A Dear Abbey letter. What is your take?

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I would like to hear your opinions regarding this situation from a letter taken from Dear Abbey. Do you agree with Abbey? Or should the nurse have done something differently?

DEAR ABBY: While sitting with my husband in the hospital following his surgery, a nurse entered his room. We all chatted while she took his pulse, etc., when -- without warning -- she removed his covers to check the surgery site and totally exposed his genitals.

I was shocked and embarrassed, and have trouble ridding myself of the image of my naked husband lying there in front of another woman. I wish the nurse had given me the chance to leave the room.

Is there something wrong with me for having so much trouble with this? What can I do to avoid this in the future? -- RED-FACED IN EUGENE, ORE.

DEAR RED-FACED: On a scale of 10, I'd say you are probably an 8 on the "uptight" scale. You seem to have forgotten that the woman in the room with you was not a lap dancer, but a health-care professional performing her duties. Your husband was her patient, and in her eyes, was probably as sexless as a CPR dummy. To avoid embarrassment in the future, leave the room when the nurse enters

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wow... time for a thread close ....

I hate, hate, hate, and hate when mods do that, but this is one time I might not.

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I hate, hate, hate, and hate when mods do that, but this is one time I might not.

I would, but that's just because I wish to use it as a platform on which to make trouble...:rotfl:

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I hate, hate, hate, and hate when mods do that, but this is one time I might not.

It won't be necessary as long as we stick to the topic and do not give in to personal attacks. Some posts just aren't worth responding to.

The issue has and has always been whether we agree with DA or we think the nurse should have done something different? Lets continue...

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That kind of stuff is usually on our cardex/handwritten report, but not necessarily on the chart. So perhaps the information isn't getting to everyone on the health care team.

How do you note it on the chart where you work? To where eveyone see it?

Of course with our high ratios, I'm lucky to see a chart.

Well the last place I worked we used these computerized notes which took the place of the Kardex-thank goodness I hate that thing. So it was put under treatments or special precautions which printed out on everyone's report sheet automatically. And then there's the tried and true method of hospitals everywhere......writing it on an index card and taping it on the front of the chart! :)

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Tick-tock, tick-tock, tick-tock................

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Well the last place I worked we used these computerized notes which took the place of the Kardex-thank goodness I hate that thing. So it was put under treatments or special precautions which printed out on everyone's report sheet automatically. And then there's the tried and true method of hospitals everywhere......writing it on an index card and taping it on the front of the chart! :)

At our facility which uses computer charting, a special cultural needs section is filled out upon admission consisting of religious preference or lack there of, food preferences, etc. We also have an online resource where you can access information on just about any culture that exists. I have found it most helpful in dealing with diversity.

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:deadhorse I'm calling the SPCA!

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I don't know... it must be getting referrals or something, I can't think of when I've noticed so many users viewing a thread!

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I don't know... it must be getting referrals or something, I can't think of when I've noticed so many users viewing a thread!

we provide wonderful entertainment...it's like watching a bar fight LOL :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: you can't believe what your....reading haha

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no kidding! YA WANT A PIECE OF ME! (said like mr. costanza from seinfeld) lol

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Specializes in ORTHOPAEDICS-CERTIFIED SINCE 89.

The one on one has to stop. Use the IGNORE feature and the report.gif feature to report inappropriate behaviour. The moderators don't like to close threads. It deprives the forums of some of the most intelligent answers from the greatest people on the earth-Nurses.

According to the TOS personal attacks are not allowed. Therefore they will be removed. Remember IGNORE button-it makes it a lot quieter for you and saves your blood pressure.

Thanks.

Oh and it's open again. Remember Debate the topic only. Let the mode do the other work...please?

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