Hello - It's Anne again. Have a question and was hoping to get ideas, ect. from other allnurses parents/step-parents.
My dh and I have been married a little over 3 years and he has 2 boys from a prev. marriage. The ''problem child'' is 15 yrs. Even though dh and his ex were already divorced when we started dating, problem child states that it is my fault that the divorce occurred, which is NOT TRUE!! We had a strictly professional relationship (he's an RNC also) for 15 yrs. We worked at the same facility.
Up to this point, prob. child has only been verbal towards me, words that make my hair curl. The first time was ''youre not my mom, youre just the ____ that_____ my dad!" These outbursts have escalated and we have had him in counseling, had him pee in a cup, therapists thru school, the private sector, and on and on. (UDS was always negative)
He has been in trouble in school and will be expelled if he is suspended again. He has been in trouble for egging trailers. (And I'm not innocent, I did that when I was his age, but did not get caught!) Mom has been an instigating factor in this, I know. Now he says "He__ no I am not going to counseling again." Dad does disipline him when he screws up.
A week ago, he let loose with his usual filthy mouth regarding me, and his dad heard him. So then prob.child scratched me on my wrist and grabbed my deltiod so hard, I had bruises in the form of fingers. I do keep a record of everything and also took pictures of the injuries.
Would parenting classes help any in this type of situation? He is still adamant that he won't go see anyone, but I am more than willing to do anything to help the situation. Any ideas? Moderators PLEASE don't pull this - I just needed to vent and ask for ideas.
Anne, RNC:deadhorse