Was told by an aide that I'm not CUT OUT for Nursing

HAngel · Dec 10, 2004

Yesterday was a horrible day for me. I am externing on a Med-Surg floor and was told by an aide that she didn't think I was "cut-out" for nursing. I just came off of orientation and have worked a total of 4 days on the floor and she said that I'm not "cutting it." That maybe I should re-consider my career choice and that the medical field is not for everyone. I'm devastated. I have doubted myself constantly about my capabilities.... to the point that I completed my first year of nursing school and then dropped out this semester. I thought maybe externing would give me some much needed confidence and keep things fresh in my mind for when I start back next fall. Now.... I'm not even sure if I should waste any more time with this at all. I mean... she must be right. If I can't handle the duties of an aide-- then surely I won't "cut it" as a nurse.
I just have a hard time "prioritizing" my time and not sure of how the "flow" of things are suppose to go. I get so nervous sometimes and really lack self-confidence. But I love people... and truly care about making a difference. I just don't know what to do. I am 4 classes away of becoming a RN. I don't know if I should finish or take this aide's advice and throw in the towel now.

PLEASE DON'T THROW IN THE TOWEL... I have been an aide for over 6 years, and I think sometimes aides assert themselves in this way because of all of the reasons mentioned... for one, there probably is a hint of jealousy... you train tons of people, and they pass you by in the career ladder... I also think that sometimes, like most people, we can think we know the right way for everything:) Also, it takes awhile to become efficient at aide work. I don't think you have to be a perfect aide to be a phenomenal nurse. Lastly, aides are told what to do 24-7 in their jobs... her asserting herself in this matter may be her way of trying to feel in control of her position (I know that sounds weird, but it's a possibility). Regardless, this experience will help you to value your aides once you are an RN and all the work they have to do, and it is one step toward developing a thicker skin in the workplace (which unfortunately you'll need).

Good luck to you!:)) You're going to be fine:) You know your abilities deep in your heart- we'll be good RN's:)

Hangel:):)