Feeling really down in the dumps and friend-less in nursing school...advice needed - pg.2 | allnurses

Feeling really down in the dumps and friend-less in nursing school...advice needed - page 2

Hi. I am 1 semester away from being done with nursing school. I am a really high achiever and get fantastic grades in both the lecture and clinical portions of my program. At the beginning of... Read More

  1. Visit  grownuprosie profile page
    Quote from classicdame
    you are in this for you, not them. You may never encounter them after nursing school. That said, you could be off-setting people in some manner and could ask a trusted friend or relative (outside the school) to give you some honest feedback about the vibes you send out. Otherwise, get your degree, get your license and be proud of your accomplishments.
    thank you. I think it is interesting that only one person suggested that maybe looking inward might be helpful. Nursing school is training pants for real life. If you cannot get along there, will you be able to get along with the exact same type of people when you graduate? Yes, you should be proud of your accomplishments. But, I just have a hard time wrapping my head around the "Everyone else is mean for no reason" idea.
    That being said, It is always a good idea to learn more social coping skills. Please don't just stick it out. Improve it. If not now, then you will be learning the hard way by losing your job over it. It is clearly not working with your current methodology, so why not try some new ones?

    Good luck with everything!
  2. Visit  Wrench Party profile page
    Sometimes I feel like I am also back in high school with my program. I am cordial with my classmates, but have my own
    social life outside the program. I honestly feel like this is a lot healthier. Congrats to you on doing so well; remember you
    are there to learn and not to win the popularity contest.

    Can you form friendships outside of school? Do you have time for a hobby? This is the best way I have found to stay sane and
    ignore all the drama/BS that ensues in school.
  3. Visit  kimfuturelpn2013 profile page

    I just wanted to say congrats for getting this far! I think we all feel like loners in the nursing programs because for some people it is a contest to see who makes the highest or does the best. I am constantly feeling as if I'm not as smart as my classmates! I have to keep telling myself that I am in this program for a reason. It isn't easy getting into the nursing classes so I must know something. As far as the others in your class go, please don't let them get to you. Some people don't like to see others succeed. You have to believe in yourself and keep your head up. It is all going to be worth it and for the ones who seem to want to cut you down, don't sweat them. In the end it will come back to them and when you are shinning like a diamond they will be wishing they didn't treat you the way they did.
    Don't get discouraged!
  4. Visit  ZenLover profile page
    I can definitely sympathize. I have had my struggles and thankfully have what appears to be the beginning of some great friendships with others that have had their struggles. Besides remembering that you probably won't speak to these people again after graduation, please also try to remember you are not alone and apparently from all these posts you are actually in very good company. The older we get the harder it is to forge real meaningful friendships, but you are reaching out and acknowledging the need...it will happen.
    Last edit by ZenLover on Nov 20, '12 : Reason: incomplete thought
  5. Visit  beingcaitlin profile page
    I just felt like I was reading a thread about myself. Although I have some close friends in class that I met there, I have a wonderfully supportive family and friends outside of nursing school. Don't dwell on what other people think of you. You aren't doing nursing school for them, ur doing it for you! Make the most of it and learn something at every opportunity. Cheers to having ONE SEMESTER LEFT! I never thought I'd be able to say I'll be a REAL nurse in 6 months. You can do it!!
  6. Visit  bmelissa profile page
    I am also doing extremely well in Nursing school. Better than I thought after hearing all the stories! I do not tell but only a select few my grades but most of my classmates know I am doing well. So far there has not been any drama and no one seems jealous. Even if they do start, I am there to learn and be the best nurse I can possibly be. Making friends is not the goal here, especially if they want to act like that. I will say that so far, I have some pretty great classmates!
  7. Visit  amygarside profile page
    These people may feel envious because of the achievement you have attained. They are not the people that you should waste your time with. I am sure you will still find worthwhile people that can be your real friends. I hope that you can find one soon so that you will not feel too sad. As long as you do good in school and you are not fighting with anyone continue your great performance.
  8. Visit  meatballgirl profile page
    Hi there:

    Guess what? I'm in the EXACT same situation as you. I'm the "loner" in my class because what's happened to you happened to me. And there is a very "mean girl" in my class who will ostracize, blackball, etc. anyone who tries to be nice to me. I brought a cake into pot luck tonight and no one ate any piece of it. We started out as best friends in the class but I pulled away after I discovered how "crazy" she was. Borderline. But that's another story. Anyway, I feel the same way you do. I'm super smart. I get good grades. And I actually care about learning. So I know how you feel. I'm feeling the same thing.

    So chin up. Ignore them. Being mean to someone elses unfortunately does not up your IQ. So forget those idiots and stay focused. And take every opportunity to study and avoid the drama.

    Hope this helps.
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  9. Visit  Live.&.Learn profile page
    Congratulations on doing so well!!! I'm sorry your feeling so down, keep your head up, your almost there! I feel like a total outcast myself most of the time, but this will pass and you will be on to bigger and better things!
  10. Visit  Red35 profile page
    Don't be down! Same thing happens in all nursing schools...it's high school all over. Some people are there to learn and some people are there to make others miserable.

    When you get out in the field you will make life long friends.

    Congrats and pe proud!
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  11. Visit  EarthhAngel2013 profile page
    Congratulations! I feel compelled to write on the other end of this spectrum. I have struggled with nursing school since I started, and finally I met a woman, who helped me find a better way to study. I was in danger of flunking out of the program. If we can maintain a 73 average and then have a B in clinical, we can stay in the program with remediation, so my goal was to just make it up to a 73. I had a F--. The next test was the week of drop date. I attended 2 study groups, one I didn't find helpful at all with a woman in my clinical group, I guess because I hadn't yet started studying yet, nothing felt like it was sinking in. The next was later that same night. This woman, showed me a better way of studying. I just get it better this way. My grades have gone from a F-- to an B+. Because I just understand it all better. I am extremely grateful to this woman, and I have continued to attend study groups with her. In one test I achieved my 73 average mark with a B+ on that test. The exam the following week a B+ again. Which I am able to finally say I'm passing (75.4) and won't have to do our extremely hard remediation program. In two extremely good exam days I have achieved my goal of being able to continue on with my classmates, and graduate in May. If I can do 2 more the week of final I won't have to be on the fence passing.

    I have no idea what this woman's plans are but I intend to find out and hopefully keep in touch with her. Maybe now I can continue working on my BSN goal to. I would love to work with this woman as a nurse and feel confident now with the tools she's given me to help myself.

    I'm not saying you have to go out and help everyone who is failing nursing school, but there are some out there who appreciate the help. Congratulations on your amazing journey that is almost over and I thank you for people like you who are so amazing and willing to help others. It may not seem like it now but many blessings are coming your way!!! I'm not sure how much it is worth but I thank you and am grateful to you and amazing people like you!
    Last edit by EarthhAngel2013 on Nov 23, '12
  12. Visit  rubato profile page
    I'm so sorry you are being treated this way. I was that woman in my prereqs and hated how people treated me because of my grades.

    Now that I'm in nursing school, and my grades aren't the best (Bs), I was razzing some of my fellow students who have great grades. I was just having fun with them, but I realize that it could be taken the wrong way. So, I completely stopped. In truth, I was very proud of them (everyone in my clinical group has an A but me) and was trying to tell them how stupid they made me feel through joking, but I would never in a million years want anyone to feel bad or guilty for being brilliant, so thanks for opening my eyes up to it.

    You are doing a great job and need to just focus on that. I agree with everyone that nursing school is just an extension of high school. Unfortunately, I think once we go to work, it'll still be there, and I'm going to have to work really hard to avoid those people.
  13. Visit  x_factor profile page
    Don't let it get to you. I'm finishing up pre-reqs and applying to my school's nursing program next semester. I'm doing extremely well in all my classes. I am not one at school to usually throw my grades around, when people ask how I did on an exam, I usually just say "I did good, how about you?".

    In my english class, however, I am starting to get a lot of "playful" snobby comments but I'm trying not to let it bother me because the semester is almost over. I love english in general, I love writing, so this class has been one that I have exceled in. And in this class, once we write an essay, we must let others read our essays in class and do in-class peer reviews. My essays always get nit-picked apart by students, because I write "long" essays, or I pick such "difficult" topics, and then always manage to get an A in the class while they get D's or F's. I've tried to be nice and even offer to tutor them in english and help them revise their essays, but they've never taken me up on the offer. They just continue to pick on me in class, but justify it by saying they're joking. I'm sure they are joking, but it does get old to hear it every. single. class. Before class, I'll get told things like "little miss perfect, what did you write today?" or "oh, aren't we a little perfectionist, I'm just SURE we've earned another "A" haven't we?"

    Anyways, my point is, I am PROUD of my grades. I try to minimize any drama by not telling anyone my grades, but even in my english class where it's kind of unavoidable, I do not let it bother me. I work hard for my grades, I work hard on my papers, and no one is going to make me feel bad for working hard at success and achieving it. Same with you, be proud of yourself, and do not let those who are jealous or bitter make you feel bad for earning grades you have worked hard for.

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