lovinglife2015

You need to move for your own well being. I know that Craigslist gets a bad rap, but if you look under the "shared rooms" area you would likely find a few potential housemates to vett. You're essentially renting a room in their apt/home, so you wouldn't have to pay as much cost upfront. Just be smart and meet in a public place first.

You're kidding, right?

I was speaking about my own experience. That said, you did mention that your mom raised you and your siblings alone, so people inferred that your dad was absent. If he's a positive presence in your life, great. What does he have to say about your mom's emotionally abusive behavior?

Couples break up, that's no excuse to abandon your children. Who knows what the circumstances were for OP's parents, but in general, just because a relationship fails, it doesn't justify a parent leaving the kids; never to be heard from again. My mom re-married when I was a toddler and I never heard from my bio-dad again until adulthood when he left a message with my maternal grandmother for me to contact him. Hah! After all those years of absence, he had the nerve to put the responsibility on me to call him. Needless to say, I let sleeping dogs lie.

What type of school did you attend? What is their pass rate?

Seriously? OP gets kudos for wanting to raise her kids? How patronizing. Anywhooo...if that was OP's stance from the start, why create a post in the first place? Why apply to jobs an hour away if you already KNOW that you can't/won't take the job? Did you just remember your health problems or that you want to stay home? Stop back-peddaling and stop looking for internet strangers to validate your choices. Staying at home with our kids is very important the first few years and if that's what OP wants to do my main question was and still is: Why isn't her husband stepping up to the plate to make that happen? At any job/profession, you have to know when to cut your losses and move on to greener pastures and it seems that OP hasn't sat her husband down and had that discussion. Pardon me for pointing out the obvious.

...and what was your reply? In all of your examples, you keep leaving out the part where you told her that her behavior and treatment is inappropriate. Are you afraid to speak up and react on the spot or what?

It's not that I "hate" my mom per se, I just happen to cherish boundaries, privacy and being able to be intimate with my husband whenever and wherever the mood arises in our home. Most people that accomplish anything in life have to overcome obstacles whether it be health, poverty, loss of loved ones, whatever. Few people make it through life struggle free. You didn't mention any health concerns in your first post -or perhaps I overlooked it? Nonetheless, if you have a dream, hopefully you can put those critical thinking skills to good use and make it happen some day.

Oh, please. I'm not attacking OP. I'm offering a different perspective. Not every opinion is going to blow cookies and cream up your booty, nor should it. A grown woman/mother/wife at age 26 is (prematurely)lamenting the "death" of her career choice, coming up with a million excuses why she can't instead of figuring out how she can. That's sad. She needed a dose of reality, or at the very least to read a different point of view. If the harshest thing she (or you)has ever read is my opinion, live a little longer.

My apologies, but that's my 2 cents. The longer the thread goes, the sicklier you get. Can you raise another child with your poor health? That's something to consider. I'm from the South, as well(Virginia) and I don't know any married families living with their parents, though I know that it happens. My husband would be lucky to get sex at all, much less another child if he had me living at my mom's while he was off god knows where, making very little money. We all have different tolerance levels, so you know what you can accept.

You've been emotionally abused. Seek counseling asap, seriously. I commend you for having the courage to persevere and get your education, despite your mother's emotional blackmail. At some point it would probably be best for you to cut her off, but you will have to figure that out for yourself. Check out this article and blog and see if you can relate. When Mothers Blame Others for their own Disgraceful Behavior :: Emerging From Broken

You said previously that you were saving money. Since you're not paying rent, put aside that money to fund the move. We can either be victims of life circumstances or make better choices and break the cycle. Just food for thought.

''Ahhhhh...moving would probably be a good idea. You're only 26, but you'll be 30 in the blink of an eye. Trust me it goes fast, especially when you have kids. Having a solid 5 year plan would help, rather than just going through life on a hope and prayer.

Your husband can't go to a trade school? Plumbers are making $70-80K a year. Or has he resigned himself to a life of poverty? Our parents won't be around to bail us out forever. At some point we have to sink or swim on our own.

Even if you don't work as an LVN, you can still get a job. Local YMCA's and day cares often hire people with healthcare experience.