Simple question: Has nursing hardened you?
I'm currently a student, and I have noticed that some of the older clinical instructors are very cold, harsh and indecent towards some of the nursing students, myself included. I know some PCAs. One certain PCA, a 31 year old nursing student w/military experience
, referred to some of the nurses on her unit as " cold *******" and said she was afraid after many years of working in the field (after graduating and passing the NCLEX, of course), she will end up just like them. Many of the other nursing students have voiced similar experiences, saying that many of the nurses on their unit were just rude or plain cold.
This is NOT to attack nurses
, but after I had a dentist appointment, I noticed a stark contrast between the happier, less stressed out RDHs from the overly stressed and very cold nurses that I have come across. This is NOT to say that all nurses are like this, I have met some really nice ones (and a couple of really lovely clinical instructors),
but in general, the longer one has been in the field of nursing ,the colder and less compassionate one becomes...from my observation. Statistically, 1 out of every 7 nurses will end up with a drug/substance problem (according to my lecture notes)...could it be d/t the stress of nursing?
So, I was wondering, to all the nurses out there who have been in the field for a long time, how has nursing changed you as an individual? Have you found yourself becoming colder and more detached or more warm and compassionate? Has nursing made you depressed? And finally (and most importantly) do you regret nursing?
I have found that I have lost apart of my confidence and self-esteem, and nursing seems to have an ugly side to it that really is disappointing. Quoting someone I love, "Upon visiting your nursing school
, I have never met a more hostile, unwelcoming, cold environment and I can only imagine what you go through when I'm not around." And this person is fifty.
Again, this is NOT an attack, but just an observation and things I've experienced first hand and have been told, and I'm wondering about this!
Apr 24, '12
Of course nursing makes you harder. How could it not?
How many times do you think you could cower and cry when an MD singles you out, as an object to vent their own anger and frustration?
How many times do you think you could stand sobbing when a beloved resident dies? Someone you've cared for for years.
How often do you think you could stand listening to the moans and cries of someone in pain? Either real or fake.
A nurse simply has to build a wall to protect themselves from the heartbreaking reality of nursing. It doesn't make any of us less effective in our jobs. It doesn't mean I'm cold and heartless. It means I can continue to go to work and return home whole and complete as a human being. Without huge pieces of me being carved out by sick, needy people.
All of us build walls. Not just in the area of nursing. Sometimes it's not healthy. But as far as nursing goes, I believe it's a self preservation mechanism.
Last edit by imintrouble on Apr 24, '12
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Apr 24, '12
as previous posters have mentioned, it would be absolutely impossible to remain an effective nurse and not have it change you in ways it would have been impossible to imagine or predict in advance. we change as we grow older and hopefully mature. it's inevitable. not
automatically mean or crusty old bat-like, but rather, less willing to be taken advantage of or to let people walk all over you.
another thing that comes with age is a more heightened and sensitive what my dad used to refer to as a "bs barometer." what that
means very simply is being able to know when you're being scammed, someone is embellishing or outright lying, or faking to get whatever
i remember my first patient death. vividly. that and all the other patient deaths (ods mostly) along with taking care of my dying
mother have most certainly changed me.
don't write us all off yet.
Last edit by sharpeimom on Apr 26, '12
: Reason: wrong verb form (blush!)