When did you find your calling?

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Hi all!

Everyone here is so welcoming and informative. I apologize in advance if there are millions of threads about this but I'd love to hear everyone's story. A little about myself (which will lead to my questions I promise!) I'm 27 with a Bachelors and currently completing a few pre-requisite classes to apply for accelerated BSN programs here in the Dallas area (UT Arlington is my first choice, Texas Tech is my second which is where my first B.A is from). I won't be eligible until Spring of 2017 to begin Nursing school. True to form I have researched, weighed all of my options, compiled many thoughts and such, along with hours of scouring this website. I'm in a fortunate position that I will be able to dedicate my time to Nursing school when the time comes for clinical and such. I feel confident in the fact that the timing is everything and the time is now to do this in my life. Of course, I am a little scared to take the plunge. I know that the risk is worth the reward but still in the back of my mind there is a little worry. Nursing has been something I have toyed with for about a year and a half now and I think I'm finally ready. My job is completely unfulfilling, unsatisfying, unchallenging, typical cold, dull, dry Corporate America. I have realized this is not what I want to spend the rest of my life doing. Staring at spreadsheets, worrying if I'll have a job given oil prices, and everything in between.

Cardiology, EP, and Anesthesia have always interested me. My dad had his first heart attack at the age of thirty and has had 7 since. I'm his caretaker and I almost lost him this January. There were so many nurses, doctors, NP's, PA's, CNA's, techs, and more that I remember so poignantly during his stay's in the hospital (he's been in and out about every three months for over a year). I feel compelled to give back to those who have been in not only my dad's shoes but mine as well.

However, I just don't see myself in a bedside nursing role. Being in a clinical setting, a cath lab, EP lab, surgery role speaks more to me than bedside. Even working for a medical device company, like Medtronic as someone who interrogates ICD's. I do know that I want to further my education eventually, like a CNS, NP, or CRNA (I know this requires at least a year of acute care). So my question: when did you know you were where you were meant to be? Did you stumble upon it? Was it what you always dreamed of? Just curious, I know I will find my niche as I already have strong interests.

Thanks y'all!

Specializes in Geriatrics, Transplant, Education.

I wanted to be a nurse since I was ten years old and watching my brother go through treatment for juvenile pilocytic astrocytoma. Was always fascinated by his nurses and the idea of helping people. It stuck, and off to a BSN program I went when I hit 18. I completed my MSN in nursing education 2 years ago and now I take on students for senior practicum and also teach a med surg clinical.

Nurses are not called. We do the calling.

I was a young mother with a toddler. We were in and out of the hospital when he was diagnosed with a one in a million blood disorder.

I researched his disease ( the old fashioned way at a med school library) and became interested in the science of medicine.

Actually sold myself short.. shoulda.. coulda.. woulda.. been a doctor.

I "heard" my calling when I received the call from the HR recruiter saying "You have been offered this position."

It sounded suspiciously like "Cha-ching!!"

Im not trying to invalidate this or anything, just have a question - what are the common reasons that are cited for not wanting to work peds?

I guess as a peds nurse myself, I dont have as much experience with people who dont want to do it :p

I don't want to do peds 'cause sick kids break my heart. And my temper doesn't allow me to be around bad parents.

Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.

My daughter called me into nursing by being born with asthma. I couldn't get a grip on how to treat her. My next door neighbor's son was asthmatic with the same seasonal triggers. If we were both in the ED at the same time, he would get to go home after a neb tx and my daughter would be checked in for a short stay. His mom was an RN, I wasn't.

My husband called me into nursing by selfishly inheriting a congenital lung disease. I wanted to really understand what was going on with his disease process.

Money called me into nursing. My kids were half-raised, I was looking at a potential widowhood, and I needed to find something that paid relatively well.

No angels called my name, not even Florence.

Specializes in Allergy/ENT, Occ Health, LTC/Skilled.

I am not a religious or overly spiritual person but I have certainly felt a pull toward the field and feel nursing has given me many life skills I needed. It's the only adult job I have ever known though. I became an STNA at 19, graduated with my LPN at 21, and at 28 am 18 months out from finishing my LPN to RN bridge program. I have never worked in a hospital though, I hope to when I graduate, but I cannot offer any insight there. Most of my LPN career has been spent in LTC and clinics. There are days I feel crazy for going into nursing but I suspect that's the case with any career choice. I even took 6 months off because of serious burn out and really reconsidered if it was what I wanted to spend my life doing. Once I reaffirmed this is the career field for me, I haven't looked back. I enjoy the co workers in the health care field, sarcasm is my most favorite thing among friend traits lol, and it utilizes the skills I already had like organization and efficiency. I feel it's where I fit in in and that's close to being "called to it" I would assume. Now for what field I am drawn too, I am saving that for my clinical rotation. Of course there are areas where I am interested in like ICU and ER but I need to see what really goes down before I stake a claim in the area I hope to be employed in. If I were you, I would get your STNA and find a job working as a PCT in a hospital if your income allows it, or do weekends and work around your corporate schedule. You can see if that environment is right for you that way but also be aware you can do many things with your RN that does not involve patient care so that's also something to consider. I used to be in Occupation Health and the RN's I worked with were in very corporate type positions so if close patient care wasn't your item of interest you could use your already established corporate background. Good luck to you!

My calling is to lounge around the house in my pajamas, sleep on the couch, and binge watch ER while eating Oreo Ice Cream :p I knew this was my calling when I was about 8 years old (except back then it was Saddle Club, not ER).

This is my dreeaaaammmmm!!!!! Please don't crush it.

I've mentioned before in another thread that I'm a hybrid - I came to nursing for both pure practical need (we were broker than broke with three small children) and emotional drive. My grandmother was a nurse, and I spent many nights curled up in her bed falling asleep while looking at her starched white dress, cap, and hose hanging from the back of her soor, ready for the next morning. I had the honor of graduating from the same program my grandmother received her diploma from.

But all the emotional hippy dippy aside, I viewed nursing as a way to escape a broken, dysfunctional home. My dad was an Army Corps of Nursing recruiter. I didn't want him to get any of the glory of me enlisting, so I had planned to enlist a week after graduating, telling no one, and escaping to a wide exciting world.

Then I met a boy, fell in love, had kids, and never joined up, but thought of nursing still.

Now I'm a nurse, we can afford to live like normal people, and I find the technical/scientific aspect drives my love for my craft.

Those of us that don't feel nursing is a calling often think the whole "calling" thing to be one of the reasons nurses are treated so badly as far as low pay, terrible ratios, being dumped upon by all other disciplines, and being disrespected by pretty much everyone across the board. After all, nursing is a calling! We must be martyrs for the cause! Let's all bend over and take it because we are called to serve others!

So yeah, you will find a lot of people to be the exact opposite of passionate when you call nursing a calling. I find it to be a bit of a dirty word.

That's unfortunate. I'm sorry you feel so disrespected by your position. That's why I'm making a change, maybe you should do the same.

Specializes in ICU.

OP, I'm assuming you won't be posting again in this thread because you are not getting the answers you wanted to hear, but I really hope you are still reading this thread.

You are this romantic dream about what nursing is and if there is one thing I have learned over my past two years on this site, is that you are the type of person who will become disillusioned with nursing and do not understand what the job or schooling entails and you most likely will not make it. You are letting a job define who you are. Nursing is a job, the same as any other profession. It's one of many that you will wear every week. You think that this job is going to make you happy in life. If you are currently generally not happy in life, you need to fix that first. Don't put all of your cards into becoming a nurse.

It's extremely competitive to get into nursing school. It's cutthroat. Let's hope you graduated with a decent gpa from your other degree. Do you have a plan on how to pay for it? With a previous bachelor's, chances are you won't get any financial aid. ABSN programs are extremely expensive. If you are not working, plan a way to pay for it all.

I get irritated with the I have a calling to get into nursing things. Like somehow, your calling trumps me and makes you better than those of us who don't have this "calling". No light has ever appeared in front of me and Flo herself did not tell me this is what I was meant to do. And to my knowledge, nobody in the spiritual world has left a message on my voicemail. Maybe they just don't leave messages these days. Don't know. I just know I have always been fascinated with the medical field and I am a person who likes to take care of other people.

I am also realistic of the job, what it entails, and how business works. A hospital, a medical device company, and place you work for is in fact, a business and money is the bottom line. Just like your job right now where money is the bottom line. To get into the fields you are looking at, you are going to have to have some bedside experience. Understand that now. The work is demanding, you will have crappy coworkers, you will deal with crappy patients, and their crappy families. You will be showering and wiping butts. You will be cleaning up vomit and pee. You will deal with blood and all kinds of bodily fluids. You will deal with death. You will be transferring obese patients. Understand this all now. This will all happen in clinical.

Accelerated programs are fast and difficult. Nursing school is a whole different animal. It's not like your previous degree or your prereqs where you are memorizing and spitting back out information. You will be critically thinking. You will have 4 right answers as your choices on tests. You must pick the "most" right answer out of the four. You will have math and Select All That Apply questions. No half credit for getting a couple right. You miss one or pick one too many, it's wrong. 75-80% is now considered failing. There is no rounding on grades. If you get a 79.999999999% and you need an 80 to pass, you fail. Now do this with 21 credits in a semester and you are in an accelerated program.

All of these things I stated above are true and you will need to be prepared ahead of time or you will not make it. Like I stated earlier, the ones that think they have this "calling" and want a way out of their current jobs are the ones that die out first. Do you have a good job and make decent money? If you do, take all of this into consideration before leaving it. Some places in this country are saturated with new grad nurses and it is difficult to find a job. I fortunately do not live in one of those areas, but I think it's CA that has a 47% new grad unemployment rate. Research you job market. Shadow a nurse now on the job. I feel like you said you researched, but I'm thinking maybe not enough.

Specializes in Allergy/ENT, Occ Health, LTC/Skilled.

This is a very good and accurate response that I think every person needs to read before they go into nursing. The hard to find a job as a new nurse is still very prevalent in many big cities and many people are still under the illusion that when you receive your shiny new RN that you will get a job the next hour. That's why it's good to be a PCA in school, you have a door in to being hired. I currently work PRN just so I have a spot to be hired on. It actually costs money for me to work there because my husband makes more working over time but I need a back up option to pay my student loans in case working at a hospital doesn't happen for me for awhile. So many do not realize that :(. And school is very difficult but I have three kids under 6, work PRN, a husband who works FT, and I have maintained a 4.0 at a difficult university. Many students I am in class with who have no kids and no jobs can hardly maintain the minimum 3.0 so that's always been interesting to me....Up until last April I worked 40 hours a week and still maintained all of that, just be prepared for zero social life or extra activities.

Specializes in Neurosciences, stepdown, acute rehab, LTC.

So, I wanted to go into advertising , writing , or journalism. I didn't even like science. I thought about this logically, and thought "well maybe by the time I'm 30 (I was 20) I will want to feel like I can make a difference along with some other practical considerations. I did become a CNA to be sure, and it turned out to be the right prediction. I've always known I would want to focus on my career and education through life, no matter what. Though I wasn't very spiritual at the time of my calling, I believe it was a calling anyways. To me, there doesn't need to be any grand emotion or epiphany, extreme altruism to qualify as a calling. Just a certain level of pull, drive , circumstances, Etc. I stayed in nursing for more reasons. There are many. For the record, I agree with others that you need to be realistic or it's not going to work.

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