Railroaded at work - page 5

I accepted a job on a PCU. The requirements were simply, willing to train Med Surg RN w/expereince. I have my ACLS and passed their telemetry exam, not just a simple version either, with 96.6%. I... Read More

  1. by   Daytonite
    i had a very similar experience (maybe it was at this same hospital!) except i went in there as an experienced telemetry nurse! i couldn't believe what the snotty little preceptor was trying to pull on me! i reported her to the supervisor and snapped right back in the manager's face and quit on the spot when they tried pulling that crap on me (because i had been a manager too). you're just too kind. find another job. these people are not going to change to accommodate you. there are better nurses in the world. the reason the old prude has been there for 20 years and they tolerate the guy who watches his games on tv is because there are others who tolerate this. the problem starts with the manager who is letting all this go on.
  2. by   2BSure
    I put forward some possibilities that you might not have been pristine in this conflict. You seemed acutely distressed and a couple of us put some decent thought and time into our responses. Claiming that these responses are "ugly" indicates to me that what you wanted was tea and sympathy, not the considered advice or opinion of people who have been around for a while.

    Good luck and you are welcome.
  3. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from Babzuptown
    I still look like I'm in my 30s. Its good and bad . It probably helped in getting the job but I think it is a detriment, in a way, on the floor. I have a 47 year old's confidence and give off an aire of self-acceptance. I seems that you have to grovel and eat sh** from some of the nurses in order to fit it.

    I can't stand petty, grumpy, negative focused people and maybe they sense that in me even though I smile and try to get along.
    out of your entire post, these 2 statements especially stood out to me.
    i found them very telling, in terms of your gen'l disposition/attitude.
    maybe you have been railroaded, i don't know.

    but if i professed to be an attractive, educated woman who complains about being victimized by the 'little people', i'd be hard-pressed to examine MY role in how this chain of events escalated to where it is today.
    furthermore, ruby was not "ugly" in her post.
    you pleaded for feedback, and you've gotten it.
    just by admitting that "you can't stand petty, grumpy...", perhaps you come across as a cavalier know-it-all, that needs to be brought down a notch or two.
    i'm not saying the others approach to 'handling' you, is right.
    but i truly believe that you need to look inwardly, to find your answer.
    i'm thinking it really does, start with you.

    best of everything to you.

    leslie
  4. by   madnurse2b
    On an LDS note - Las Vegas has a huge LDS community - and I still have nice Mormon girls who will go out with us heathens for coffee or drinks. So they have something else...it doesn't ruin them to go out on a hen party. You will work with people everyday - even as patients who do things you don't. Loosen up enough to enjoy their company, you might learn something.
  5. by   ghillbert
    It amazes me when people get upset about answers posted to questions THEY asked. The power of a forum is the ability to get opinions from a wide variety of people, with varying backgrounds and experience.

    We don't know you - remember that we are basing our opinions on what YOU said about yourself and the situation. Perhaps you are not aware of how you are perceived, but I agree that you came off in your post as thinking you are better than the people you were working with. That doesn't mean they didn't treat you poorly, but it may be a factor.

    There's no point getting upset at people who cared enough to reply - take what is relevant, ignore what isn't, and perhaps take a closer look at your own role in this situation.
  6. by   Valerie Salva
    I think the OP is hurt and vulnerable right now, so Ruby's post sounded harsh to her- although it did not sound that way to others.
    I have been in toxic environments where if you handed the staff a pot of gold on a silver platter they would critisize you and put you down.

    As a traveler, I am sent to many toxic units that can't keep staff.
    Some units love me- others hate me.

    You will be much better off away from that unit.

    Don't mention religion or "Where I used to work, we had such and such equipment and we did it this way.."

    Also, those missionaries that knock on doors- nobody is happy to see them but their mothers. They are universally annoying and nobody cares that they are far from home or whatever.
    And..I don't see how anyone looking younger than their age has anything to do with anything.

    I'm wishing you a much better experience at your next job.

    Hang in there, girl! :icon_hug:
  7. by   dayo
    Thank you Valerie Salva. It is good to know there are nurses with soul like you out there.

    Thank you for giving kind words to this girl at this time.

    A word of kindness is a seed, which dropped by chance, springs up a flower. A kind word and pleasant voice are gifts easy to give. It is like lighting another man's candle with your own, which loses none of it brilliancy by what the other gains. if all men acted on this principle the world would be much happier than it is.
  8. by   Babzuptown
    Quote from ghillbert

    There's no point getting upset at people who cared enough to reply - take what is relevant, ignore what isn't, and perhaps take a closer look at your own role in this situation.
    Ok, I've had a little sleep. I will review and re-think. I apologize if I offended and the intent was truly well-meaning. I am scared, and vulnerable and already getting bashed at work. Really don't need further bashing here. I'm careful for how I speak to others probably because I am very sensitive to hurtful comments.

    But will give some thought to these posts.

    Thanks again.
  9. by   Babzuptown
    And..I don't see how anyone looking younger than their age has anything to do with anything.

    Valerie, from what I have seen, many new nurses (whether new grads or new to a unit) are at the mercy of whether they are accepted. I only mentioned I looked younger than I am because, it has been my experience that I have been talked to like I'm a kid. And pushing 50, it is sometimes a hard pill to swallow. That and I'm a mom of a great big football playing boy. I wish the power struggle didn't exist in nursing. Some here will admit they see it too, and some say it isn't so bad. My experience, it's bad.

    And I said I looked young, never ever said I was cute.
  10. by   Babzuptown
    Quote from daytonite
    i had a very similar experience (maybe it was at this same hospital!) except i went in there as an experienced telemetry nurse! i couldn't believe what the snotty little preceptor was trying to pull on me! i reported her to the supervisor and snapped right back in the manager's face and quit on the spot when they tried pulling that crap on me (because i had been a manager too). you're just too kind. find another job. these people are not going to change to accommodate you. there are better nurses in the world. the reason the old prude has been there for 20 years and they tolerate the guy who watches his games on tv is because there are others who tolerate this. the problem starts with the manager who is letting all this go on.
    if i weren't a single mom, living paycheck to paycheck, that would have been me at the first turn of events. thanks for showing support and taking me at my word. i honestly feel like i've been just beaten or run over in this hospital. and it is devestating because i tried and tried and tried. i was able to turn some of the negative around with the first preceptor. we parted on very good terms. the night just never worked for me. one of the other new nurses approached me and asked, "why are you taking 5 patients when the rest of us are taking 3?" she also witnessed my preceptor up in my personal space and commented, "i don't think i could work like that." very, very stressful and demeaning.
  11. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from babzuptown
    "defending the missionaries who have interrupted your colleague's sleep is not a good way to get along. if you stay on night shift, you may understand that one day!"

    ruby, you weren't there. this is quite the assumption. for all we know it was her day off. your post is just unnecessarily hostile. really. and your assumptions about me are crap. i'm not self-rightous. your post is a reflection of you, not me.
    no, i wasn't there and i don't know you. but you were asking for feedback and advice, so forgive me if i thought you wanted honest feedback and advice. if you just wanted to vent, i apologize for trying to help.

    and even if it was the nightshifter's day off, it's still quite irritating to be woken before you intended to wake for someone trying to sell you something (in this case a religion) that you had expressed no interest in buying.


  12. by   Babzuptown
    "i always have to wonder when someone write that they're being railroaded, fired for no reason or excluded from the cliques because they're just so darned cute and everyone is jealous.
    several things make me wonder if this person didn't start the new job determined to show everyone what a "whiz" she is. she has a bsn from a good school, good scores on the competency exams, and is a "city girl" slumming in the country.
    if you self-righteously asserted that you can't participate because you're better than they are or because your religion precludes you consuming the particular beverages they mentioned, you can't have come across as wanting to be a part of the team.
    i can't help but wonder if her new co-workers caught on to her superior attitude . . ."

    yeah ruby,
    the above quotes from your post just reek of your benevolent intent towards me. it's just more of the same. and why i'm looking for a way out of nursing. your comments were not intended to be helpful. they were intended to be hurtful. maybe you are the one who needs the reality check.
  13. by   canoehead
    Quote from babzuptown
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    yeah ruby,
    the above quotes from your post just reek of your benevolent intent towards me. it's just more of the same. and why i'm looking for a way out of nursing. your comments were not intended to be helpful. they were intended to be hurtful. maybe you are the one who needs the reality check.
    please- she was replying to your request for feedback. you didn't like the answer, and that's ok. let's not start sniping back and forth.

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