Absolutely FURIOUS!!!!

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Hey, guys, I need some serious calming down.

A lot of y'all remember the thread "All is not well in the kingdom", where I talked about the horrible job and subsequent termination I had had.

I had a very promising interview Tuesday, and gave the name and home phone number of an NP that I had worked with at that clinic as a reference. The reference called me last night.

Apparently, when my potential new boss called, NP was in a room. A med tech intercepted the call, told the lady that all I did was get on people's nerves. She then told her that she did not need to speak to NP, to call the OM at the oher clinic, and hung up on her.

Well, NP DID speak to my potential new boss, and said that she was asking about me getting on people's nerves! She said that she told my PNB (potential new boss) that I did NOT, and gave me a good reference.

I am so steamed about this, I mean, this could cost me the job! I called OM and demanded that I get both an apology and a recantation, either by phone or by mail. I told her I was considering a lawsuit for slander, and should this impede my new job, I WOULD be seeing my lawyer. She agreed that the tech had no business doing what she did. She said she would handle it, and get back with me.

What do y'all think? Was I overreacting? What would you do? Thanks.

Specializes in LTC, hospitals and correctional settings.
Get some sleep. And I mean this in the nicest way but have you thought of limiting your interactions with your family?! I hate to say that but I just don't think they are good for your self esteem and healthy for you to be around.

Tell them only what they need to know and they don't need to know about the lawyer because they aren't supportive of you and it doesn't involve them. It's your choice to defend and protect yourself not theirs. It seems they look for trouble and trust me...you can't win with people like that. You deserve better. Hugs.

Your family sounds toxic and you need to limit your contact with toxins. Hope you can, I know it's hard, but it's really worth it.

Specializes in LTC, hospitals and correctional settings.
Ok, again I believe this has been asked and answered though some of the answers were not in your or anyone elses best interest. So, may I sugget this get closed out. We have some very real issues in nursing and health care that impact everyone and the entire system. I think it is time to turn to more important issues.

I agree this has been resolved lets move on , congrats on the job!!!!!

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Specializes in Critical Care, Case Mgt, Home health.

Hi, I have read thru the entire post and can certainly sympathize with you. What no one mentioned is that the world of nursing is really very small, and even smaller once you get to an advanced degree such as NP. Your reputation is on the line and having something like this happen to you can follow you for the rest of your life should you have to seek employment elsewhere.

As an RN for 25 years, I have found that my reputation is my most valued asset and needs to be protected at all costs.

I cannot tell you what to do. This is just something to think about.

BTW, Congrats on the new job. Good luck.

Angel

So glad things are finally turning the corner for you! Be sure you take a little time to settle, and focus on your new digs.

It would be awful if you were too exhausted from this long ordeal to really show how good you are to your new boss. He'll want you to hit the ground running and will have no interest in all you've been through up to this point. He thinks he's just put money on a racehorse and he'll want you to win the race for him.

Yea, hang your old place out to dry. But there is no rush, just take it easy for now. :nmbrn:

Specializes in MICU, ER, SICU, Home Health, Corrections.

Hey, guys, I need some serious calming down....

....and the termination.....

What do y'all think? Was I overreacting? What would you do? Thanks.

You sound very young, and very upset for sure.

Didn't catch the prequel to this story, but termination for whatever reason means you should just

chalk it up as a learning experience on whatever level it is, and consider it over/done.

Simply explain it as a bad situation that couldn't be reconciled and you ended up being forced to leave,

or however you wish to present it.

Speaking ill of a previous employer is both unprofessional and unwise. [some might consider it slander, you know.]

Next, You're only overreacting if this is still an issue a week later...

And finally, What would I do? Forget it and move on.

Spending time playing Ironside/Matlock/Cmdr. Rabb/Jonnie Cochran [or whomever] is wasted time, unless you have several thousand dollars lying idle, that would pay to collect an apology and the fifty dollars in lost wages for the that extra day you *may have* lost between not getting the 'possible new job' and taking that 'cardiologist job'.

Anyway, before this goes supernova, here's the beef:

It was my sister's birthday yesterday. I've not had a day with her since Sept. 2000 [she was 35]

Funny thing, in Aug. 2000 she told me a similar story and we had such a good laugh about

her "med tech" nemesis and how funny she thought it was that this person spent so much time and effort "doing" nothing but "nothing", all for her. She felt kind kind of sorry that her "med tech" was so alone as to have nothing better to do.

But it's all in how you look at things; some people 'get' cancer and others are given the gift of cancer.

Every day you are angry over this med tech is another day this med tech has control over you.

You choose what to do with your day. Give it to them, or keep it for yourself.

Personally, I've become kinda selfish about my days.

Congrats on the new job.

rb

Lesson to be learned here.

Never give a references work number for a call unless they have a dedicated line.

Always give a home or Cell number so that the caller may leave a message and the reference may call back when she/he can speak privately.

As a nurse manager I have called reference and the person answering the phone could be any one.

I like to have a number to call that I can hear a voice mail with ID or have some type of comfort level that the person I am speaking with is the correct person for the reference.

Imagine if the tech had said she was the NP?

Specializes in med-surg, psych, ER, school nurse-CRNP.
Lesson to be learned here.

Never give a references work number for a call unless they have a dedicated line.

Always give a home or Cell number so that the caller may leave a message and the reference may call back when she/he can speak privately.

As a nurse manager I have called reference and the person answering the phone could be any one.

I like to have a number to call that I can hear a voice mail with ID or have some type of comfort level that the person I am speaking with is the correct person for the reference.

Imagine if the tech had said she was the NP?

Well, the only number I gave for this NP WAS her home number. I have no clue how the PNB got the clinic number. Anyway, on we go.....

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