Yep. I have no friends in school.

LPNtoRNin2016OH, LPN · May 2, 2016

[COLOR=#000000]Honestly, staying under the radar is the best bet in nursingschool. I have two fellow students I am tight with, we will study together, butI plan to keep my circle small. I will be nice and converse with everyone elseof course but not on a personal level. Big groups usually invite big drama andI don't have no time for that.[/COLOR]

Bradenscale · May 2, 2016

School isn't for making friends. I was the youngest one in my class and just learned to deal with being "different".

We are social creatures and nursing school encourages team work. I have buddies in class and we remind each other about assignment, it's nice to have a partner in crime. I can't imagine the long hours without my friends little jokes. But OP needs to know that her attitude about her classmates shows. if you want a friend be a friend. Of course you won't click with majority of your classmates but someone in there matches. Drop the poor man, loner attitude, no one likes that.

OP and I are the same age, i'm actually obese, disorganized, loud, zero sense of style but I have people that love studying with me, partnering and socializing. Your attitude matters.

mswilliams3 · May 2, 2016

I have had zero friends in nursing school and I'm almost done with the nursing BSN program. You will need a support system and having someone to talk to that is in your class or the nursing program would be helpful. However, your advisor or school counselor are very good people that can also be very helpful. I am 27 and I only had two really good people I could call or talk to and they were much older than me. I tried to talk, laugh, hangout and introduce myself to others in the program but no one never really welcomed me or invited me to their cliques/groups or study session. Thus, I just utilized the tutors available and would ask students who are more far along than me in the nursing program for advice. Don't feel disappointed. Just be yourself and don't worry about it. You don't need to make friends, I would say to just socialize and try to get to know people but friends don't matter because like I mentioned I had no friends but i would socialize with others and that was very helpful and satisfying to me because I found out things that I didn't know about that way.

Scrubs_n_sirens, MSN, RN · May 3, 2016

I was the same way. Except I thought girls were my friends and then when I started having to miss class more often due to illness and did better on my exams-- they accused my husband (who works in IT at the college) of changing my grades.

I was devastated.

chiromed0 · May 3, 2016

The greatest freedom you can ever experience as a human is to let go of other peoples opinion of you. As an RN the only opinion that should matter is your patient's. Earn their respect and you have done your job. Hanging around the nurses station and being liked while ignoring your patients earns their ire.

Purple_roses · May 3, 2016

I was the same way. Except I thought girls were my friends and then when I started having to miss class more often due to illness and did better on my exams-- they accused my husband (who works in IT at the college) of changing my grades.
I was devastated.

Wow. That's almost unbelievably horrible. Talk about selfish, drama, diva, awful classmates.

Evening_Primrose, ADN, RN · May 4, 2016

I was the same way. Except I thought girls were my friends and then when I started having to miss class more often due to illness and did better on my exams-- they accused my husband (who works in IT at the college) of changing my grades.
I was devastated.

that's terrible!

aeris99 · May 4, 2016

I have gotten to the point of feeling like I have a few friends in class.

But like the OP, I always felt sort of outside everything. So I talked to everyone.

I changed my seat every class through the first semester until I found someone who I gel with.

I was much happier when I stopped worrying about if I would fit into the group and just sort of plunked myself into the middle of it.

Quiet Sunshine, BSN · May 4, 2016

4. All else fails, tone it down (if you're not) and just concentrate in class and do well. People will flock to you when you do well usually.

That has been my experience, and in my opinion, it hurts just as much as being ignored/not fitting in. Cause I found that people will come to you whenever they need answers/explanations/help for school, but besides that, you're invisible. You're not good enough for them to hang out with. Not even good enough for a simple hello if I see you in the hallway. You only come to me cause you know I can help you. You end up feeling used.

I feel you OP. I'm about to start nursing school at a new school, and it looks like my best friend won't get in, so I will be pretty much by myself. I'm afraid that I won't fit in, cause I almost never do. I'm hoping that it won't be the case, but we shall see. But know that there is nothing wrong with you. Nothing!

jax777 · May 6, 2016

I have been in my program for a year and a half, it's a 4 year BSN. I came as a transfer student. I am a little older, I am 28. A huge chunk of my cohorts are under 21, and a bunch are about my age with kids and there is a few who are older (40+). I really love my teachers, but my classmates make me feel like I'm a alien from outer space.
I have studied with a girl from one of my classes, but I feel like she is always annoyed with me. I asked her if she wanted to study for finals together and she said she was going out of town and was going to study while driving down there. I told her okay and that I hoped everything was okay.
Then I go to school to study, and she's there with another group of girls. Ouch.
My brother goes to a local state college and (mine is private) and he said it's because my school has a reputation of having stuck up girls.
They all get along together and then there is me, a little bigger (wt wise), my hair isn't perfect every day (I have 2 kids and my husband travels, and I work in evenings), and I don't have any piercings/tattoos. I'm pretty plain. I speak up in class, and try and talk to people but they just don't seem to like me. What is wrong with me?

I don't understand why students can be so cliquish when it comes to preferring people their same age, but I have noticed it too in college. I don't think you should dye your hair blue and get tats for acceptance. Just be yourself; you sound like the normal one to me.

LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN · May 6, 2016

Eh...

Count me in just being social in nursing school; I have people that I have no problem having conversations and keeping in touch with, but that was mostly because I ended up flocking to lone wolves such as myself.

Despite not "fitting in", I remained respectfully friendly and stay in contact with most of the people that I had the journey with, especially my first clinical group; we were the smallest group and the most closest group.

I focused on my studies, got in and got out.

There are other social outlets and networking with nurses that can be positive and uplifting outside of school and even sometimes work, at least in my experience; try to seek those outlets out and find mentors.

Best wishes.

Natasha A., CNA, LVN · May 6, 2016

I feel for you OP and feeling lonely or neglected can hurt especially from a place you can not escape. You are perfectly fine. You seem like a caring person. Never lose your morals and integrity because it does go beyond a degree or title job. Yes, continue to be respectful toward your classmates and like others have said focus on your studies. Try to be around supportive people who truly care for you. Are you in clinical now? start networking with some of the nurses there and do the best job that you can. remember try to get as many recommendations letters as possible and focus on building your portfolio.. That comes with you after graduation . You will do fine and hang in there

I'm cheering for you OP!