So many of you are amazing people and nurses. The time you put in responding to posts on Allnurses really does make a difference.
BUT.
When people come here asking for advice on a situation, they are not looking for your opinion of them as a person or their behavior. You all know what threads I'm talking about.
It's one thing to point out that their behavior could potentially be dangerous to patients.
It's one thing to be honest and tell them that their future doesn't look too bright.
It's one thing to suggest they may find seeing a therapist very helpful.
It's another to tell them they are mentally ill, mock them RELENTLESSLY, or judge them. When you do this to your fellow nurses (that have just come to you for advice), you're worse than that poor, scared soul you FLAMED for thinking a drug abuser may have a bloodborne illness.
These posters are often simply desperate, scared, or just plain curious!
I know it's important to have a thick skin when you work in healthcare, and I sure as heck am not busting out the trigger-words bully†or NETY.†It's just that even in my CNA class, it was emphasized over and over that it's not our place to judge patients. Can't you afford the same courtesy to other nurses?
I'm generally a pretty quiet person, but I believe in standing up for other people. So I just had to put this out there.
Yes, seriously. I've come to the conclusion that much of the "outrage" expressed on this thread is intended to enforce a stereotype. If you don't conform, then you are without integrity, immoral and compared to an abused, disobedient animal. (really! Just scroll back to post#41). But, oh so respectfully, of course.
After all, we all know that nurses are responsible for fixing everything that ever happens to anyone, anywhere. A little bit like moms, that way.
I wonder, where's the concern for the damage done by being required to live up to unrealistic expectations enforced by guilt-tripping compassion police?
Sure there have been some threads that resulted in some not so nice responses. Heck, I may have even given some of those not so nice responses. But these threads pretty much ask for that type of answer. I have held my tongue [typing fingers] more than once when some fool asks a question so ridiculous that there is no way I can take it seriously. I am not going to affirm your wish to be great nurse because it is your calling when you admit to failing over half your classes because you don't actually need to study and it's just the mean teachers fault that you failed.
I do think though that lines have been crossed when it devolves into name calling and personal attacks that have nothing to do with the original topic and I admit to being a little surprised by some of them that are not deleted or at least edited. Makes me wonder how bad the one's that actually got deleted were.
Couldn't agree more. I don't get how people can be so passionate about helping patients and yet couldn't care less how they treat the rest of the team. People are people no matter who they are and we all deserve respect.
I have a thick skin, but I don't like that I'm expected to have one. The only thing I hate about nursing is that some women treat each other like crap and think it's acceptable. It's not.
[TD=colspan: 14]DATA REQUIRED BY THE PRIVACY AT OF 1974[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 14]AUTHORITY: WHFO, Department of Feelings, 13 NFO 215.
PRINCIPAL PURPOSE: To assist whiners in documenting hurt feelings, and to provide managers with a list of employees who require additional counseling, and extra duty.
ROUTINE USES: Managers & whiners should use this form as necessary.
DISCLOSURE: Disclosure is voluntary, but repeated disclosure may result in Wail To Wail or 120 Counseling.[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 14]PART I – ADMINISTRATIVE DATA[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 3]A. WHINER'S NAME (Last, First, MI)[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 5]B. COMPANY[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 5]C. SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER[/TD]
[TD]D. DATE OF REPORT
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[TD=colspan: 8]E. DEPARTMENT[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 6]F. NAME & TITLE OF THE PERSON FILLING OUT THIS FORM
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[TD=colspan: 14]PART II – INCIDENT REPORT[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 2]A. DATE FEELINGS WERE HURT
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[TD=colspan: 5]B. TIME OF HURTFULNESS[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 3]C. LOCATION OF HURTFUL INCIDENT[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 4]D. MANAGER SYMPATHETIC TO WHINER
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[TD=colspan: 7]E. NAME OF REAL MAN/WOMAN WHO HURT YOUR SENSITIVE FEELINGS[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 3]F. COMPANY[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 4]G. DEPARTMENT (if different from 1E above)[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 14]E. INJURY (Mark all that apply)[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 8]1. WHICH EAR WERE THE WORDS OF HURTFULNESS SPOKEN INTO?
o LEFT o RIGHT o BOTH[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 6]2. IS THERE PERMANENT FEELING DAMAGE?
o YES o NO o MAYBE[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 8]3. DID YOU REQUIRE A TISSUE†FOR TEARS?
o YES o NO o MULTIPLE ______[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 6]4. HAS THIS RESULTED IN A TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURY?
o YES o NO o MAYBE[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 14]F. REASON FOR FILING THIS REPORT(Mark all that apply)[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 4]I am thin skinned[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 3]The Company needs to fix my problems[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 2][/TD]
[TD=colspan: 3]The weather is too hot[/TD]
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[TD][/TD]
[TD=colspan: 4]I am a wimp[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 3]My feelings are easily hurt[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 2][/TD]
[TD=colspan: 3]My hands should be in my pockets[/TD]
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[TD][/TD]
[TD=colspan: 4]I have woman/man-like hormones[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 3]Someone hurt/killed a tree[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 2][/TD]
[TD=colspan: 3]My hands got dirty[/TD]
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[TD][/TD]
[TD=colspan: 4]I am a crybaby[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 3]I was told that I am not a hero[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 2][/TD]
[TD=colspan: 3]I was expected to work[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 4]I want my mommy[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 3]The weather is too cold[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 2][/TD]
[TD=colspan: 3]All of the above and more[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 14][/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 14]G. NARRATIVE (Tell us in your own sissy words how your feelings were hurt.)
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[TD=colspan: 14]PART III – Authentication[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 4]a. PRINTED NAME OF REAL MAN/WOMAN
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[TD=colspan: 4]b. SIGNATURE[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 4]c. PRINTED NAME OF WHINER[/TD]
[TD=colspan: 2]d. SIGNATURE[/TD]
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[TD=colspan: 14]We, as a company, take hurt feelings seriously. If you don't have someone who can give you a hug and make things all better, please let us know and we will promptly dispatch a hugger†to you ASAP. In the event we are unable to find a hugger†we will notify the fire department and request that they send fire personnel to your location. If you are in need of supplemental support, upon written request, we will make every reasonable effort to provide you with a blankeyâ€, a binky†and/or a bottle if you so desire.[/TD]
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A form just for this.........
Where did you find this? Or did you think it up yourself? Too funny! Couldn't stop laughing, laughing so hard I couldn't breathe which is better than crying so hard you can't breathe!
Reminded me of all the charting and forms I had to do when a patient fell. I can see this form revised and given to patients to fill out anytime they are unsatisfied with their care with the promise of a quick response and a reprimand to the nurse and staff to ensure the patient has an excellent experience for the Press Ganey scores. lol
Exactly! I'm with y'all! I bet if you asked a teenager what the pound sign is they wouldn't be able to tell you.
My teenagers told me about an even older usage for that symbol. It's called an octothorp and is a very old way to diagram a village with eight fields around it.
Red Kryptonite
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....and the horse you rode in on.....