Obese children...my rant - page 2

by Gently.me

Ok so child comes in with laceration to the hand. 12 years old, about 5'5'' and weighs 260lbs. Big boy. The MD who was suturing was not his PCP, just there to take care of the urgent task. As she wassuturing, the child keeps... Read More


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    Quote from TheCommuter
    It is so sad that his life expectancy will be cut short due to the lack of foresight on the part of the adults in his life.
    sad? i truly believe it's devastating, with many being totally selfish, and others being ignorant.
    your story is the protype for all the adults in a child/children's life.
    if they have health insurance, perhaps mandated classes about living healthy.
    it could include (but not ltd to) guidelines to healthy eating, tips, recipes, resources...all inclusive info.

    i'm desperate here, but it's important/critical we discuss these issues (esp w/children).
    i really don't want another thread shut down, because some who become defensive.

    it needs to be discussed.

    leslie
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    Quote from Horseshoe
    That has always been my philosophy. I'm not a short order cook.

    I read somewhere recently that in countries where food is not so plentiful, there is no such thing as a child who is a "picky eater."
    I work with a lot of RNs who originate from Africa. If you didn't eat your food, there were plenty of people in the family who would appreciate it. These families were actually considered well-off by the standards in some of the countries, but they couldn't afford to be picky. They also do not have the problems with food disorders we have in our first world countries.
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    Quote from KatieP86
    That was my mothers rule- eat what she cooked, otherwise a bowl of cereal made a fine dinner.
    Same here! It's funny, at 24 yrs old I am actually proud of the fact that I will try any food at least once, one of my best friends won't even go into a restaurant that doesn't serve plain old steak or chicken - it drives me insane! Picky eater at the worst, and to this day if her whole family is home her mother will make 5 different meals even though every one of them is capable of cooking for themselves

    And there are still times when a bowl of cereal continues to make a fine dinner

    And it makes me absoultely cringe when I see babies drinking fruit punch or toddlers with soda in their sippy cups
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    Surcharge on health insurance for BMI greater than 25. Or maybe approach it the other way, discounted health insurance costs for staying thin, submitting to nicotine testing yearly - variables that are measurable.
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    Quote from umcRN
    And it makes me absoultely cringe when I see babies drinking fruit punch or toddlers with soda in their sippy cups
    In my old OR back in the states we used to get kids coming in for multiple dental extractions and having dental work done on baby teeth literally rotted to the gum line - and most of them were barely out of diapers, their secondary teeth not due to come in for a few years. I don't understand it. It's not just obesity, it's just general poor care overall (extending to discipline).
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    Random thought - The higher people are on the educational ladder, the more you notice a difference in lifestyle and weight.
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    I cringe when I read this - I was skinny until my Dad left and sank into a depression and have gained the weight and not lost it. I was active as a child and stopped due to depression.

    My family has been obese on both sides for generations. Children model their parent's behaviors...I dunno, I work with parents who have a lot more to answer for than just obesity, so. I'm horribly embarrassed as it is about what I look like. I know obesity sucks and all, but instead of frying the parents, education is probably the best bet...for both parent and child.

    It's actually the focus of what my PhD boss researches - childhood obesity and how to educate both the child and the parent.

    It's so easy to talk about it and it is so not easy to do it. A lot of parents struggle to handle everything at once and it's so hard to throw new things in the mix. I've tried (while I'm not a parent) several times and right now I'm working 10-25 hours a week, taking 18 credits at school, and handling a massive research project, I just am struggling focusing on everything.

    I do agree obesity in children needs to be eradicated. But I do believe it starts with education and not with condemning the parents for their behavior - because it's extremely likely that it's behaviors they have gleamed from /their/ parents. It's like domestic abuse - the destructive behaviors just cycle through generations. And trust me I see a lot of condemning of parents...most people want to throw the families I work with to leeches.
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    Just want to give a positive story- my own. I was a thin child, until we moved- when I was 8. It was summer and I had no friends and became depressed. My parents like junk food a lot, so I gained weight quickly while spending most of my time in front of the TV. By the time I was 10 I weighed 160 lbs and had triglycerides of 400. My mom took me to a nutritionist and put me on sugar free everything (but not healthy food- just artificially sweetened stuff). My triglycerides came down some and I lost a little weight. I eventually got into the somewhat overweight category (so much teasing and humiliation though). By the time I reached high school I was very involved in music and my depression lifted quite a bit. I ended up reaching an almost normal weight of 145 (I'm 5'5"). Fast Forward to a really stressful job right out of college and the depression came back, with anxiety to boot. I gained quickly- back up to 170 within 1 1/2 years. No doctor during that time gave me any resources- just a "eat less and exercise more" flippant comment when I expressed displeasure with my weight gain. Well, that's not so easy when you do not address the emotional/mental issues. Then, I had two kids, went through 2 moves and 2 layoffs, struggled with more depression, and got up to 196. I finally started dealing with the emotional side of things and lost 20 lbs....then I started learning everything I could about the healthiest way of eating and adopted that...down another 10 lbs....had more energy to go work out and continue eating healthy. I am still 20 lbs away from where I need to be, but my diet is so healthy and I really have no real health problems. So, here is the thing- please remember to address the mental and emotional part of overeating. It is real and I believe that it, combined with the atrocious junk we call food in America, is a recipe for disaster. But, people who are hurting on the inside will kill themselves slowly because it gives them temporary moments of relief. When we stop judging people, we can start having compassion and connecting with them in a way that allows us to help them through their pain.
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    My stepmothers niece is 7 and is obese. It's so sad. She doesn't even have a neck. It has nothing to do with a medical problem. Her parents feed her crap. I've seen her sit down with a bag of cheese doodles and eat the whole thing.

    It's sad. and very unhealthy. Kudos to the ER doc who told him how it is. Pediatricians need to tell the child and parents very straigtforward how unhealthy and what the risks are if their child does not lose weight.

    I watch my 4 year olds diet carefully. My pediatrician told me from the start to introduce whole grains and the such. She gets treats, Mc Donalds maybe once a week, other wise she prefers fruits over cakes, cookies and ice cream, believe or not. When she has chips, I put some in a bowl, I don't give her the bag.

    Seeing obese children upsets me.
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    Just another perspective:

    My mother took off on me after my parents' divorce. I was devastated. I had been a thin kid, and preferred veggies and fruits. (I used to finish my brother's broccoli lol). I gained weight quickly, mostly because I was so sad and depressed and food made me feel better. My mother had a drug/alcohol problem and I believe food became my addiction.

    I wish my depression had been treated when I was still a child instead of me living for years that way. I think if it had been treated as a depression/emotional problem instead of a dieting problem I wouldn't have had the long term weight problems I'm trying to eradicate. You know, sent me to a therapist and maybe had me sign up for a sports team instead of taking me to weight watchers at 12.

    Doesn't sound like that's what is happening here (at least on the surface). Just wanted to give another perspective. Thanks for caring about his weight though! And not being mean about it like some doctors can be.
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