schooling, personal development, and continued cultivation of interpersonal skills.

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Specializes in ER.

Well, considering that you are here calling them "stupid" I'd like to venture out and assume you are part of the problem, even if you don't realize it.

Do you KNOW they hate you? Or do you just assume. Are you one who likes to just blurt out every single answer whether it's asked of you or not?

You came here looking for advice and since you didn't get the response you wanted, you got yourself in a tizzy and put up a big attitude. So, it appears to most of us here (and for good reason considering your actions) that you were a decent portion of the problem.

Take a hard look at yourself. How can you better help the situation? You can only control yourself afterall.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Woah, woah. Like chill. We aren't even in the program yet! Um, I'm pretty sure I've looked in the mirror today...that doesn't even apply here. They're just mad that whenever somebody can't answer the question, I have the answer. I'm not trying to be a showoff or anything...I'm just completely confused at their hatred of me. Its like this group of drama mamas up near the back. I can hear them being stupid throughout the whole class...

and You're quite welcome pmabraham! :)

I am "like chilled"...I think you need to consider how you can affect the environment around you in a positive way. Calling people "drama mamas" and "stupid" makes it pretty clear how you think and feel about them. I am willing to bet that your emotions and thoughts are clearly represented in your body language, in your tone of voice, and on your face. Hence, your fellow classmates behavior towards you.

A part of developing a professional demeanor and maturity is learning how to "get along with others" and how to be the contributor to a productive work environment. It is also apart of professional growth to learn how to communicate in ALL situations in a mature professional manner.

How, when , and IF, YOU choose to do this is entirely up to you...but it IS important in nursing to know how to respond and communicate on a professional manner to ALL populations of people regardless of their age, nationality,education, or socioeconomic situations.

You are the captain of your own journey. How you choose to improve it (or not)... or drive it..... is entirely up to you.

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Specializes in Critical Care, Education.

I totally get OP's reaction. It's a very nice feeling to be 'top of the heap' in any type of endeavor & it just sucks all the joy out when your achievement incites negative reactions.

But there's a flip side. While it's a great thing to be on top, it is not a stable position. At some point, someone else is going to take the lead. From my perspective as a crusty old bat, I can assure you that for every contest or competition, there are a lot more "losers" than winners and no one wins all the time.

Victory dances can be very satisfying, but it will come back and bite you in the behind when you're no longer on top. In some cultures, deliberately inciting envy is considered a very bad thing... that will only bring bad fortune. I believe that there is a lot of truth in this. Do yourself a favor and make a conscious decision to embrace humility, it will pay off in the long run.

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Hi,

Be the defining factor in this situation. I want you to get a mirror and recall your overall goal, or possibly write a letter to yourself and discuss why you are in this class. Reinvent your focus and enthusiasm. This is YOUR dream, don't let anyone get in your way. Keep it non-emotional. Learn to listen with your brain and not receptive with your heart. I find when people around me could possibly **** me off, I remind myself why I'm here. By being the defining factor I mean instead of being a victim, be the aggressor. All you have to do is SUCCEED.

You can do it! We all know you can.

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Are you one of those people who act all superior because you have knowledge? If so, then you may be the problem. Humility goes a long way.

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There's a lady in my class who blurts out the answers - either when the instructor asks one, or when another student asks the instructor - and we all hate her for that. And it's not because we're stupid, Jason. It's because it's downright rude, especially when another student is asking the instructor and she blurts out the answer before instructor can. And also, it's because some of those times, despite what she thinks, her "answer" is actually wrong.

I had a Professor talk about such students, and not in a nice way. He said he finally had to say " I know So and so knows it, how about someone else answer." He is the type that has no problem dealing with this issue publicly. He said the person was real nice, but just didn't "get it." that he needs total class participation, it was their class too. Even if they were wrong answers, it was still a learning experience for the WHOLE class. In one situation, he finally had to tell the student that they could only answer 1 question a class period. Answering all the questions doesn't show one is smart. It shows lack of control.

Yep, it's rude and over the top. There is a personality that goes with that trait. In one of my classes last year we had a girl who thought she knew all the answers. Like you said,she didn't. When she realized that our table was doing really well, she came and told our WHOLE table she wished she was setting there. How do we answer that? Who did she wish to kick out of the group so she could take their place? At the end of the term, she told everyone waiting to get in the class, that she didn't know anyone's names. Except those at our table. REALLY?

Not like her because she was smart? The thought never crossed my mind. Of course, I also knew a lot of the answers and passed with an A. I felt sorry for her and embarrassed when she made that comment about not knowing anyone's names. Why hurt peoples feelings for no reason?? Some things don't need to be said.

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I didn't read all of the responses but I can totally relate with your frustration. In the beginning months of school, I was sort of a "show off" I'll be the first to admit it. I love school and I love nursing and I expressed it freely. Rumors spread like wild fire in my program and people were talking negatively about me. Saying I received special treatment. I took that as them hating me them thinking I didn't work hard for my grades. I got defensive and responded just the way you are.

Then I did some self reflection and realized my ego needed to be tamed and understand their frustrations as well. They aren't stupid after afterall, they actually work just as hard as I do. When I came back down to earth, we all became pretty close and support each other. School is going so much smoother now. Good luck!

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Woah, woah. Like chill. We aren't even in the program yet! Um, I'm pretty sure I've looked in the mirror today...that doesn't even apply here. They're just mad that whenever somebody can't answer the question, I have the answer. I'm not trying to be a showoff or anything...I'm just completely confused at their hatred of me. Its like this group of drama mamas up near the back. I can hear them being stupid throughout the whole class...

and You're quite welcome pmabraham! :)

I had a similar issue in a previous class I took on my first semester of college. I always did the reading, I take really well organized and to the point notes. There were only 10 people in the class, it was a cultural sociology class. Anytime the professor would ask a question... they all sat their like a bump on a log. I'd have the answer, however. It became frustrating after a while and by mid semester my professor would ask a question and follow up with "Anyone but (her)." I didn't take offense to it. He wanted to rest of the class to become engaged. From that point on, I always gave and still give other people the chance to answer questions in class first. When they don't or can't... I happily will. I'll also happily explain it to anyone of my classmates, or help them in anyway possible to understand the material. I engage not only with my professor, but with my classmates as well. There's many times when someone will ask a question and I will raise my hand to answer it.

Sometimes, however, it's not about you. It's just the other person. There are spiteful people. They don't have to spread rumors, or call you names, or get physical with you for you to understand they dislike you. They can scoff, roll their eyes, subtly shake their head. It's in their demeanor towards you and their attitude for you. For that, you can do.. nothing. You ignore it, and move on. You smile, be polite and respectful to them, and just let it go. That type of person will only drag you down. Don't let them.

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