"What do you need Christmas off for? You don't have kids!" (rant) - page 18

It's that time of year again, even though the holiday schedule has been out for a year, people are making last minute switches. No big deal except for a co-worker that approached me, after seeing i... Read More

  1. by   hcctoad
    I don't have children either and I resent what that woman said about you not really needing Christmas off. We would all love to have the holidays off. She knew when she entered this field that she would have to work holidays and weekends and some unbearably late hours.
    I despise the fact that people with children get soooo many breaks and the ones that have waited for the right man and the right time to have kids are penalized.
    But that is a whole nother story. Just chalk it up to the fact that she ate an extra bowl of stupid that morning!!

    --Going to school for nursing-Holly
    hcctoad@msn.com
  2. by   Nurse Hatchett
    Quote from yupyup5
    Marie, you need to be telling her, not ranting to us. Nursing profession is filled with nurses ranting to their friends, family, co-worker but not the person they have a problem with....so disfunctional.


    If you have read the whole board, Marie did tell this other nurse. This board is for us to ask question, learn from one another and vent if that is what we need to do. Nursing is such a stressful profession and it is nice to have someplace to vent where someone else will understand what we are talking about. That's one thing that I love about this bb. I think it would be more dysfunctional to keep it all bottled up and not have anywhere to rant.
  3. by   DutchgirlRN
    Quote from yupyup5
    Marie, you need to be telling her, not ranting to us. Nursing profession is filled with nurses ranting to their friends, family, co-worker but not the person they have a problem with....so disfunctional.
    Why dysfunctional? I blow people off at work, why argue with an idiot? When I need to vent I come here. I have friends here who identfy and who are genuinely caring and offer good advice. There are a few such as you who only wish to argue further. I say you're dysfunctional. Get a life!
  4. by   DutchgirlRN
    Last year I was scheduled to work Christmas and was lucky enough to be the one who was next in line to be offered call. I was called about 9:00 and told I needed to come in because one of the other nurses wanted to go home and spend Christmas with her son. I refused to go in. I told the supervisor if you need me for patient care sure I'm there but I'm not coming in for someone else to go home. She said don't you feel bad because her son is 8 y/o and yours are 24 & 16. I said "no". This nurse works 9:00 to 3:00 x 4 days a week doing chart audits. She can arrange her hours anyway she wishes so that she is available to go to school programs, stay home if her child is sick, she is able to take her child to school and pick him up. She is obligated to work one weekend on the floor once every 6 weeks and has to do her share of holidays. I think she's pretty d*** lucky and I didn't feel that I needed to give up my time with my kids only because they're older. I didn't let them make me feel guilty either! I'm over that!
  5. by   menolly_33
    Quote from DutchgirlRN
    Last year I was scheduled to work Christmas and was lucky enough to be the one who was next in line to be offered call. I was called about 9:00 and told I needed to come in because one of the other nurses wanted to go home and spend Christmas with her son. I refused to go in. I told the supervisor if you need me for patient care sure I'm there but I'm not coming in for someone else to go home. She said don't you feel bad because her son is 8 y/o and yours are 24 & 16. I said "no". This nurse works 9:00 to 3:00 x 4 days a week doing chart audits. She can arrange her hours anyway she wishes so that she is available to go to school programs, stay home if her child is sick, she is able to take her child to school and pick him up. She is obligated to work one weekend on the floor once every 6 weeks and has to do her share of holidays. I think she's pretty d*** lucky and I didn't feel that I needed to give up my time with my kids only because they're older. I didn't let them make me feel guilty either! I'm over that!
    GOOD FOR YOU! Some people have a lot of nerve. It's like they've never even remotely considered the feelings of anyone but themselves.
  6. by   flkeyslpn
    u are being unrealistic to think that all moms should have x-mas off to spend with their children. Exactly who do u think will be working? What about the male nurses? It's not important for dad to be there? And since I don't & can't have my own children y should I have to pick up shifts for those that do? I've been nursing for 13 years & out of the 13 I've had Christmas off once during which time I spent in ICU with my grandfather watching my grandmother pass away. Every other Christmas I always asked my co-workers with children if they would like the day off & typically worked a double shift. It all depends on how u are approached.
  7. by   RN4NICU
    Quote from Nurse Hatchett
    If you have read the whole board, Marie did tell this other nurse. This board is for us to ask question, learn from one another and vent if that is what we need to do. Nursing is such a stressful profession and it is nice to have someplace to vent where someone else will understand what we are talking about. That's one thing that I love about this bb. I think it would be more dysfunctional to keep it all bottled up and not have anywhere to rant.
    :yeahthat:
  8. by   DutchgirlRN
    Quote from flkeyslpn
    u are being unrealistic to think that all moms should have x-mas off to spend with their children. Exactly who do u think will be working? What about the male nurses? It's not important for dad to be there? And since I don't & can't have my own children y should I have to pick up shifts for those that do? I've been nursing for 13 years & out of the 13 I've had Christmas off once during which time I spent in ICU with my grandfather watching my grandmother pass away. Every other Christmas I always asked my co-workers with children if they would like the day off & typically worked a double shift. It all depends on how u are approached.
    Nurses chose to work holidays when they chose to work in a hospital setting. I have worked in doctors offices and had every holiday off. I now chose to work 3 days per week in a hospital so I have to deal wtih holidays. My choice, no one else's. It doesn't matter where you're a male or a female. Holidays are important to most everyone. If you have been offering to work for others on a holiday that's great so there's no reason for you to have such an attitude. I worked the first 8 Christmas' of my career because I didn't have children. I gladly did so and never regretted it. I am thinking about myself now, becoming a grandmother for the first time and I am going to chose to get out of hospital nursing.

    Sign me, Looking for the perfect job!
  9. by   GEMINI06
    my husband is a nurse in an micu, and i am working on my master's in nursing. so when it comes to working holidays we understand that it is a must. we also have two young daughters. unfortunately, they can not understand that mommy and daddy have to work on holidays. sometmes we end up working the same holiday - not easy with little ones with expectations of being with their parents. however, instead of focusing on the holiday, my husband and i choose to focus on family togetherness. isn't that what holidays are about anyways? it would be great if we could both be home to see their faces when they wake-up christmas morning and run to a big pile of toys...and sometimes that works out. we love our time with our children if it is the morning or night of the holiday, the day before, the day after, and so on. your co-worker needs to look deep inside and think about what it is about the holiday that is so important to her. i hope you enjoy your time with your family, and i hope your co-worker realizes how special and valuable her time is with her kids, no matter when it is that she celebrates the holiday with them. last year my husband had to work christmas eve night and christmas day night because of the way the rotation fell. instead of ranting and trying to guilt others into switching shifts, we used it as a teaching opportunity for our girls to learn about giving of oneself to others in need. the girls and i made a full turkey dinner, loaded up the car, and set up the spread at the micu for the staff and families that were also "stuck" there for the holidays. holidays are what you make of them, a little creativity and extra effort can make them enjoyable for everyone! good luck!
    Last edit by GEMINI06 on Oct 22, '05
  10. by   DutchgirlRN
    :angel2: Lovely post. Welcome to allnurses. Hope to hear alot more from you. When I have to work on a holiday we celebrate it the day before or the day after. It kinda sucks but it goes with the job. I am looking to get out of hospital nursing but at age 50 I think besides the holidays that's understandable. Again, thanks lovely post.
  11. by   kadokin
    Quote from Marie_LPN
    I told her how rude she was being ("it's really rude and very unfair to just assume that someone with no kids doesn't want time off. End of discussion"). If i hadn't have, someone probably would have checked to see if i still had a pulse lol.
    Your co-worker needs to grow up. I see so much of this and I still can't believe it. It is a hospital(or whatever), it is open 24/7. You KNOW that when you agree to WORK there. If the possibility of working weekends, holidays, night or evening shifts does not fit into your lifestyle, find work ELSEWHERE! GEEZ! Some people are so clueless, selfish, I don't know what. Good for you for standing up to her Marie. I have children myself and have worked my share of holidays. It comes w/the territory and we celebrate early or on another day. If I/my family couldn't handle the adjustment, I would find work in a DR's office or some other facility that wasn't open on weekend and holidays. My mother worked as a nurse in a hospital and was a single parent. She worked some holidays and we all made the most of it. It didn't ruin our lives.
  12. by   kadokin
    Quote from flkeyslpn
    u are being unrealistic to think that all moms should have x-mas off to spend with their children. Exactly who do u think will be working? What about the male nurses? It's not important for dad to be there? And since I don't & can't have my own children y should I have to pick up shifts for those that do? I've been nursing for 13 years & out of the 13 I've had Christmas off once during which time I spent in ICU with my grandfather watching my grandmother pass away. Every other Christmas I always asked my co-workers with children if they would like the day off & typically worked a double shift. It all depends on how u are approached.
    How very kind and selfless of you. By golly you should get THIS xmas off just on general principles. God bless your good-hearted attitude.:angel2:
  13. by   kadokin
    :yeahthat:
    Quote from HappyNurse2005
    to address the original issue in the OP:
    I (as a nurse w/ 3 children) agree that the other nurse should have never assumed her reason was more important than yours. I personally think that hte only reasons that should trump others' reasons for wanting off are those once in a lifetime things-close family member death, wife had a baby, you know?
    I have a baby, this will be her first christmas-i may have to work it, and thats ok-we can do it on cmas eve-the kids will like that-they get their gifts early! I did request Halloween off, b/c trick or treating can only be done at that one time. (I wasn't here last year, and asked someone who was if Halloween had a high demand for being off, and she said no).

    Another thing to think about-What about these folks who are sick and in the hospital? They have to spend all day there-we only have to spend 8 or 12 hours. Heck, they may not even have the day before or the day after at home, they don't get paid to be there (in fact, they are PAYING to be there), etc. Why can't we have some compassion and do what we can to make their day the best we can by not being grumpy we aren't at home?

    Bottom line-i have kids, some of my coworkers don't-I in no way think I am more entitled to days off than them. I can celebrate thanksgiving on wednesday or friday-we have a small family, so it can be arranged. I can do christmas on christmas eve. the most important thing is that i spend the happy time iwht my family, not whether that happy time is december 24th or 25th.

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