Was told by an aide that I'm not CUT OUT for Nursing

beccy1975 · Nov 19, 2004

My opinion is if you really want to do nursing, you will no matter what. Hold your head high and do your job to the best of your ability. Good luck and hang in there if thats what you really want.

talaxandra · Nov 19, 2004

Hi Tabbey

y'know, there are some people you should listen to about how you're going - your clinical teacher, the RNs you're working with, your patients and your fellow students - and even then you have to allow for the fact that people have their own issues and agendas. however, if they're all saying the same thing maybe they're right.

Then there are the people who you can ignore without question. Any question that this woman's remarks may have had any validity was gone when I read that she made a comment about your not being able to carry off wearing pink scrubs! Come on - she's clearly got some issue of her own.

Take this experience. Use it to remember that people can assume authority they don't have, and can be really persuasive as they try to feed you a bowl of faeces!

Good luck :)

cwazycwissyRN, RN · Nov 19, 2004

ya know how many nurses i know, that are nurses because someone told them they were not cut out to be nurses or that they could never do it???

lots!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

go get em kid!!!!!!!!!!!

wonderbee, BSN, RN · Nov 19, 2004

Tabby, some people should just put a sock in it and stop while they're ahead. Are you going to let the insidious conversation of an aide stand in your way? Maybe you don't have any good come backs or one liners but that's not the point. The point is, you have to develop a thick skin in this business because there are a lot more where she came from.

My first night precepting as a tech on a med-surg floor, I was paired up with super tech, a fourth semester nursing student who didn't walk, she ran through the halls and wouldn't take a single break. I couldn't keep up with her. NO ONE could keep up with her. She turned precepting into an olympic time trial. Because of this, she told me that I should reconsider my choice of nursing and lose a few pounds.

Just letting you know that they're out there. Hold on to that dream and don't give others like her the power in your head to take it away.

kat

tabbeycatt · Nov 19, 2004

Thank you all. It is so good to know I can come here and get support. Yesterday was SO MUCH better. I met with my nursing supervisor (who is wonderful BTW) and she put me with another aide. She was very upset that the one aide made me feel so inadequate. She said I was there to "learn" not to be judged. The aide she put me with yesterday was so patient and kind. I'm gonna be on this floor for the next couple of weeks with this particular aide until I get the hang of how things go.

I passed the snotty aide @ the elevators on my way back from lunch and she said "are you having a better day today?" I said back to her.... MUCH better now that I'm with **** as my trainer." She didn't have a reply back to me.

I even got to do more than just give a bath yesterday. I dc'd my first IV. (I know not a big deal) I also had a paraplegic on a trach that kind of freaked me out a bit. As an aide we can't suction and when we were in there cleaning him up he kept getting "choked". He was a DNR and I was so afraid he was gonna expire. I know I have to get over that fear.... I just haven't had it happen to me yet. He was so sad. He had a boating accident @ age 38 (he's now 52) and he has been like this since. He didn't have any family there or anything. I wanted to cry when we were bathing and shaving him. The look in his eyes was so pittiful. It broke my heart.

Thanks for your words of encouragement. It means more than you know.

RuthieRN2008 · Nov 19, 2004

Hi Tabby,

I wouldn't pay that aide any mind either. I mean, there are people out there that are definitely not fitting for the nursing profession, but as a lot of people already wrote before me, you have to decide that!

If you have worked there for 4 days you cannot be expected to have the same flow of things the (health care aides) HCA have, that is just unreasonable!

I think you should go for the RN because it sounds to me like you fit very well for it and since you just have 4 classes left, GO FOR IT! In any case, those courses can help you in choosing other carreers if you really find out nursing is nothing for you.

~Ruth~

JenNJFLCA · Nov 19, 2004

And why isn't this know-it-all aide a nurse herself? :stone That's what you need to be asking yourself. I am sure you're doing just fine. I've heard it takes a really long time to get comfortable. Don't lose hope and DON'T listen to her!!

simple500 · Nov 20, 2004

:angryfire don't let her discourage you!

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[color=#483d8b]some people are like that; they

[color=#483d8b]don't want to see you succeed in life. she's just jealous! :angryfire

Jo Dirt · Nov 20, 2004

I wasn't a very good nurse aid, it would take me forever to get someone cleaned up or situated, and even then when I would clean BM it had a way of simply smearing around on me and making a bigger mess....though there were other aides who could clean it with one hand and make the bed with the other.

I find actual nursing, however, much easier. It takes one kind of skill and aptitude to be a nurse aid but it takes others to be a nurse. Perhaps it is lucky for you that your aptitude and skills will be worth more financially than this aide's. In other words, don't listen to her. I might ask her if she knows what it is like to do a nurse's job. If she says yes ask her why she isn't doing it, and don't let her throw that no money and time excuse at you. Anyone who is capable can go to school if they want to .If she knew so much she would be a nurse running the floor in stead of the hiney wiper.

Palamejo · Nov 20, 2004

Hi
Remeber that the people who question themselves are usually the people who absolutely belong!!
Mary Ann

Just had to say how very encouraging your words to the original post are to me! I am just ending up my first year in a 2 year ADN program and I question myself all the time!! It is good to hear that questioning yourself is a good thing!

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Nov 20, 2004

Hiney-wiper?? Two wrongs do not make a right.

chenoaspirit, ASN, RN · Nov 20, 2004

She is apparently very jealous of you. Some aides are very touchy because they feel they are getting the crappy jobs delegated to them (not all aides, most are wonderful). Maybe she is one of those who do not take pride in her position and took the opportunity to make herself feel more important by making someone else feel bad (a nursing student). I had an instructor like that. I was doing fine until I had her for maternity nursing. She made me feel exactly like the aide made you feel. I lacked self confidence and came home crying every night, feeling like a loser. It took alot out of me. I stuck with it though. I know how you feel and its hard to get over it. I hope you go back and finish. You will probably feel like that for a while, but you will get over it. You arent expected to know those things immediately, thats why you are in school....to learn it. If an aide says something like that to you again, just look at her and say...."well, Im here to learn. Nursing may not be for you, maybe thats why you are the AIDE". I know that sounds mean, but when someone tries to make you feel bad about yourself, turn it back on them. Most aides arent like that. Most aides are nice and very helpful.