Verbally, mentally & emotionally abused by patient where do I turn.

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The abuse to not only myself but my other co workers and residents has been going on since Oct last year. It's like being in a abusive relationship you can't get out of. It is to the point he beings ppl to tears and panic attacks. 4 weeks ago he ran his electric w/c into me I am now doing PT for. My employer was supposed to issue a 30 notice several times and has yet to do it, instead they moved me to a different unit, cut my hours "due to census" and have had to make changes to activities d/t his bullying patients in there, he degrades, belittles, and with comments regarding some having big azz etc I am sure sexual harrassemt might fall in there. We feel helpless and don't know where to turn, can anyone please give advice or point me in the right direction on how to proceed. Our CNA's are union and are considering seeing if union will get involved but not sure that they can. We feel our employer has failed to protect us and we should have some sort of rights, dont we??

If we quit he wins :( I am going to start making some calls to some of the places talked about on here. I am also going to talk to my boss again.

No, if you quit and find new employment, you win. Don't give him a second thought. If all of his caregivers quit, the facility administrators would finally have to do something about their problem patient.

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Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

Boom, big red light there. It is not common for a resident to go through several LTC facilities---there is a REASON for it and someone at your facility was so eager to fill a bed that they didn't do their homework. Not cool.

No he isn't private pay, has no private ins, DON says even if they give him a 30 day notice he had to want to go to a new place or they can't force him :( she says he has been to do many places and done the same thing
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I don't work LTC to know what the typical thing to do here is. I can speak from personal experience though. My friend's father is mentally intact but just a jerk, and he has been kicked out of three nursing homes so far. He's private pay. So obviously some homes do ask abusive residents to leave if they abuse staff. In the case of my friend, her father just hurls abusive words around if he doesn't get his way. And as I said, he's mentally intact- just has a real anger problem and doesn't care what people think.

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This person is A&O, he doesn't care if your male or female. My ADON is male he had even broke him, he walks in his room each day for tx and does so with head down and stressed at the thought of going in. The patent is a big guy who from my understanding has been mean and bullying to others always including family. He did have a apartment but decided to give it up. He didn't do pt, heck even tells dr what he will and won't do. He refused psych says he isn't the one with a problem we need to do what we are told. Because he is no that to himself and he twist things so terribly that even the police did nothing. I like many loved coming to work each day, love my pts etc now many of us dread it for fear this won't change. If we quit he wins :( I am going to start making some calls to some of the places talked about on here. I am also going to talk to my boss again.

But by declining to help himself and acting violently, his is a danger to others, if not himself. What does the local elder protective services say? Because that would be where I would report this next. There are various sections that he would have to get a psych evaluation. And what rights you all have in discharging him home. Because if he is A&O and can take care of himself, no need for him to be in LTC.

And again, stop putting your head down (or your ADON) and bowing and curtseying to his every whim. Straight in the eye, clear direction and document the heck out of this.

If he is independent, there really is no reason an apartment can't be secured for him.

What a miserable experience and existence to be that nasty 24/7. But ya'll do need education on how to deal with this. And that can come from other nurses who deal with this every day. Sounds to me as if he is running the show. Which is just dandy, until it becomes abusive. Then every stone needs to be turned to put this man in a place he can simmer in his own juices, or treat him for his depression/anxiety whatever it is that is causing him to act out. Or for him to be transferred to a facility that specializes in behaviorally challenging patients.

I would bet my last buck that either this man is a long term alcoholic/addict that now can not partake in either, or has some sort of organic brain disease that has been present for many years. It is just over the top unreasonable behavior that seemingly has no interventions that point to some organic cause, I would think.

But he is very, very good at developing coping skills, just terrorize everyone into submission.....

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If we quit he wins :(

Who told you that, your employer who is taking the path of least resistance?

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
Who told you that, your employer who is taking the path of least resistance?

This.

You owe it to yourself to vote with your feet and get a new job, because clearly Administration is going to allow this to happen.

File that civil suit, get better and find a new job.

Best wishes.

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Specializes in ER.
It is ltc, I tried to file charges ava the d.a. turned me away but said I might have a civil suit against work. But declined to tell me what I could do next. My work knows this. They are aware of everything he does, yet the administration bends over backwards for him and takes lil action and their words do nothing to changea terrible situation

in the ER, we call the police for any threats verbal or physical. LTC, or any other setting, is no different. You don't need permission from anyone at your job to protect yourself. It is illegal to assault anyone. This person is getting away with it. It is up to us in healthcare to set the tone of zero tolerance. No verbal or physical abuse is ever to be tolerated. Period. Your management SHOULD side with you. This resident should then be kicked out if behavior is not changed. Issued a summons by local law enforcement should help matters. This has nothing to do with YOUR JOB, as management CANNOT hold this over your head. It is illegal to assault. Period. Do the right thing and stop taking this. Call the non emergency number and tell them you are filing an assault charge.

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Specializes in ER.

I really am beside myself with other posts on here about how to manage this guy (no matter the setting). ASSAULT and any type of threat is illegal, people. ILLEGAL. He is alert/oriented. We can surmise he then understands what he is doing. He then can understand the consequences. OP, has anyone said to stop it NOW or I am calling the police?

That usually stops people. If not, then call away...

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Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

This guy is an azz because people allow him to be one.

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Specializes in Rehabilitation,Critical Care.

I met two of these patients before. So far, I have not met another one yet and praying that I won't.

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The easiest thing to do is to move on and get another job. When the DA refused to help you, you had your answer to fighting this situation. The employer is cutting your hours? They are giving you a strong hint. Take it.

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Specializes in Infusion Nursing, Home Health Infusion.

This makes me angry that your employer cut your hours.They are basically choosing the patient and his payments over their employee.Your employer needs to read how Southwest Airlines supports their employers and this is not it.This is battery by the way he he touches anyone and assault if he threatens.

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