Feeling really down in the dumps and friend-less in nursing school...advice needed - page 2
Hi. I am 1 semester away from being done with nursing school. I am a really high achiever and get fantastic grades in both the lecture and clinical portions of my program. At the beginning of the program, I felt like I met... Read More
- 2Nov 20, '12 by willow298Thank you all so very much for your comments and kind encouragement. I do feel better today about it and it helped to come home after a long day of clinical and read all the responses.
And one comment in particular really made me think..the comment about how I probably won't even talk to these people after its all said and done. Over the summer the one "real friend" I had, did not contact me for any reason at all....the entire summer. Good friend, huh?
And you know what I get from another one....One person who was another "dear friend" from my first clinical rotation only texts me before tests to ask questions....for example "What is the difference between a calcium channel blocker and a beta blocker?"...I respond...and then that is the end of the convo. They definitely use me for their own benefit and then its obvious that that is the purpose I serve for them.
So, in conclusion, I am just going to get through the rest of this program and rely on my family and boyfriend for support because at least I know from that from them it is sincere. (and from all of you fine ladies and gents)
Thanks again. It really made me feel better to discuss with people who are outside of the situation.
- 0Nov 20, '12 by nyteshadeQuote from willow298The same exact thing happened to me in nursing school. Don't get caught up in their drama. To be honest with you, I haven't even seen those people from my AS program in years.Hi. I am 1 semester away from being done with nursing school.
I am a really high achiever and get fantastic grades in both the lecture and clinical portions of my program.
At the beginning of the program, I felt like I met really good people that were wonderful friends. But as time went on, I feel like that is not the case at all. As the semesters went on, we got divided up into different clinical groups and people started to get mad at me for doing very well on exams and for ATI tests. They used to approach me after tests demanding to know what grade I got, and when I told them they got angry. This semester I have decided not to tell anyone and to just say "I did good" to prevent this hostility.
For example, 1 girl who I felt very close with last year hasn't spoken to me at all after I received points for passing a test and she did not. These people seem to behave very childishly and I feel like I am back in high school.
I have one really good friend (I think) but he is in another clinical group this time around and I feel as though it kind of distances us, which is very unfortunate.
I just feel extremely depressed about the entire situation and just decided to come on this wonderful forum to see some comments as to what others have done in situations like this.
I feel like such a loner =[
- 0Nov 20, '12 by grownuprosie, ASNQuote from classicdamethank you. I think it is interesting that only one person suggested that maybe looking inward might be helpful. Nursing school is training pants for real life. If you cannot get along there, will you be able to get along with the exact same type of people when you graduate? Yes, you should be proud of your accomplishments. But, I just have a hard time wrapping my head around the "Everyone else is mean for no reason" idea.you are in this for you, not them. You may never encounter them after nursing school. That said, you could be off-setting people in some manner and could ask a trusted friend or relative (outside the school) to give you some honest feedback about the vibes you send out. Otherwise, get your degree, get your license and be proud of your accomplishments.
That being said, It is always a good idea to learn more social coping skills. Please don't just stick it out. Improve it. If not now, then you will be learning the hard way by losing your job over it. It is clearly not working with your current methodology, so why not try some new ones?
Good luck with everything!
- 0Nov 20, '12 by Wrench PartySometimes I feel like I am also back in high school with my program. I am cordial with my classmates, but have my own
social life outside the program. I honestly feel like this is a lot healthier. Congrats to you on doing so well; remember you
are there to learn and not to win the popularity contest.
Can you form friendships outside of school? Do you have time for a hobby? This is the best way I have found to stay sane and
ignore all the drama/BS that ensues in school.
- 0Nov 20, '12 by kimfuturelpn2013Hello,
I just wanted to say congrats for getting this far! I think we all feel like loners in the nursing programs because for some people it is a contest to see who makes the highest or does the best. I am constantly feeling as if I'm not as smart as my classmates! I have to keep telling myself that I am in this program for a reason. It isn't easy getting into the nursing classes so I must know something. As far as the others in your class go, please don't let them get to you. Some people don't like to see others succeed. You have to believe in yourself and keep your head up. It is all going to be worth it and for the ones who seem to want to cut you down, don't sweat them. In the end it will come back to them and when you are shinning like a diamond they will be wishing they didn't treat you the way they did.
Don't get discouraged!
- 0Nov 20, '12 by ZenLoverI can definitely sympathize. I have had my struggles and thankfully have what appears to be the beginning of some great friendships with others that have had their struggles. Besides remembering that you probably won't speak to these people again after graduation, please also try to remember you are not alone and apparently from all these posts you are actually in very good company. The older we get the harder it is to forge real meaningful friendships, but you are reaching out and acknowledging the need...it will happen.Last edit by ZenLover on Nov 20, '12 : Reason: incomplete thought
- 0Nov 20, '12 by beingcaitlinI just felt like I was reading a thread about myself. Although I have some close friends in class that I met there, I have a wonderfully supportive family and friends outside of nursing school. Don't dwell on what other people think of you. You aren't doing nursing school for them, ur doing it for you! Make the most of it and learn something at every opportunity. Cheers to having ONE SEMESTER LEFT! I never thought I'd be able to say I'll be a REAL nurse in 6 months. You can do it!!
- 0Nov 20, '12 by bmelissaI am also doing extremely well in Nursing school. Better than I thought after hearing all the stories! I do not tell but only a select few my grades but most of my classmates know I am doing well. So far there has not been any drama and no one seems jealous. Even if they do start, I am there to learn and be the best nurse I can possibly be. Making friends is not the goal here, especially if they want to act like that. I will say that so far, I have some pretty great classmates!
- 0Nov 21, '12 by amygarsideThese people may feel envious because of the achievement you have attained. They are not the people that you should waste your time with. I am sure you will still find worthwhile people that can be your real friends. I hope that you can find one soon so that you will not feel too sad. As long as you do good in school and you are not fighting with anyone continue your great performance.