Not only have I attended numerous viewings and funerals, but nearly a year after I left a particular agency, a family got word to me about their grandmother, that she had passed. I managed to get there, and the fam members who knew me introduced all around as 'the only nurse who really cared about mom-mom.'
And a former supervisor called me to say she had seen an obit about a pt I had been close to, and when I showed up at her service, the family was incredibly warm (I had not met most of them) and pleased I was there. She had not been my pt for at least 2 years, and had been in a facility for quite a while.
Does it cross a boundary? I don't think so. Every time I have managed to get to one of these, the families all seemed genuinely touched, pleased and thankful.
I have no regrets about any of them - - and some of them I attended in my scrubs
during a break in my day! I was a home health nurse for many years.
As for what stargazer said, sometimes it is just too much, because it is such a frequent occurence. And it could be that their agency doesn't support their staff thru these tough times.
Personally, I would definitely attend.