Anybody here ever found a GF or a future wife as a "murse" at work?

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I know this is the male "student" section, and this is not a Match.com or PlentyofFish forum.

But I would like to ask my fellow "Murses" a question.

For me, I just recently finished/graduated from my nursing program, and looking at the next step in life - getting a girlfriend and finding a future wife.

While I was studying in nursing school, I did not care much for dating. It's been almost SIX years since I was in a last relationship.

Actually, the truth is, there were some decent-looking or okay-looking female students in my nursing class cohort. It's just that I was more on the quiet/introverted side. I also had no luck, as I have found out through the 'grape vines' that either the girl already has a BF, or is already married to a guy. Shucks!

So do you guys know of any murses who found a girlfriend while working in a hospital, LT care facility, and eventually got married to that person?

I have just started my work as a nurse aid in a hospital about a month ago. So far, a lot of the younger female employees in my department are already married, or already have a BF. =(

I have already tried the bar scenes, joining a church, hanging out at other college campuses, and still have not been successful in finding a significant other.

Specializes in NICU, Trauma, Oncology.
Dating at the hash doesn't generally go well, either. My apologies if you were talking about a different group.

Bahaha. Well, to be fair we didn't meet at a hash - only at a r*ce event that happened to have a bunch of hashers at it for the post-party. We are a hashing family though :)

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I have Co workers whom met at work and now have a child together. It happens, though I don't think you have much control on your environment. My hospital has a large number of generation x nurses, given I live in a desirable city. I also see a larger proportion of single ladies actively seeking so material and my bro peers fortunately, do not endure tough dry spells. Back where I went to school however, was vastly different and I would be quite upset myself haha.

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KLS, I'm brand new so it won't let me PM. Yeah, although I've slowed down quite a bit. Started in El Paso, but now that I'm back home in Minneapolis I don't go as much since the kennel up here is so tame in comparison. If you're still in NOLA, we sent quite a few to your RDR, but I know how much of a zoo that is, so you probably didn't meet them.

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Specializes in NICU, Trauma, Oncology.
KLS, I'm brand new so it won't let me PM. Yeah, although I've slowed down quite a bit. Started in El Paso, but now that I'm back home in Minneapolis I don't go as much since the kennel up here is so tame in comparison. If you're still in NOLA, we sent quite a few to your RDR, but I know how much of a zoo that is, so you probably didn't meet them.

Weird I got your PM and responded. I'm a Nola and voodoo gal. :) on on!

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As a guy who has been nursing waaaaay too long, I can tell you my male coworkers and I HATE the term murse.

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Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
Weird I got your PM and responded. I'm a Nola and voodoo gal. :) on on!

Awesome! I love NOLA - although hubby and I don't get down there from north La enough!

Anne, RNC

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Specializes in Emergency/Cath Lab.

I met my wife while she was going to nursing school and so was I. We were in two different programs. Been together 6 years and just recently married. Don't date within your program. Just not a good idea!

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I've dated my girlfriend since the first year of my program. Going in 5 years but we live in different parts of the state. Not what the op is asking for though.

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Specializes in ER, ICU.

Don't date at work. Have you heard this before? This planet has women all over the place.

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Specializes in CCM, PHN.

You sound desperate, insecure, competitive and way too worried about what other people think about how you're "supposed" to be.

As a smart, interesting and attractive woman, I can tell you right now that those characteristics are MAJOR turn-offs. Like will attract like, and unless you get over this sense of anxiety about what you're "supposed" to be doing, you'll only attract women who are similarly desperate, insecure, competitive and vain. And you'll fail at relationship after relationship or have zero luck at all.

I suggest you re-frame the way you look at women altogether. Physical attraction is great, sure, but if you are only basing your interest in women on that to start with, that's part of your problem. A BIG PART. Women are much more about their looks. I would hope you'd find their mind, thoughts, sense of humor, compassion, value systems, and goals in life MUCH more interesting than whether or not they are "okay looking." You sound dreadfully old-fashioned and shallow. Sorry to be harsh but sometimes it is necessary.

Smart, funny, driven women like a man with quiet confidence, who isn't worried about what others think of their status in life, who takes care of himself and is well loved by others.

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Don't date at work. Have you heard this before? This planet has women all over the place.

I've seen more work relationships fail than fly at work as well. A hospital environment can be quite the cluster fudge. Op, get yourself a fanny pack and relax. Go find things to do which you enjoy like gym and fitness, out door activities, music and arts, mma or something. Happy you = confident you = meet new ladies with maybe similar interests. You can't be that boring.

You're setting yourself up to lose if you continually compare yourselves to others, though I have a feeling op won't be back.

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My brother meet his wife in nursing school and they work in the same hospital its actually kind of cool. Different floors but same shifts they can kind of stop and see each other sometimes at work. With that being said I would normally say don't **** where you eat pretty big potential for things to end up bad. I did kind of recently go through a break up with my girlfriend though. I am still in school but work 12s at a hosptial all summer. It put a strain on the relationship that people in the field I think have a hard time understanding. All that aside though def just be yourself and if something happens then something happens just make sure you don't make any girls around the work place cry. Women love to gossip and talk **** though (sorry I know its not true for all women but in my experience men do this much less) so be careful. I found it really difficult knowing my girldfreind at the time was going to have a hard time getting a job after she graduated I just felt a whole storm of problems coming down the road. Nursing is a good stable profession and I found the insecurity of other peoples future financial prospects where a source of stress for me I know it sounds terrible to say, but Im not rich and I still live at home I would like to start my life one day and have a nice place in a good neighborhood to raise a kids one day maybe idk. My broters wife was 31 when they got married btw and he was 27 when he graduated. Life isnt a race and they both def had their share of fun before they both stated working but all of a sudden it all happened very quickly I think when you get older you know faster what your looking for. They got married in like a year I think so don't get discouraged.

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