Would it be Wrong?

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I was once a psych patient with an excellent nurse. I think I flirted a little bit and I'm pretty sure he was feeling me too. My question is...would it be wrong to leave him my contact information? Otherwise, what should I do? I don't want to miss a chance at love.

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The nurse pursuing any kind of personal relationship with you would be a significant violation of ethical and professional boundaries in nursing. Just let it go. Best wishes.

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Yes, it would be wrong. Leave your former nurse alone and look for love elsewhere with someone that you've not had a professional relationship.

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It would be wrong in every conceivable way. Sorry!

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).

I commend your action of seeking guidance before making a move, kellylauren.

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Kelly, this wouldn't be a romantic Against All Odds kind of thing, it'd be a career-ending kind of thing if the nurse you have feelings for did anything more at this point than wish you a good day.

At best he'd be flattered yet ignore you so as not to create a boatload of ethics violations, and that would probably hurt your feelings. And at worst it'd be a disaster for you both. Let it alone.

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I hope that is not your real name.

Research "transference", then leave the man alone.

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I can't believe this is a real post. "Miss a chance at love" sounds like something right out of a teen mag. But just in case, OP: No. Just. No.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.

Having been a psych patient myself, I know that things are very confusing for you right now & you want to find comfort in something/someone. But I can guarantee that the nurse was just being polite. Is it illegal? No. But it is morally wrong in so many ways.

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Is this post for real? Nurses know this is not ok it crosses boundaries.

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

Nurses with healthy boundaries do not become romantically or personally involved with their patients. Yes, it would be wrong to pursue this 'chance' at love.

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@kellylauren This type of scenario you are describing is considered professional misconduct; a Nurse can lose their license as this falls withing the broad category of "abuse" by regulators.

For me, as a Nurse, this kind of situation (a patient seeking romantic interest) would be my worst damn nightmare! Trust me, Nurses don't have those types of feelings for their patients, although our kindness is often mistaken for flirting by patients, especially when patient's are sad, confused, lovely, etc...

Look for love elsewhere.

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