Absolutely FURIOUS!!!!

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Hey, guys, I need some serious calming down.

A lot of y'all remember the thread "All is not well in the kingdom", where I talked about the horrible job and subsequent termination I had had.

I had a very promising interview Tuesday, and gave the name and home phone number of an NP that I had worked with at that clinic as a reference. The reference called me last night.

Apparently, when my potential new boss called, NP was in a room. A med tech intercepted the call, told the lady that all I did was get on people's nerves. She then told her that she did not need to speak to NP, to call the OM at the oher clinic, and hung up on her.

Well, NP DID speak to my potential new boss, and said that she was asking about me getting on people's nerves! She said that she told my PNB (potential new boss) that I did NOT, and gave me a good reference.

I am so steamed about this, I mean, this could cost me the job! I called OM and demanded that I get both an apology and a recantation, either by phone or by mail. I told her I was considering a lawsuit for slander, and should this impede my new job, I WOULD be seeing my lawyer. She agreed that the tech had no business doing what she did. She said she would handle it, and get back with me.

What do y'all think? Was I overreacting? What would you do? Thanks.

Angelfire I totally can understand why u r furious. I would be to. The medtech should be fired. and you should definately pursue slander.

OMG! OP, you did NOT overreact at all! I too would be furious! I was in a VERY similar instance a while back (over a bs job) and spoke with a lawyer. The advice the lawyer gave me was to file suit if you don't get the new job.. if you get it, then don't worry about the previous job's bs.

I'll be wishing you well for getting the job!

Specializes in Med/Surg, Acute Rehab.

Angel, the poster named Batman took the words right out of my mouth. I totally agree with him! Since it is PRN, (how many days a week?), you could probably deal with it while you look for another job. It was stupid and unprofessional for the PNB to even mention twhat the other refs said. Asking you if you are willing to change, as if you are a child, is not a great way of dealing with a new employee. She should wait and make up her own mind. Obviously, she already has some preconceived notions and there is nothing you can do about that. Just do your best, knowing that it will be a temporary situation for you and look real hard for something else.

Good luck and be Strong! :pumpiron:

Specializes in med-surg, psych, ER, school nurse-CRNP.

Thanks again, guys. I still have not heard what the clinic is going to do to that tech. I mean, I trust the NP a WHOLE lot more than I trust PNB ( maybe I should just call her NB now?) , but I was hoping not to drag her into this. She's ready to quit anyway, though, and all that crazy doc'll have to do is look at her cross-eyed and she's gone. That's a comfort, that if they razz her about telling me what was said, she's good to go.

The consensus is right, I got the job, so I can't sue for damages. I'd just about have to have had the tech's convo tape-recorded to prove anything. There's days I hate the legal system. I really don't want a suit, but it would be nice to know that I would not be "guilty until proven innocent" if I did. I can not prove that NB is lying, even though 3 references say she is. I think that falls under hearsay. I just finally told her, "You know, if I AM irritating people, then we need to pinpoint exactly WHAT I'm doing, because NO ONE can tell me." I guess upper management has not acknowledged is that a)you're not going to please everyone, b) some folks just LIKE to complain, and c) some folks are just going o take one look at you and decide they don't like you, no reason needed. I know, because I have been there. Several times. Maybe they did not like my aura or something, who knows. Point is, y'all can all relate.

Thanks again all, I'm off to get myself a nice pizza for lunch. Ahhh, fat and calories!

Specializes in ortho, hospice volunteer, psych,.
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"sorry, can't come to the job interview tomorrow, i'm suing the last place that fired me."

i love it!! that made me laugh because some wingnut who got herself fired yesterday (who knows why) from her cna job called my husband this morning at 7:30 (saturday morning) to ask him for a reference for a job... she was in his english lit class twenty or so years ago! guess what he said?! aarruugghhh! end of hijack.

sharpeimom:paw::paw:

Specializes in med-surg, psych, ER, school nurse-CRNP.

Well, I've done it now. I've gone and offended the Golden Child. I was informed of this fact by my mother tonight, who was informed by Golden Child's mother, who is my aunt. Apparently, Christine, who was a reference (there was no stipulation about no family members, and she has knowledge of my work habits) has taken offense to my calling a lawyer. Never mind that I only called for advice, never mind that, since I have the job, there will be no case, I've ruffled the golden feathers.

Seems that GC is afraid that "it could hurt us both" and the she did not contact me herself (we spoke twice yesterday, BTW, and nothing was said about this) because "she's trying to spare my feelings. Bull pippy. Last I checked, we were both adults, and when she has ticked me off in the past, I at least had enough of a spine to tell her to her face (or ear, as the case was). But, no, no, she's concerned and upset, so, by family decree, I need to "back off" of the attorney, when I never planned to call him back anyway. All I wanted to know in the first place was whather or not what I thought was going on WAS going on.

I swear, anymore, I can do no right. The whole county knows how crazy Doc is, even up into the neighboring state, yet, according to Mom, it's my fault I was fired. If I'll just do like she says and bend over and take it and not defend myself and "just smile and nod" when someones taking a strip outta my hide, I won't have these problems. First time I have been fired, and I have a "problem". When I countered with "Well, I tried it your way and I STILL got fired", she said " You know that's not what happened."

Of course, this is the same woman who, not 6 months ago, said that she would rather see me die than GC, because I "did not have small children". And GC is the one who yelled at me and said she hoped I never did anything with children last Thanksgiving, after I asked my DF to help me teach the kids a card game, as they were having a difficult time. He taught me, I figured it was a legit request, but apparently the fact that I said "I don't think I'm explaining it very well" was hurtful and "You just don't say that around kids." Said kids were oblivious, they wanted to text on their new cell phones anyway, and not one looked hurt.

Then the comments made by GC about my career, "You know nurses don't take orders from Np's. How would that hold up in court? Anyone who follows what you say is just setting themselves up."

Had I said that, Oh, Lord, it would have been on then. But, no, GC said it to me, and I'm supposed to just "let it go".

Same thing now, "just let it go". I am so sick of people coming down on me and then telling me to "let it go". I swear, if the world ended tomorrow, it'd be something I did that caused it.

And all Mom says is, "You can either take this the way I'm giving it to you, or you can take it they way you're taking it, and you'll keep having problems." In other words, "Let the whole family crap on you and smile about it, Christine would".

I've been held up against her for 28 years, I've never measured up, and I don't think I would if I made Surgeon General. I'd probably wear the wrong dress to my swearing-in.

I'm about ready to tell my mother that since she likes Christine and Christine is so perfect, she can go be HER mother. And to Christine, well, she should have said that she did not want to be my reference, I never would have used her, I only did because she said I could. I'll never ask her for another thing again, though, and she can lay to that.

I may well be being melodramatic now, but I can guarantee you that if I started in on them like they all do me, it'd be all-out war. Especially if I said anything to or about Christine. That's off-bounds.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far. I would not be surprised if the mods kicked me off for excess ranting. :D I appreciate y'all, y'all just do not know how much.

Go to bed and get some rest. And put your family on the back burner. It sounds as if you are going to need all your wits and energy about you to deal with your new employer.

Specializes in med-surg, psych, ER, school nurse-CRNP.
Go to bed and get some rest. And put your family on the back burner. It sounds as if you are going to need all your wits and energy about you to deal with your new employer.

I have a feeling you're right. Point taken. Bed for me.

Get some sleep. And I mean this in the nicest way but have you thought of limiting your interactions with your family?! I hate to say that but I just don't think they are good for your self esteem and healthy for you to be around.

Tell them only what they need to know and they don't need to know about the lawyer because they aren't supportive of you and it doesn't involve them. It's your choice to defend and protect yourself not theirs. It seems they look for trouble and trust me...you can't win with people like that. You deserve better. Hugs.

I know your mad at your momma but it seems she raised you right if you have that good a head on your shoulders... I'm just tryin to give ya ONE thing to thank her for. I think every thing happens for a reason and in my opinion ( from your posts ) you've been handling this pretty well. Maybe this was all to open your eyes to those wolves in sheeps clothing... Good luck with it all... Honestly. :icon_hug: You just need a hug!

Hi sorry I am not from the US can you explain what a medical tech is? Thanks. :yawn:

Speaking from an upper level position in H.R. Administration and depending on the state you live you have a legal case against your previous employer. However, each state has there own laws, Texas is an employment at will state and this also includes the protection of the employee to only have dates of employment and last title disclosed. Some of the employers will not even release the information without a signed consent.

If a employer discloses more then this and it includes present employees, they can have litigation brought against the employee and employer. You do need to decide if this is going to be your course of action now not if you get the job or not. You can not threaten litigation and expect action. Threats do not work with employers and you are labled a talker and not action. GOOD LUCK!

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