Am sadly just putting this out there - Overwhelming Covid-19 Death Statistics

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Am sadly just putting this out there -

There have been more deaths due to covid 19 here in New Jersey than the combined death toll of the sunken Titanic and all the NJ victims of Sept 11th.

Thought about this as the anniversary of the sinking of Titanic just passed.

Keep safe.

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1 minute ago, Kitiger said:

You have a wise son. :yes:

Yes indeed. Luckily, they have been able to get grocery delivery. And he has a LOT of patience with his kids.

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When will this nightmare end......

Amen!

May you and your family be safe, @tnbutterfly - Mary

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22 hours ago, sirI said:

100% agree w/you, @Nurse SMS.

As this lingers, self-centered frustration sets in. I feel very selfish when I think of future plans ruined. Irritated with friends and family for no valid reason that I can reasonably accept. Stupid crying.

I am so sorry for feeling this way.

Yes, I feel this way too. You have expressed it well. Thank you. This too shall pass for us.

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29 minutes ago, FolksBtrippin said:

Yes, I feel this way too. You have expressed it well. Thank you. This too shall pass for us.

Agree, @FolksBtrippin?

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19 hours ago, Kitiger said:

I do, too. I scold that person (on the TV)! They just refuse to consider that social distancing saves lives!

My husband just shakes his head.

Yeah, I know they can't hear me, but I just gotta say it!

Some days there's quite a bit of cane shaking and shouting when the news is on in my cabin...and I don't have cable...LOL

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I am enjoying this thread more than any thread I have read in quite a while, so thank you, all of you, for your transparency with your struggles.

I am super sad today and trying not to be. We had a wonderful trip planned to the Azores Islands - Sao Miguel, to be specific. We were to leave today. We had a marvelous AirBNB at the base of a mountain right up against the sea. The pictures have been taking my breath away for the better part of a year. We were going to go whale watching and spend time off the grid in the mountains and by the ocean. We have lost big money on this - the airlines, SATA, are refusing to issue refunds. The law says they have to, but they are just about bankrupt.

Just found at work they are going to start requiring us to take a day of PTO every pay period in my department. This is supposedly to "make things equitable" since a lot of clinical staff is chewing through their PTO from the low census numbers on the surgical units. I was a business major and from an accounting perspective one doesn't impact the other, so it makes no sense and makes it far less likely I will be able to plan another trip, depending on how long this goes on. Frittering that carefully banked time away just kills me. I'd rather donate it to the other staff than just waste it like that.

I did make myself not get on social media or the news when I got home last night and took a mile walk in my neighborhood. It helped. A lot. I suggested to my elderly mother that we meet this Sunday in her back yard and I will bring a bottle of wine and we'll sit in the open air more than six feet apart and just chat. She quickly wound up and wanted to invite other family members and tried to turn it into a party. I literally cried with dismay. She doesn't get it. My family is not checking in with me regularly and its like being in the trenches of a war with very few letters from home. My stress is through the roof, my sorrow is deep.

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20 minutes ago, Nurse SMS said:

I suggested to my elderly mother that we meet this Sunday in her back yard and I will bring a bottle of wine and we'll sit in the open air more than six feet apart and just chat. She quickly wound up and wanted to invite other family members and tried to turn it into a party. I literally cried with dismay. She doesn't get it. My family is not checking in with me regularly and its like being in the trenches of a war with very few letters from home. My stress is through the roof, my sorrow is deep.

My elderly MIL and FIL live next door, and all my hubby's family lives around on the family farm. They keep inviting everyone-family and church friends-over because they are lonely. All of us keep giving a resounding NO! Me and hubs are the only ones working, and in laws think that because we are "going out" we should be coming to visit. They don't understand that we may have been exposed, or be exposed, at any time. There are no words to explain it to them. My MIL has even gone knocking on the relatives doors, only to be turned away. She calls everyone stating that she thinks we're all mad at them. I feel for her and FIL, but I sure don't want to kill them! This part is painful, because I know that they aren't the only ones (elderly) who are hurting from the isolation

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9 minutes ago, Nurse SMS said:

I am enjoying this thread more than any thread I have read in quite a while, so thank you, all of you, for your transparency with your struggles.

I am super sad today and trying not to be. We had a wonderful trip planned to the Azores Islands - Sao Miguel, to be specific. We had a marvelous AirBNB at the base of a mountain right up against the sea. The pictures have been taking my breath away for the better part of a year. We were going to go whale watching and spend time off the grid in the mountains and by the ocean. We have lost big money on this - the airlines, SATA, are refusing to issue refunds. The law says they have to, but they are just about bankrupt.

Just found at work they are going to start requiring us to take a day of PTO every pay period in my department. This is supposedly to "make things equitable" since a lot of clinical staff is chewing through their PTO from the low census numbers on the surgical units. I was a business major and from an accounting perspective one doesn't impact the other, so it makes no sense and makes it far less likely I will be able to plan another trip, depending on how long this goes on. Frittering that carefully banked time away just kills me. I'd rather donate it to the other staff than just waste it like that.

I did make myself not get on social media or the news when I got home last night and took a mile walk in my neighborhood. It helped. A lot. I suggested to my elderly mother that we meet this Sunday in her back yard and I will bring a bottle of wine and we'll sit in the open air more than six feet apart and just chat. She quickly wound up and wanted to invite other family members and tried to turn it into a party. I literally cried with dismay. She doesn't get it. My family is not checking in with me regularly and its like being in the trenches of a war with very few letters from home. My stress is through the roof, my sorrow is deep.

Agree, just knowing we all are feeling much the same way helps a lot. And, we have a safe place to voice our frustrations, fears, true feelings ...

To compound my frustration, I have been w/o electricity since 4/12 after destructive storms. I feel kinda numb right now.

My heart goes out to you, @Nurse SMS. Your frustration, anxiety, heartbreak .... very palpable. ?

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4 minutes ago, Hoosier_RN said:

My elderly MIL and FIL live next door, and all my hubby's family lives around on the family farm. They keep inviting everyone-family and church friends-over because they are lonely. All of us keep giving a resounding NO! Me and hubs are the only ones working, and in laws think that because we are "going out" we should be coming to visit. They don't understand that we may have been exposed, or be exposed, at any time. There are no words to explain it to them. My MIL has even gone knocking on the relatives doors, only to be turned away. She calls everyone stating that she thinks we're all mad at them. I feel for her and FIL, but I sure don't want to kill them! This part is painful, because I know that they aren't the only ones who are hurting from the isolation

That is so sad, @Hoosier_RN. I feel for YOU.?

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7 minutes ago, Hoosier_RN said:

My elderly MIL and FIL live next door, and all my hubby's family lives around on the family farm. They keep inviting everyone-family and church friends-over because they are lonely. All of us keep giving a resounding NO! Me and hubs are the only ones working, and in laws think that because we are "going out" we should be coming to visit. They don't understand that we may have been exposed, or be exposed, at any time. There are no words to explain it to them. My MIL has even gone knocking on the relatives doors, only to be turned away. She calls everyone stating that she thinks we're all mad at them. I feel for her and FIL, but I sure don't want to kill them! This part is painful, because I know that they aren't the only ones who are hurting from the isolation

My Mom is trying, but my brother (in his 40s) just got engaged. Mom is super in love with her new eventual DIL and is bending over backward to foster a close relationship with her. She thought my brother would never get married, so she wants to be with her new DIL as much as possible. New DIL is super bouncy, energetic, social...she's a wonderful lady, very intelligent and extremely lonely since the lock down. All those poor extroverts out there are truly suffering. But I don't know her and I just wanted to have time alone with my mom. Then I feel peevish and selfish.

Its hard when we can't make them understand. I think some of the reaction of "is everyone mad at us? Doesn't anyone love us anymore?" is somewhat natural, somewhat part of a culture that tends to use passive aggressive parental guilt to get what they want/need from offspring and family. It isn't unlike trying to make children understand, knowing you can't, having to do what is right and living with the pain of hurting them.

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On 4/22/2020 at 10:40 AM, Hoosier_RN said:

My elderly MIL and FIL live next door, and all my hubby's family lives around on the family farm. They keep inviting everyone-family and church friends-over because they are lonely. All of us keep giving a resounding NO!.....They don't understand that we may have been exposed, or be exposed, at any time. There are no words to explain it to them. My MIL has even gone knocking on the relatives doors, only to be turned away....I feel for her and FIL, but I sure don't want to kill them! 

Good Lord, if she's still socializing with groups of friends and church members and knocking on neighbors doors , I might worry more about her infecting YOU.

Maybe a little lapdog would help her be less lonely?

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7 hours ago, sirI said:

To compound my frustration, I have been w/o electricity since 4/12 after destructive storms. I feel kinda numb right now.

Goodness! And I thought my grandparents had it bad when they routinely waited 5 days for power to be restored after storms.

7 hours ago, Hoosier_RN said:

My elderly MIL and FIL live next door, and all my hubby's family lives around on the family farm. They keep inviting everyone-family and church friends-over because they are lonely. All of us keep giving a resounding NO! Me and hubs are the only ones working, and in laws think that because we are "going out" we should be coming to visit. They don't understand that we may have been exposed, or be exposed, at any time. There are no words to explain it to them. My MIL has even gone knocking on the relatives doors, only to be turned away. She calls everyone stating that she thinks we're all mad at them. I feel for her and FIL, but I sure don't want to kill them! This part is painful, because I know that they aren't the only ones (elderly) who are hurting from the isolation

Can they do any kind of technology get togethers? My family has been doing Zoom conferences on the weekends to stay in touch since we can't get together in person. I know my dad is struggling- he's still adjusting to widowed life and I know he's hitting the grocery store more than he should.

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