Bullies in the workplace - page 8

Being a non-confrontational person I always wondered why I had such difficulty staying in a position for more than 2 years. My usual reason for leaving is a hostile work environment-backstabbers,... Read More

  1. by   mattsmom81
    Yes, Furball, they sure can and do <sigh>

    Some of the worst bullies I've seen claim to be Christians, and when they get into a group, I've seen some of the worst cohort bullying there is. In and out of the workplace.

    Another good reason to look closely at actions,not just words.
  2. by   ktwlpn
    Too true-I have heard the meanest comments from some of our "born again" family members(they are republicans,too- ) But-let's stay on topic and not start bashing religious groups (as much as I would love to say my piece I will hold it in) or politics...Bullying seems to encompass all socio-economic levels, levels of education...and cultures.....
  3. by   angelac1978
    Originally posted by Nurse Nanna
    Furball:
    You say: "The pot calling the kettle black?" Is that a racial statement?
    okay so I almost spit out my water when I read this, but for the sake of enlightenment...

    Nurse Nanna, I believe this saying refers to way back when, when pots and kettles were made out of cast iron, and after repeated use, cast iron implements turn black, or at least, very dark gray. The phrase "pot calling the kettle black" means that you are accusing someone of the very thing that you are doing. The pot, which is black, is calling the kettle black. I really don't think that race has anything to do with it, but merely refering to the physical characteristics of the pot and kettle.



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  4. by   angelac1978
    Originally posted by ktwlpn
    Too true-I have heard the meanest comments from some of our "born again" family members(they are republicans,too- ) But-let's stay on topic and not start bashing religious groups (as much as I would love to say my piece I will hold it in) or politics...Bullying seems to encompass all socio-economic levels, levels of education...and cultures.....
    I have to agree. My sister, who can be very zealous about her beliefs when the situation suits her, once wrote my brother and his wife a letter, saying that they were sending their daughter to hell, all because they were going to a different denomination than the rest of the family. She was equally nasty to my hubby before we got married, because he had been raised catholic/baptist (strange combo I know!) and I guess he wasn't converting fast enough for her tastes. She even wanted me to postpone the wedding as a way of "encouragement" for him. WHATEVER! if he was going to convert, which he did eventually, i wanted him to do it because he felt that it was right for him, not because I guilt tripped him or forced him to.

    I also have to agree that bullying is not specific to nursing or to women. I have worked a myriad of jobs in my 25 yrs and seen bullying in all shapes, forms, and fashions. Passiveness only fuels the bullying, as does being aggressive. The only way to stop it in its tracks is to be assertive. We will only get as much crap as we take.

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  5. by   Rustyhammer
    I am closing this thread for 24 hours just to cool it down.
    We need to remember to NOT get personal or flame.
    I'm not pointing fingers. The thread just need to chill for a day.
    It happens sometimes.
    -Russell

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