What do you think about dating your coworkers?

  1. I was just curous what everyone thinks about dating a coworker. I'm not interested in doing it because I have a steady boyfriend. Where I work several people are married to each other. There have also been some big breakups where they no longer speak to one another and is now affecting the delivery of quality care of our pts.
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  3. by   Monica RN,BSN
    I have dated within the work place in years past. For the most part it did not present any problems. It became difficult though when once as a manager, I was dating one of the staff under my management. That makes for a problem. That is not advisable. When I was married to my ex husband, he and I worked in the same ER together.. also a bad plan.. When you have a bad day, it certainly affects everything... like mad at home and mad at work.. Geez... (Thank God he is an ex!)
    But as far as nurses dating nurses, it happens all the time is usually not a problem as long as the professionalism to do your job remains intact.
    Just my 2 cents worth.....
  4. by   Tweety
    If it is affecting delivery of care to the patients then it's a management problem that needs to be documented and addressed.

    We can't help who we fall for. Sometimes we spend so much time with a person we can't help but want to date them, etc. I would not want to work on the same unit with someone I was dating. If I found myself in that situation I would transfer to make it easier on myself.

    My spouse works in the same hospital as me and it's not a problem as we rarely see each other at work.
  5. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Different depts or different shifts, i'm ok with it. As long as it doesn't become workplace gossip.
  6. by   RNPATL
    I once dated my boss. She was a great woman and had many friends at work. I did also. But, when the relationship started to fall apart, her friends all turned against me and it was one of the worst experiences I had ever encountered. I actually felt the need to leave the place I was workring and transfer to another facility. Fortunately, the hospital system I worked for then was big enough for both of us.

    As a result of that experience, I made a decision that I would NEVER date anyone where I work. Just not a good thing to do. For those of you that have not yet gotten burned, trust me, you will and then you will understand.
  7. by   SmilingBluEyes
    two words: bad idea!
  8. by   sharann
    Since I am both married AND work with all women (I am female), I am against it. But generally, it almost always turns ugly
  9. by   SnowymtnRN
    Met and married my DH this way. LOL I think its a maturity thing on BOTH partners side. I mean, there's always going to be workplace gossip, so that was never an issue for us. We just ignored it, and kept our private lives private this way. HOWEVER if he or i were in management, then no i would advise against it. Simply because nothing good can come from that (coworkers, jealousy, the list is potentially endless.)

    my DH and i have always enjoyed talking about work, etc...and we've always been able to be "coworkers" at work, and not spouses. KWIM? And if we are having an arguement, etc...we leave it at home usually cuz it just adds fuel to the gossip fire. But its doable if both parties are mature enough to handle it ya know?? OBVIOUSELY not in all cases, but i'd say overall its no big deal. I personally don't give a rat's you know what if someone is dating someone that we work with, etc...its none of my business.
  10. by   Blackcat99
    It's a bad idea to date your co-workers. What usually happens is that there is a break-up and then it is so difficult emotionally to continue working at the job. I had to leave a job when my co-worker and I broke up because I couldn't deal with the pain of seeing that person anymore.
  11. by   fergus51
    I don't think it's wise. You can never be sure how things will turn out should you breakup. Even if you're mature, he may act like a neanderthal. Not to mention the gossip factor....
  12. by   stressednurse
    Do what feels right at the moment, be professional and adult about it. Deal with the consequences if their are any. Why miss an opportunity in life cuz it didn't work for someone else? Fear not the unknown, challenge it, approach it and embrace it for it is your future.
  13. by   aurora_borealis
    After graduation a fellow student started dating a co-worker, so he transferred out to a different unit, mainly to avoid problems, it was his/their choice. They got married, all is well. I dated quite a few people from the workplace, but never, never, somebody from my unit. I could tell you stories, though, like the time a husband camped out at the CEO's door when he found out his wife was having an affair with a married doc. OOOh, that was good. Or the time a manager (married) was caught red handed with a married doc. And these people were not kids, they were well into their 40's. The worst time I had was after I broke up with an intern after a couple of years, (I should say he broke up with me, but at least we were both single) and a couple of months later he did a rotation on my unit....not a happy time, especially since he wasn't a very good doctor. Lots of tension all around, as my co-workers and I all tried to be professional, but they didn't like him either.
  14. by   teeituptom
    Not Me, No Way, Not a chance


    Besides my wife would kill me slowly and exquisitely painfully

    and she would destroy my golf clubs

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