All my friends are RNs

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I've noticed that I really don't have any close, non-nurse friends. All my friends are RNs.

Over the years, here and there, I've befriended fellow nurses in various units.

I'm not opposed to being friends with non nurses, but that's the way it's gone. All my friends are nurses.

Specializes in Acute Care Pediatrics.

My closest friends are nurses - I attribute it to the fact that 1) you are forced to work closely together, and rely on one another 2) you work whole days with them ;)

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Specializes in UR/PA, Hematology/Oncology, Med Surg, Psych.

My friends are generally related to healthcare in some capacity. Don't socialize much anymore out of work and I wouldn't say I was super close with anyone that is not family/extended family. I've gotten more introverted as I've gotten older and have been burned by close friends a couple of times over the years to truly open up to non-family.

Most people think I'm very extroverted, but that only shows how most people don't really look too closely at others I guess.

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I NEED some chef friends YUMMY![/quote']

My daughter is training to be a chef!

I've always wanted friends who are tattoo artists.

My daughter's fiancé is a tattoo artist!

:yes:

My best friend is a teacher.

The next best friend works in the wine business.

I have some close friends who are nurses and physicians.

But I like to have friends from all walks of life.

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Specializes in UR/PA, Hematology/Oncology, Med Surg, Psych.
My daughter is training to be a chef!

My daughter's fiancé is a tattoo artist!

:yes:

My best friend is a teacher.

The next best friend works in the wine business.

I have some close friends who are nurses and physicians.

But I like to have friends from all walks of life.

You have it all; creativity, food, wine....JEALOUS

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Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.

I'm a reclusive loner. And I like it that way. I spend my time at work having to socialize, so my me time is my time to recharge, unwind, and have some peace and quiet. I do hang out with my family, a select few friends from high school on a rare occasion, and the coworkers once or twice every few months when we have a happy hour or Christmas get-together.

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I'm a reclusive loner. And I like it that way. .

Oh me too. I call myself a hermit.

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I'm not a hermit. I'm pretty social. I'm lucky in that my RL GFs are the best.

We all work and are all busy, so we don't see each other as much. I see my one friend that I walk/run with about 4x a week, the rest are hit and miss. I also keep in touch with my old work friends and see them.

This Friday I'm going into The City to meet one of my friends from the LOTR board. We are having dinner with some of her friends. I can't wait. I haven't seen her in 5 years.

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I can't imagine having no friends. But if something ever happened to DH, I could see how that could happen because I tend to be a homebody and can be perfectly content being alone. But DH has so many truly good friends. He was president of his fraternity and remains VERY close to many of his frat brothers, he has made many friends through his career, he has friends from some alum advisory councils he is on, and has made some very close friends in a charity organization for men in business. Friendships take nurturing, and he makes time to do this. It's actually pretty incredible. Since he is so social, we get together with these people on a regular basis, and I count these people and their wives as very close friends. Some of us are practically like family. And my two close high school friends are the type that we can not see each other for a while (live far away from each other), but take up right where we left off when we do get together.

I guess what I'm saying is though I get the impulse to be a hermit, I'm glad my husband keeps me connected to other people because I believe this is one of the most precious things in life. Having friends gets you out of yourself-you have to listen to others, and give of yourself to others when THEY need support. A true friend knows your faults all too well and still likes you. That's a really wonderful thing.

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Specializes in Critical Care, Med-Surg, Psych, Geri, LTC, Tele,.

As of now, and the last few yrs, most of my closest friends are nurses. Either those I went to school with or ones I work with.

In many ways, for me, only nurses get nurses.

I often joke that I only like hanging out with nurses. We work hard to party hard. (Just my experience)

My guy friends that I can relate to tend to be hard working people in jobs that can relate to nursing regarding stress, strange hours and the need to work hard to keep the job. (Construction, security, etc)

I have maybe 2 few friends who I've known since before I became a nurse that I'm still close to.

But I must say that both work in related positions outside of direct medical care.

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I can't imagine having no friends. But if something ever happened to DH, I could see how that could happen because I tend to be a homebody and can be perfectly content being alone. But DH has so many truly good friends. He was president of his fraternity and remains VERY close to many of his frat brothers, he has made many friends through his career, he has friends from some alum advisory councils he is on, and has made some very close friends in a charity organization for men in business. Friendships take nurturing, and he makes time to do this. It's actually pretty incredible. Since he is so social, we get together with these people on a regular basis, and I count these people and their wives as very close friends. Some of us are practically like family. And my two close high school friends are the type that we can not see each other for a while (live far away from each other), but take up right where we left off when we do get together.

I guess what I'm saying is though I get the impulse to be a hermit, I'm glad my husband keeps me connected to other people because I believe this is one of the most precious things in life. Having friends gets you out of yourself-you have to listen to others, and give of yourself to others when THEY need support. A true friend knows your faults all too well and still likes you. That's a really wonderful thing.

I love this. This is how I feel about my girls in the neighborhood. They know I am boisterous and loud, but also open hearted, so they love me.

Glad you are so happy with your DH. I would probably be alone if my marriage was kaput. Despite my flirting with everyone I really don't have the energy to break in another love thang.

My son just got in to a frat and I am apprehensive. You think it's a good thing ?

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My son just got in to a frat and I am apprehensive. You think it's a good thing ?

Well, frats certainly have their cons. For now, I would really have some serious talks about the drinking culture. It can be fatal. Hazing is still rampant and binge drinking can have devastating consequences.

That said, my husband's fraternity friends are very very close. I know I could call on any one of them and they would drop what they are doing to help me if I needed it because they love him. One night DH and I got into a bottle of wine and got silly. He called one of his pledge brothers at midnight on a WORK night just to mess with him. He said "Joe, man, I'm sorry but I got arrested. Can you come bail me out?"

His friend didn't ask what he did, he didn't ream him out for calling so late, he didn't tell him to solve his own problem. He simply sighed heavily and said, "How much ya need, bud?" OMG my DH felt so bad for doing that to him, but at the same time, he felt so good. How much do you need, bud? That is really so great.

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Specializes in ER.

I have a question for you all. Today I got together with an old work mate. I basically have seen her maybe 4 or 5 times socially in the past 15 years. We were workplace allies 14 years ago, and semi kept in touch.

I really didn't have a good time. She's a reclusive person and very negative about nursing. She tells the same, boring stories about how she was done wrong by coworkers. She doesn't seem to enjoy other people at all.

She mentioned to me today that I am her only friend. I had no idea, and felt very uncomfortable, since I only have barely socialized with her. She's so serious, boring, and awkward I felt like I had wasted a day off.

She was able to quit nursing, she's 61 and her husband and her are frugal. Her kids are grown and he's still working.

I feel as if this gal has retreated into an almost unhealthy social isolation. I discussed it with a close friend who knew this gal from work, and we think she should be my charity friend. Everyone needs one friend. Maybe I can get her to laugh.

Today we biked up a trail 3 miles through the countryside to an antique mall. My girlfriends and I love to thriftshop and antique. Somehow, this gal seemed unnerving in her disengagement from the world, it was unsettling.

Does anyone have a charity friend? Someone you socialize with for their benefit?

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