ok so i transferred from a junior college in ga to a 4 year university in virginia for nursing (gpa 3.6) . everything went okay as far as transfer goes now i'm in my last 2 years in nursing school.
well i did get fin aid but it isn't enough to cover everything. one of the girls in my dorm strips to pay for school. she said that she makes good money. i told her that i didn't want to strip and it was out of the question . well she told me that i could always become a waitress. didn't have to take off any clothes just flirt with people and serve drinks and they make good money also.
Can i become a waitress at the club without losing my dignity or having other people find out what i do. i really need the money for nursing school because it is expensive. also it is quick easy money. i need some advice before considering doing this.
Regardless of what some people think, IMO there is nothing wrong with stripping or being a cocktail waitress at a strip club, if you are doing it for the right reasons like putting yourself through school or paying for your newborns medical bills when you have nowhere else to turn and need money quick. It is when people do it to support their drug habit that it is a problem. I see nothing wrong with it as long as you can mentally tolerate it. You may or may not be treated like a piece of meat, depends on the type of club and its clientele. If you feel comfortable, do it.
If you made great money, why in the heck did you go into nursing?
Probably it's a lot easier to get a job in nursing when you're in your 50s than getting a job as a stripper or bartender when you're in your 50s. And, I don't think strip clubs offer medical insurance or retirement plans.
Seriously to the OP: if it's not illegal and it's something that YOU are 100% comfortable with doing, then do it. No one can take your dignity from you except you. And this economy sucks: creditors don't care at all about you as the person--they just want the money you owe them and they don't care how you come by it. You have to do whatever you need to in order to survive nowadays, and if other people feel compelled to judge you for your decisions...well then, let them offer to pay your bills for you :)
But if you're not entirely comfortable either with the job, or the fact that working in strip joint could affect your life in some way down the road (be it during job hunting, if you live in a small town where everyone knows everyone's laundry, telling the future love of you life what you once did for a living, whatever), then don't do it. If you're not fully into it, your mind will never get a moment's peace as you keep wondering "why" and "what if?". There's other fields you can find work in, and since you're only looking for a job and not a career, you can even consider temp work.
The fact that you're asking here makes me think you're not entirely comfortable with the strip club and so it might not be the best for you...but only you can make that final call. Good luck whatever you decide.
Americans value good looks...salaries, jobs, and all those little extras in life are definately boosted by good looks.
That being said, anyone stupid enough to be parted with their cash at a strip club, DESERVES IT!
If I had a choice of shaking it for free in a dance club where men CAN AND DO touch, or shaking it where there are rules against touching....I'LL TAKE THE MONEY AND HAVE THOSE GENTLEMEN KEEP THEIR HANDS TO THEMSELVES!
While in school, my son worked as a bouncer at a regular club, nothing but problems-always fights over girls...DRAMA. Then he worked at a go go bar (bikinis), I wasn't sure this was such a good idea until he said that the rules are very clear, touch a girl and you are out. The patrons are aware, and there are never problems. So, the girls make a fortune and no freebies! Many are in college, many are single parents....whatever their reason, it's their business.
So, OP...If you want to do it, do it....if not, don't.
Everyone looks, at least at the club they can't touch!
As a feminist, I will defend any womans choice to support herself. I will arm her with a sympathetic ear, any advice or information if I can provide it. I won't knock her choices or look down on her as long as she made the decision herself and was not forced into it.
Can't actresses, models, and waitresses be viewed as objects? Isn't the naughty teacher fantasy extremely commonplace in tvs and movies? Strip clubs do not have a monopoly on this.
Society as a whole condemns strippers, and that gives some people the right to demean them and treat them as disposable, stupid, druggies, whatever term they want to use to make them feel better about something they don't agree with or understand.
That nurse, doctor, teacher, corrections officer, cashier you say hello and exchange pleasantries with or work alongside or saves your life may have been an exotic dancer before (or during) she had that respectable job you see her doing.
So why stereotype?
To the poster who asked about resumes- the OP can just omit that piece of info if she is so inclined. It is a resume, not a sworn affidavit.
At the Inauguration I met on of my mother's friends.
35 years old Kindergarten teacher in a small Montessori school. Married for nine years, two children. Husband highly successful.
She is very friendly, nice, intelligent, interesting and quite the normal person.
She stripped for a year. Yes, I found this out during a 5 hour long conversation after meeting her.
Anyone claiming that a stripper doesn't value themselves or that they lose dignity are obviously speaking from a place of judgment based on THEIR values or religion. Most likely they are not speaking from a place of experience or knowledge based on experience. At most these judgments come from anecdotal evidence or church.
If the woman wants to do something IT IS NOT exploitation or demeaning. In fact, I would argue that a stripper that is experienced at plying money from drunk and usually immature men is the one doing the exploitation.
"You can't violate the willing."
"You can't LOSE dignity."
"Just because you were taught that something is wrong or believe it is wrong DOES NOT make it wrong."
.....I remember I was accepted into the LPN Program and I did not have any money; so I spent a year to work 3 jobs--2 part time jobs and 1 full time. With the financial assistance and loans, I finished the program and passed the NCLEX-PN in 1999.
A year after that, I was accepted into an RN Program and I have been an RN since 2004. When I sometimes look back, I found out it was a tough life; but I enjoyed it....especially the day I received my RN license!!!
You know - my opinion is based on compassion for the OP . . . . at least cut me a little slack for that.
I truly don't believe that selling your body is good for you.
Why is that such a bad idea?
steph
I can dig that. Stripping isn't for everyone, even the most level-headed woman can get sucked in or risk losing friendships and relationships because of the nature of the job. I don't think anyone on here would steer someone into a job that may cost them their goals. If she lives in a city where bartenders and waitresses make great money, then that is fine she should do that. But it isn't always the case. I have seen waitresses in strip clubs make less than 10 bucks a night sometimes. Many end up on the stage after a few weeks of lousy money.
I wouldn't consider it selling her body though, she is putting on a show and getting paid to make company with the gentleman of HER choice. Granted she is nearly naked (or naked- although in VA stripclubs aren't nude, I think she said she is in Virginia) so that makes some people nervous or angry or what have you.
ok so i transferred from a junior college in ga to a 4 year university in virginia for nursing (gpa 3.6) . everything went okay as far as transfer goes now i'm in my last 2 years in nursing school.
well i did get fin aid but it isn't enough to cover everything. one of the girls in my dorm strips to pay for school. she said that she makes good money. i told her that i didn't want to strip and it was out of the question . well she told me that i could always become a waitress. didn't have to take off any clothes just flirt with people and serve drinks and they make good money also.
Can i become a waitress at the club without losing my dignity or having other people find out what i do. i really need the money for nursing school because it is expensive. also it is quick easy money. i need some advice before considering doing this.
Maybe I missed something here. Why do you associate being a bartender at a club with a loss of dignity. Why the need to hide that?
I dont think most people care about such things as much as we think they do. We spend so much time placing the ducks in order and molding the perfect image we want everyone else to see.......just to find out no one was paying any attention in the end.
Now, as far as being a dancer goes, thats another story, but it still has nothing to do with being worried about image. Being a dancer, you get put in funny situations sometimes. I know a little bit about this only because.....well, I considered opening a strip club and running it. I had a lot of ideas about how to go about it that I thought were great (a special room for designated drivers and a few other things). In the end, I didnt go this route and went into travel nursing. After talking to friends (from nursing school) who I knew were in this business (as dancers, bartenders, one managed) before school, I decided it just would not be the type of challenge I wanted. The problem with environments such those at a club are, there are drugs and prostetution going on no matter how "clean" or "honest" an establishment you try to create. Now, obviously this aspect wouldnt be what atrracted you. U, like me, would have only been there cause, well, its a cash cow even for the honest people.
Anyway, back to my point. Do you really want to be in the dancer dressing room when the cops bust in and arrest someone for prostitution and start looking for drugs? No. Guilty by association is the same as guilty. You dont want this type of thing on your record as you are applying to hospitals.
Hey, even being a bartender has its risks. But not as much as dancing IMO. Thats why I stayed away from getting into the business. Didnt want to have to babysit a bunch of people who live the "life is a non stop party" types who have no capacity to understand the long term consequences of their actions. But, if you are just standing at the bar handing out Cap'n and Cokes and beer, I think you wont have a hard time keeping your nose clean, even from "guilt by association".
As a nursing student, you will have very unique opportunities to work for the school under the workstudy program. You get to make your own schedule and the job is not high stress (usually, I've heard differently from those who were put in the FA office).
I did this while in nursing school. Its a very good option if you can do it. I even got moved out from under the workstudy program and was made a staff member on the school's payroll. I worked with students who needed support in other ways than tutoring (escorted a blind student to classes etc......). It was a great experience and worked so well for me.
. everything went okay as far as transfer goes now i'm in my last 2 years in nursing school.
. well she told me that i could always become a waitress. didn't have to take off any clothes just flirt with people and serve drinks and they make good money also.
or having other people find out what i do. i really need the money for nursing school because it is expensive. also it is quick easy money. i need some advice before considering doing this.
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Princess_M83
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Regardless of what some people think, IMO there is nothing wrong with stripping or being a cocktail waitress at a strip club, if you are doing it for the right reasons like putting yourself through school or paying for your newborns medical bills when you have nowhere else to turn and need money quick. It is when people do it to support their drug habit that it is a problem. I see nothing wrong with it as long as you can mentally tolerate it. You may or may not be treated like a piece of meat, depends on the type of club and its clientele. If you feel comfortable, do it.