Venting about classmates with families...

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OK, I am getting sooooo sick and tired of my classmates thinking that just because I don't work, have kids, or a husband..I have no problems. When did having problems only become exclusive to family life. I suffer my fair share of problems that drastically altered my grades first semester and was on the brink of failing..battled severe depression because of my problems and barely passed on...Im not going into detail about my personal life, but its just mind blowing how many of my classmates have this ONE SIDED VIEW ON life, its almost sickening....

Specializes in Cardiac/Med Surg.

i have to say that i am amazed how quickly and the amount of posts there are to this thread.

when i went to nursing school, graduated 2 years ago, it didn't seem to matter if you were single or married with children, you could and did fail.

i loved having the support of family while in school but would of done just as well if i was young and single...but everyone is different.

good luck to all and go with the flow....relax and take deep breaths. i always have said if you treat people like you want to be treated life is so much easier, and someone always has it worse off than i..:redpinkhe..pertaining to myself that has been true.

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i have to say that i am amazed how quickly and the amount of posts there are to this thread.

when i went to nursing school, graduated 2 years ago, it didn't seem to matter if you were single or married with children, you could and did fail.

i loved having the support of family while in school but would of done just as well if i was young and single...but everyone is different.

good luck to all and go with the flow....relax and take deep breaths. i always have said if you treat people like you want to be treated life is so much easier, and someone always has it worse off than i..:redpinkhe..pertaining to myself that has been true.

i agree, i don't remember this issue ever coming up or even crossing my mind. i think the majority of my nursing class consisted of women with children. i don't remember hearing anyone complain one way or another(about having children or about other people complaining about having children).

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Specializes in ER, PACU, Med-Surg, Hospice, LTC.
If you don't have kids, you don't get it. It actually means you love something more then yourself.

Riiiiiiiiiiight........That's why we see abused and neglected children brought into the ER everyday for horrific injuries. Tell that to the kids shuffled around in Foster care because nobody really wants them. Tell that to kids that could be adopted, but that a couple would rather do everything under the sun to "have their own" than adopt.......

I see the way a lot of parents treat their children. I would say that there are many that should have never been allowed to breed. If they love their children more than themselves, they sure have an odd way of showing it.

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Riiiiiiiiiiight........That's why we see abused and neglected children brought into the ER everyday for horrific injuries. Tell that to the kids shuffled around in Foster care because nobody really wants them. Tell that to kids that could be adopted, but that a couple would rather do everything under the sun to "have their own" than adopt.......

I see the way a lot of parents treat their children. I would say that there are many that should have never been allowed to breed. If they love their children more than themselves, they sure have an odd way of showing it.

Most "normal" parents love their children more than themselves. I don't think that criminals that abuse their children are the majority of parents.

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i have 2 children and a husband, but i too hate those that use their children/spouse/job for their bad grades. last semester i had a "young" girl with a child the same age as my youngest complaining about not being able to study because of her child. i just smiled at her and a "said that must be hard". at that time i had a full-time job, 2 kids, a husband and a full class load to deal with. she failed out, i continued. life is what you make it and so is school. my advice is to not complain about how busy you are, because someone always will "trump you. the woman with 5 kids, 2 who are special needs, the husband is deployed to iraq, brownie leader and is still getting an a, and they always make me feel inadequate that i am not able to do what everything.

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I have not read all of the thread so forgive me if I am redundant.

I am a single male Registered Nurse. From my perspective, it often seems that the married people I work with expect me to sacrifice for them. The obvious one is covering for them at work. Hey you don't have family so you can work for me. Well. I do have family, they are called parents and siblings, I just don't happen to be married.

The other irritating thing, and I am sure that I am going to catch hell for this, is that I get constantly shaken down for "monetary donations." So and so is having a baby so give money. So and so's kid is having a fund raiser so please buy cookies. Married people with children automatically assume I have nothing better to do with my money than give it to their kids. I might be a little more understanding if I had kids, then there would be reciprocity. I buy from your kids and you buy from my kids. As it is, it turns out that I buy from your kids and then I keep buying from your kids or someone else's kids. :banghead:

To be quite honest, the last thing that I want to her at work is that another nurse is pregnant. I know that it is a happy occasion for HER, but look at it from the perspective of a single man. When that nurse goes on maternity, my scheduling becomes less flexible because the holes have to be covered. Basically I get crappier schedules.:banghead:

These days, when I am asked to give or "donate," I usually just say that I don't do that. I get so much crap for that as you can imagine. My dog of 16 years recently died. Nobody took up a collection for me to help defray the cost of cremation. And yes, she is just a dog. Not a human, but the point is married people expect singles to sacrifice/be flexible for them, but are often completely insensitive to the needs of the single person.

wow, chill out..relax...you are making a very general statement and its unfair to categorize ALL parents like that. Find another place to work if its that bad, because my experience is that most nurses I have worked with (single, married, kids, whatever) are hard working, dedicated professionals..there are slackers everywhere. I am sorry about your dog, I am an animal lover and have a dog to go along with my 4 children. having lost both a pet and a child, I can tell you, the loss of my child is far greater than that of a family pet. Miss my pet, loved my pet..but not as empty of a hole as missing a child...

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trepinct.

While you might feel the things the person quoted as reasons they see being single can be it's own hardship, that you so quickly dismissed. Throw into the equation. huge snowstorm. You need to get to school but first have to shovel, I say shovel the driveway before school just to get your car out. Yes, I had to do that. Did I for a moment envy the person who had someone, anyone who could do it for them? yes I did. Did I ever envy that someone who was married or lived with someone had someone to share the expenses when an unexpected finances came up. Of course. Did I think would't it be wonderful to hold my hand and tell me it everything will be alright, when at that time I had no one? sure. Or having that little one come up and say Mommy or Daddy I love you, you are the best at the end of a day? yup again.

Never be quick to judge someone else, unless you have walked in their shoes. That goes for the people who have no spouse or children v/s feeling one has no one to turn to or rely on.

. Again their are benefits and there are downsides also. I do not believe anyone can say either one has it perfect.

ps, I have a grown child now, I was married so I do know it from both sides of the fence. Neither was better , nor worse than the other.

I am not dismissing anyones hardships..please go back and re read ALL of my posts..I have been there.and..having a spouse doesnt mean we are off the hook for snow shoveling, etc.as a matter of fact, my list of 'things to do" is expanded with a family.I was defending my status as a married mom who had it both ways. I will reiterate what I said in case anyone missed it..Nursing school is hard,no matter who you are, the road to get to nursing school was also hard. We all have crosses to bear, thats all...we are not talking about perfect vs. imperfect..as difficult as nursing school is with children, I see my life as full and blessed..my life is perfect for me. This post was started by a single person complaining, and the moms are defending themselves, not complaining...this whole website is so we can be united and supportive..does whoever started this blog honestly think it wouldn't stir things up?

Lets move on an continue to support each other..kids, no kids, whatever..we are busting our butts..ALL of us.:nurse:

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Specializes in psych. rehab nursing, float pool.

Trepinct,

again you are only coming from your perspective.

To someone who has no children their pet is very significant to them.

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Specializes in ER, PACU, Med-Surg, Hospice, LTC.

It's kind of funny that many people joined this thread and started arguing about how NS (and everything else from what I have read), is harder with children. That they do have more problems, work harder, etc. Those posts just reinforce the OPs original post of how they are sick of hearing parents carrying about their lifestyle choices in class.

Same ol', same ol'....just happens to be online. :wink2:

Or to quote to get back to the original topic:

"Ok, I am getting sooooo sick and tired of my classmates thinking that just because I don't work, have kids, or a husband..I have no problems. When did having problems only become exclusive to family life......but its just mind blowing how many of my classmates have this ONE SIDED VIEW ON life, its almost sickening...."

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Trepinct,

again you are only coming from your perspective.

To someone who has no children their pet is very significant to them.

again. please read my post. our pets are quite significant to us. dont take my words out of context please. I am seeing it from the perspective of someone who has done college without kids and with kids.This post started from a single person complaining..I am not complaining about my life at all.

I was you many years ago and I eat my words now about what I have said about moms and college.

remember when we thought High School was tough? Or getting up at 8am was early and our first job was so hard and we were "tired'..we look back and laugh because as we change, what we left behind sometimes seems easier, but at the time it wasnt...thats all it is-perspective based on personal experiences.

Having been single in college and being married with kids,in college i get to make the statements I have. all along I have pointed out that we all have crosses to bear and some of us have personal struggles, family obligations, work and children. Its hard work and I believe that nursing school is for the best of the best...something we all are regardless of family status.

lets get this back to what it should be- a support network. The world is filled with enough people who dont understand just how tough nursing school is, lets not isolate each other from a unique sisterhood( brotherhood too :) ) :redpinkhe :nurse:

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Thank You, couldn't have put it better. That is exactly what I meant, with age comes wisdom.

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