Are married women bullied less at work? - page 7

Are women who are married less likely to be bullied than a single woman with no kids??... Read More

  1. by   psu_213
    Quote from ixchel
    Jiminy Christmas I just had to google "gas lighting" because never in my life have I heard someone use that term before.
    FWIW, I had to look it up too. I started reading about it and wondering what in the world gaslighting has to do with the thread. From what I see, gaslighting is usually used by sociopaths and the like...it does not apply when one gets a few replies on anonymous forum that he/she does not want to hear. Someone said something rude to you (the OP), you felt bad about it...that is your right. That does not change the fact the you were not bullied, even if, deep down in your heart, you believe that you were.
  2. by   klone
    Quote from EmilyEmily
    Yes, it was a repeated occurrence. I know when I'm being bullied and I don't need people telling me any different. Stop gas lighting
    *Okay, I laughed at this. I know it's serious; I couldn't help myself.

    **OP, I took a moment to look over your previous posts at this website. The overwhelming theme is that you are a victim. Things are happening to you, and are never your fault or responsibility. As long as you have that attitude in life, you will be "bullied" everywhere you go.

    *This is not gaslighting

    **Neither is this
  3. by   wooh
    Quote from EmilyEmily
    Yes, I was bullied severely in nursing school. I was too afraid to speak out against it because I feared for my safety. One was by a guy who hated that I was in the program, and he would try to push me out the way every day after class.
    Quote from EmilyEmily
    everyone seems to get great gratification out of blaming and judging me with their superiority complex. have fun. this is nothing but bullying
    Quote from EmilyEmily
    You're gas lighting. She was bullying me.
    I think no matter what your marital status, you are going to perceive yourself as being bullied.

    Your posts are overwhelmingly about being victimized. You need to take a hard look at YOU instead of whining about the world not being fair to you, people being mean to you, circumstances being out of your control.

    Wherever you go, there you'll be.
    Last edit by wooh on May 18, '14
  4. by   psu_213
    Quote from chrisrn24
    This is more what I meant.

    If my married with kids coworker tells our boss "oh I'm sorry I can't pick up Friday, I have Timmy's soccer game that night" it's understandable to them. If I say "oh sorry I just want the night off" or "I'm going to the bar" or "you know, I already have planned a marathon on netflix and lying around in sweats" nobody seems to understand. What I do with my free time is mine. I shouldn't feel the need to justify it. People at my work tend to give you flak. I wouldn't call it bullying by management but it's not exactly being nice either.
    I just say, "no, I am unable to work on that day." I am not going to elaborate more than that.
  5. by   KelRN215
    Quote from chrisrn24
    This is more what I meant.

    If my married with kids coworker tells our boss "oh I'm sorry I can't pick up Friday, I have Timmy's soccer game that night" it's understandable to them. If I say "oh sorry I just want the night off" or "I'm going to the bar" or "you know, I already have planned a marathon on netflix and lying around in sweats" nobody seems to understand. What I do with my free time is mine. I shouldn't feel the need to justify it. People at my work tend to give you flak. I wouldn't call it bullying by management but it's not exactly being nice either.
    This definitely happens but it's not bullying. And if you live close to the hospital AND are single, they definitely will act like you should be able to drop everything and be there in 15 minutes. Just don't answer the phone on your day off. Problem solved.
  6. by   EmilyEmily
    Quote from KelRN215
    You previously accused all of us of bullying you because we told you it's not an expectation that your professors spoon feed you Power Point slides and study guides. What you have described thus far on this thread is not bullying. Just because someone says something you don't like doesn't make it bullying.
    Stop deflecting. Leave the past in the past. If you want to contribute to the topic of this thread do so, but dragging up old posts that happened months ago is highly inappropriate
  7. by   EmilyEmily
    Quote from klone
    *Okay, I laughed at this. I know it's serious; I couldn't help myself.

    **OP, I took a moment to look over your previous posts at this website. The overwhelming theme is that you are a victim. Things are happening to you, and are never your fault or responsibility. As long as you have that attitude in life, you will be "bullied" everywhere you go.

    *This is not gaslighting

    **Neither is this
    I don't need your validation about my situation. I KNOW I was bullied. You were not there
  8. by   EmilyEmily
    Quote from wooh
    I think no matter what your marital status, you are going to perceive yourself as being bullied.

    Your posts are overwhelmingly about being victimized. You need to take a hard look at YOU instead of whining about the world not being fair to you, people being mean to you, circumstances being out of your control.

    Wherever you go, there you'll be.
    This approach does nothing but let the bullies off the hook. BS advice.

    "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Roosevelt


    I absolutely hate this quote. Pure BS and it lets the bullies/victimizers off the hook. This woman was born wealthy and married to a President; she lived a privileged life. she was never in a position to be inferior to anyone
  9. by   KelRN215
    Quote from EmilyEmily
    Stop deflecting. Leave the past in the past. If you want to contribute to the topic of this thread do so, but dragging up old posts that happened months ago is highly inappropriate
    Goes to pattern. You state that you "know" when you are being bullied. I simply pointed out that you accused us all of bullying you before when NO ONE was. We were just telling you a truth that you didn't want to hear. Kind of like on this thread.
  10. by   EmilyEmily
    Quote from KelRN215
    Goes to pattern. You state that you "know" when you are being bullied. I simply pointed out that you accused us all of bullying you before when NO ONE was. We were just telling you a truth that you didn't want to hear. Kind of like on this thread.
    So, the lady was right when she told me men don't date girls like me? I guess I deserved that insult amongst others
  11. by   EmilyEmily
    and yes, I am being bullied in this thread. People bringing up past posts, invalidating my experiences yep all bullying. Say what you want.
  12. by   KelRN215
    Quote from EmilyEmily
    So, the lady was right when she told me men don't date girls like me? I guess I deserved that insult amongst others
    Not one poster in this thread has said ANYTHING about what that woman said being true. We don't know you save for what you post on this forum, clearly we are not in a position to judge your dating life. If you would like to discuss dating, I believe there is a forum for that in the Break Room. That woman made an insensitive comment and evidently has no filter. That does not mean she was bullying you.
  13. by   wooh
    Quote from EmilyEmily
    This approach does nothing but let the bullies off the hook. BS advice.
    And what exactly is your approach doing for you other than allowing you to wallow in self-pity?

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