Munchausen by Internet: The Lying Disease that Preys on the Heart

We all know how it feels to discover that we've been lied to. Have you considered the possibility that you have been the victim of an elaborate online deception? Find out how you can protect yourself from this type of scam. Nurses General Nursing Article

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For decades, people have heard of Munchausen syndrome, a disorder characterized by people taking extraordinary measures to fake illnesses or psychological trauma for the sole purpose of attracting attention and sympathy from others. Munchausen sufferers will do almost anything to validate the delusion of their illness. Another variation of this disorder is Munchausen by proxy, in which people physically or psychologically harm loved ones to gain attention and sympathy. In more recent years, a newer variation of this disorder has been noted to infect online communities.

Munchausen by Internet

Internet traffic has exploded over the past two decades, providing users with instant access to information and networking with others. With the increasing number of online users and formation of online social communities and support groups, beginning in the 1990's there have been increasing reports of users who have deceived internet forum participants by portraying themselves as gravely ill or as victims of violence or psychological trauma. The internet was made for such fakers. Arming themselves with medical knowledge obtained through hours of perusing the internet, these users create intricate online stories of prolonged suffering and even death which end up being nothing more than fabrications.

A pattern for this new Munchausen variation was identified in 1998 by Dr. Marc Feldman, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Alabama, and an expert on Munchausen syndrome and factitious disorder. Dr. Feldman coined the term "Munchausen by Internet" in an article published in 2000, "Munchausen by Internet: Detecting Factitious Illness and Crisis on the Internet".

What is Munchausen by Internet?

This disorder is essentially the same as the better known Munchausen syndrome, with the main difference being that people carry out their deceptions online. "On the Internet," Feldman explains, "it's very easy to fake. All you have to do is click and you go to another disease site. You can become an expert on anything in 30 minutes by visiting Google." At first, Munchausen by Internet was most common in online medical support groups, but variations of it now show up anywhere that people socialize online, such as social networking sites, blogs, forums, discussion groups and chat rooms. The fictitious stories can take months and even years to play out.

These deceivers are usually not newcomers to the site, but instead have already begun to weave their story of deception, making online friends while they are setting the stage. They portray themselves as incredible, wonderful and charismatic people. The drama unfolds in different ways but usually involves a sudden revelation by the writer that they have contracted a serious illness.

They may have already disclosed lesser challenges they have previously faced, just to ensure they have sympathetic listeners. All the time while weaving their web of deception, they are bravely coping with whatever tragic situation or string of situations they are facing. They go on to provide details of their declining situation, including hospitalizations, doctor appointments, treatments, etc.

Many times their condition/hospitalization will preclude them from using a computer, thus making it possible for another fictitious character to enter the picture and post in their place. This is usually a close friend or family member(s). They refrain from divulging their location or contact information such as telephone number. Most of these liars end up having shocking, sudden, or especially poignant deaths which is relayed by someone close to them. There may be a miraculous recovery, followed by relapses and more drama..... and prolonged suffering for both them and their followers. It will go on and on...

Red Flags

Put yourself in the place of one of the targeted "victims." At first, you are greatly saddened by the predicament of which the member posts. You want to help. You may even offer support. You find yourself drawn into the drama as it continues to unfold with layer upon layer of catastrophic detail. Slowly, you notice the story contains more and more discrepancies. You tend to make excuses for these inconsistencies, thinking the faker's thought processes may be clouded by the medications and illness. As the lies continue to pile up, you slowly come to the realization that you've "been had". And on that day, you feel like a total doofus. There is an overwhelming sense of betrayal as you realize you have been lied to, used, and manipulated. You may even feel angry at the perpetrator.

7 Clues To Detecting Munchausen by Internet Sufferers

Once you have been fooled by one of these liars, looking back you will see more and more inconsistencies and red flags in their story. While the stories vary greatly, the behavior of these people is consistent enough that Dr Feldman has described seven "clues to detection of false claims" based on numerous case studies.

  1. The posts consistently duplicate material in other posts, in books, or on health-related websites;
  2. The characteristics of the supposed illness emerge as caricatures based on the individual's misconceptions;
  3. Near-fatal bouts of illness alternate with miraculous recoveries;
  4. Claims are fantastic, contradicted by subsequent posts, or flatly disproved (e.g. a call to the hospital reveals that there is no such patient);
  5. There are continual dramatic events in the person's life, especially when other group members have become the focus of attention;
  6. The individual resists telephone contact or contact via mail, sometimes offering odd justifications
  7. There is feigned blitheness about crises (e.g., going into septic shock) that will predictably attract immediate attention;
  8. Others apparently posting on behalf of the individual (e.g., family members, friends) have identical patterns of writing.

Motivation

What motivates people to do this? Dr. Feldman states that the clue to their motivation "may lie in the power granted by online communities to quantify the sympathy for an illness or the shock of a death via comment boxes or replies to a journal thread." These fakers can sit back and read the comments of support from numerous readers who are following the created saga as their illness progresses. They relish the thought that their words are eliciting sadness and tears. "It feeds the desire of the narcissist and provides the lonely with the attention that they may never previously have known."

We know that this type of behavior will only increase as others take their lies to the internet. So what can we do? How do we respond? These people are seeking attention, so indifference is one of our defense tactics. As nurses on a nursing website or in any real-life situations we should of course be compassionate and supportive of others in genuine need. Most people online and in real life, are usually telling something close to the truth most of the time. They may embellish their story a bit, but nothing close to what we are referring to here.

Nurses Targeted

As an online nursing community, we are susceptible to being used by Munchausen by Internet sufferers, as well as deceptive posters in general. Because we are nurses, we are very caring people. We are trained to help folks. People like this know how to prey on others...they know all the right buttons to push. It is easy for us to get caught up in this type of scam. This is a lesson for all of us to learn. We cannot always trust what people post online. We should be alert and question the veracity of online assertions and balance empathy with circumspection. You must guard yourselves against getting sucked in. It is also important to not provide personal information to members you do not know.

If you suspect a member is posting deceitful information with the characteristics of this disorder, it is best to report your suspicions to the Administrators of this site or the site on which you are participating. They will take actions to investigate the matter. Remember......you are dealing with someone who is mentally ill, and their response to confrontation is unpredictable. Upon discovery of false posting, most Munchausen by internet scammers leave after possible denials. They search to find another online group on which they can prey.

Let me leave you with one last thought. We have always heard the phrase "If it seems to be too good to be true, it probably is." In this case... If it seems too bad to be true, it probably isn't.

To read more articles, go to my AN blog: Body, Mind, and Soul, Be the Nurse You Would Want as a Patient, From the Other Side of the Bed Rails - When the Nurse Becomes the Patient


References

Feldman, Marc D., MD. Bibby, and S. D. Crites, "'Virtual' factitious disorders and Munchausen by proxy," The Western Journal of Medicine

Feldman, Marc D., MD, "Munchausen by Internet: Detecting Factitious Illness and Crisis on the Internet," Southern Medical Journal 



Feldman, Marc D., MD and Maheu, Marlene M., Ph.D., "Doctor Exposes Munchausen by Internet," SelfhelpMagazine

Feldman, M.D., (2004): Playing Sick?: Untangling the web of Munchausen syndrome, Munchausen by proxy, malingering, and factitious disorder. New York, Brunner-Routledge Hyman

Madrid, Cienna, "The Lying Disease: Why Would Someone Want to Fake a Serious Illness of the Internet?” www.thestranger.com

Russo, Francine, "Cybersickness - Munchausen by Internet Breeds a Generation of Fakers"

Smith, Morgan, "Munchausen by Internet: People Who Fake Illness and Death Online"

Swains, Harold, "Q&A: Munchausen by internet," Wired.co.uk

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This person, if the same one, has moved to another nursing site, and has apparently introduced himself to the community as an NP, no longer just an RN.

I never saw any posting here about cancer, guess I missed that.

The above is just my opinion of course.

Specializes in PICU, NICU, L&D, Public Health, Hospice.

I have worked with a number of Munchausen by Proxy patients in the PICU. They were always very sad and not easy to diagnose. We actually had to have a camera installed in one of our private rooms so that we could document the mother's interaction with the poor child.

Specializes in Peds, Med-Surg, Disaster Nsg, Parish Nsg.

The main reason I wrote this article was to inform the members that this disorder exists and that we, as a nursing site are vulnerable. As nurses, not only are we interested and knowledgeable about medical conditions, we are a very compassionate and trusting group. People look to nurses as a safe harbor where they can unload their burdens and get support and encouragement. It only makes sense that this is the type of environment where people who are seeking attention would turn to. Hopefully the information provided in this article will give you the tools you need to continue to enjoy the site with a little more caution.

Yes, there was a recent incident, but we do not need to focus on one case. I am sure there are many other instances that have gone undetected. You do not have to look far on the internet to read about online support groups, chat room, blogs, etc. that have been deeply affected by this disease.

I do care about folks who go to so much effort in search of attention. They do need care. But when their lying comes at the expense of preying on the emotions of others, then a line has been crossed. Our members are subjected to enough real-life miseries, tragedies, and woes in their jobs and personal lives.

As a nurse, and as a Christian, I care about all people.

I think you are referring to DayToNite, she did in fact pass away a few years ago, many of her helpful posts, threads, brain sheets and tips for student nurses are still actively shared on the forums today. No this is not about her.

OMG, I must be living in an embarrassingly self-involved bubble, as until you mentioned her name, I had forgotten about her....and did not know she had passed away. She and I were often posting to the same students with tips/tricks/help, and when I mostly moved away from that (probably a couple of years ago) I didn't think about NOT seeing her postings....people on the internet move around, after all....and now I'm very sorry to find I missed this bit of news. A mentoring loss to many, to be sure.

As a side note, wasn't it "Daytonite" as in she originally hailed from Dayton, Ohio?

Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
As a side note, wasn't it "Daytonite" as in she originally hailed from Dayton, Ohio?
Yes, her hometown was Dayton, Ohio. She had been living in southern California for the past few decades. Daytonite succumbed to cancer in April 2010 and will remain in our hearts and minds as one of the most contributory members of Allnurses.com

this whole thread is such a tease . is it wrong that even if i suspect someone is lying , i sometimes like to play along and pretend to believe them just for their antics and reactions. lol. there is only one other well known poster i remember writing out her illness in a couple of posts.

Specializes in Pediatric Pulmonology and Allergy.

THere was a poster a few years ago who had a whole series of posts about how she evntually adopted a pt she cared for, a victim of sexual abuse. I always wondered if that really happened. I know that pediatric nurses can and do get very attached but I wonder how often it happens that they take patients home with them.

i have seen this play out on a number of different forums. But as a poster said earlier, much better that they play out their fantasies in a virtual world than by victimizing a child.

I think you are referring to DayToNite, she did in fact pass away a few years ago, many of her helpful posts, threads, brain sheets and tips for student nurses are still actively shared on the forums today. No this is not about her.

Yes! That's exactly who I was talking about & thank you! Glad to see it wasnt her

This was a male they are talking about.

Thanks for sharing your articles.

is this recent? is it a male in "recovery"? quotes in case it is fake

Specializes in EMS, ED, Trauma, CEN, CPEN, TCRN.

It really doesn't matter who it was -- if you weren't fooled, consider yourselves lucky, and now more aware of shenanigans like these thanks to tnbutterfly's excellent article. I've been part of various online communities for years and years, and I've seen this kind of stuff time and time again. It's just sad. Thanks, tnbutterfly, for the warning. I am the kind of person who is as I am in person as I am online, as the AN staff and members who have met me can attest; I assume others are the same way, much to my chagrin. We all just need to be careful.