Think Before You Speak: The Last Words Your Patient May Hear

It is important to think before you speak because you never know who may be listening. In fact, it may be the last person you expected. The following story describes how one experience changed my nursing practice and how I provide care to all of my patients. Nurses Announcements Archive Article

It was an ordinary Saturday and I was working as the day-shift charge nurse on the medical-surgical floor of a small community hospital. We were extremely busy due to it being flu and pneumonia season. As I worked actively on charting morning assessments, I heard the words "Code Blue" called over the intercom system.

It was protocol in our facility that all Registered Nurses (RNs) had to attend a code blue. During the week we had plenty of help when a code was called, but on the weekend we typically only had two RN's, a Respiratory Therapist, a clerk, and the physician.

When I arrived at the Emergency Room (ER), the ER nurse and the clerk had just gotten the patient transferred from the wheelchair to the stretcher. The ER nurse proceeded to give a report on what had happened. She said that the patient had been brought in by her husband complaining of difficulty "catching her breath" and some chest discomfort. The patient was awake and alert upon arrival to the ER, but was not able to speak. Before she could be transferred to the stretcher, however, she lost consciousness. She had no pulse and was not breathing.

We started CPR and contacted the on-call physician. Thankfully, it did not take long for him to arrive. Within a few minutes we had gotten a slow, weak pulse and had intubated her. She remained unconscious. A chest x-ray showed that both of her lungs had collapsed due to a large amount of fluid in her pleural cavity. The decision was made to insert chest tubes bilaterally.

Upon insertion of the right chest tube, a large amount of foul-smelling drainage shot out of the tube and across the trauma room. The same scenario happened when the left chest tube was inserted. Almost immediately, the patient started making an effort to breathe on her own. Her pulse rate had started to increase, but her blood pressure remained low.

She was receiving a large amount of intravenous (IV) fluids and had started to become edematous. I have always made a habit of talking to my patients even if they were unconscious. I explained to her that I was going to remove her rings because she was starting to swell, but since she was unconscious, she did not respond. I then proceeded to remove her rings, but found it to be very difficult due to the significant amount of edema that she already had in her hands. I remember telling the other RN that I was not sure if I could get them off and inquired about whether or not she thought we should cut them off. It was at this time that the patient took her right hand and grasped the rings on her left ring finger and wiggled them off. After getting them off, she reached over and handed them to me. Her eyes never opened the entire time, but she had tears streaming from them. We were all in disbelief.

I immediately started trying to calm her by explaining what was going on and informed her that we were doing everything we could to help her. She was still intubated and being bagged, but I made the decision to bring her family in one at a time, starting with her husband. When her husband entered the room, I handed the rings to him and explained what had happened. I informed him that even though she appeared unconscious, she was still able to hear him.

As he started to talk to her, the tears streamed down her face. It was truly one of the saddest things I have ever witnessed. Each one of her three children came in and were informed that she could still hear them. They spoke to her and told her that they loved her. Not long afterwards, she was airlifted to a larger hospital where she subsequently died shortly after arrival. The cause of her death was a ruptured esophagus.

I was so glad that I was able to give this family and the patient a few more minutes together. This incident also helped to solidify my beliefs in communicating with the patient even when it appears that they cannot hear the words that are being spoken to them. There are so many different experiences that I have had as a nurse, and each one has affected the kind of nurse that I have become. Some have made me stronger and some have made me realize how vulnerable I am. Although the outcome of the personal experience I described was a negative one, it made a positive impact on my nursing career and I will never forget her or the lesson she taught me. Every time I take care of a patient that I believe is unconscious, I think of her. Her death has affected the care of more people than she or her family will ever realize.

I've always explained all procedures, etc. to the patient, but since this incident, I am more cognizant of not speaking to coworkers as if the patient isn't there. I'm sure my patient was frightened and unable to express it. Breaks my heart to this day to think about any patient going through that and I'm sure there are a lot that do and we just don't realize it. As far as what I say, If they are inpatient, I always tell them what day it is, remind them of where they are, and tell them the weather and what's going on in the news. I know coworkers have looked at me like I was crazy before, but if I am going to be in there any way doing my assessment, I might as well try my best to orient them to what's going on around them. I've seen some people volunteer to read to the patient, as well, and I've always thought that was nice.

Specializes in Emergency/Trauma/Critical Care Nursing.
Thank you for sharing....it is a good reminder that patients can hear you.

A few years ago I was a supervisor on nights and I heard that dreaded....Code blue Labor and Delivery. Followed by Code Pink Labor and Delivery.

CRAP! I hate those codes...with all my years of experience these codes make my knees go briefly weak I get that warm allover fight/flight reaction as I burst into action.

It was an amniotic fluid emboli. Prime ip. MD just ruptured membranes for failure to progress. She said she couldn't breath and immediately seized.....EMD on the monitor.

We did an emergent C-section as the mother went into DIC doing CPR. The baby was blue. What a nightmare.

The baby was successfully resuscitated and flown to a level 1 while we continued to code Mom. She was hemorrhaging. We eventually got a pulse and rushed her to the ICU (much to the ICU's nurses dismay...poor dears I didn't blame them) accompanied by 2 OB nurses and several physicians who happened to be in house at 3 am.

Hours later and Some 40+ units of blood and blood products later, a Swan Ganz/a-line/multilumen/vent....I notice her hand tapping the mattress. I looked down and called her name. Her eyes flew open and she mouthed the words...."where is my baby?"

I about pee'd my pants....OMG not only is she awake...she is intact! A freaking miracle. I calld out to the MD's that she was awake...as they rolled their eyes and sauntered into the room disbelieving....they were shocked that I wasn't crazy....she was awake.

Ultimately she was stabilized enough to be flown to that level 1 ICU where her baby (and hubby) were.....they were both discharged alive and well.

She came back to say thank you with that beautiful baby...and remembered who we were. I don't think I ever cried with joy like that in all my years as a nurse.

Every time you tell this story I get all goosebumpy and teary eyed! Oh how I wish you could be my personal mentor and story teller :)

Specializes in Emergency/Trauma/Critical Care Nursing.

I had forgotten about this until reading this thread. When I was in nursing school we had a day where we shadowed an ICU nurse. My nurse was OK, but not really in the teaching mood so she kind of left me to chart vitals, do I&Os etc with one of her two patients. The patient I was with was an older gentleman who had been t-boned during a police chase and had a head injury. He was intubated, on propofol, and had leather restraints on his wrists as he kept breaking out of softs. Well the nurses kept remarking about how he still kept pulling things out, fidgety, pinching them when they got close and was generally a "troublemaker" patient.

Well since he was my only patient I had lots of time to kill between assessments, VS etc. I noticed how the only sounds in the room were beeping, alarms, staff talking over him, etc. So I started talking to him about everything I did, things going on around him, and how he was doing. Then I thought maybe he'd like to hear the tv, and put on some movie on turner classic movie channel (he was the same age as my grandpa who loved that channel).

I began to notice a difference in him... his HR decreased, BP improved, he stopped fidgeting so much, and appeared so much calmer. When I later assisted the aide in turning him he grabbed my hand and squeezed it. He never tried to pinch me or pull anything out while I was there. The nurses remarked about his improvement as well. when it was time to leave, I thanked him for letting me care for him and told him he'd be in my thoughts, and a tear rolled down his face.

Unfortunately I don't know his outcome, but it reaffirmed for me that you never know what they can hear, so treat everyone with respect and dignity.

THIS is an amazing post! I learn so much here and we new grads need to read this sort of thing. I will keep this advice foremost in my mind and remember it always. Keep this sort of thing coming please!!

Specializes in MICU - CCRN, IR, Vascular Surgery.

I like playing the relaxation music channel on our hospital's tv system for my incubated and sedated patients because I'd prefer to hear music over all of the hospital beeps if I were the one in the bed. We were taught that hearing is the last sense to go during nursing school and I too like to talk to my patients just in case, and play music & sing to them during bath time.

When someone starts crashing in the ER, if time allows, I like to go to the head of the bed and ask the patient if they understand what is happening. I try and explain what is happening now and why we are doing specific things. I try and reassure them that we are doing what is necessary and I attempt to tell them what will happen next. I flat out ask if they are scared sometimes and I will revert to the old "nurse holding your hand" in some cases. I hate to see my patients in fear and I try and ease their minds during the scariest time of their life…nothing is worse, in my mind, than the potential for someone to die in fear. Sometimes that is all I have to offer. I know they can hear me through the drugs and altered mental states…I've had several patients with tears running down their face while procedures are being performed. I never want them to feel alone during this time.

Thank you for sharing your experience with us! Very eye opening. Many people in the field seem to forget that we must always speak to patients as if they are alert and oriented even when they are not. I've overheard many embarrassing comments by other nurses/students about a patient that were said right in front of them because they weren't conscious. I've always believed they could hear. One of my patients was dying from renal failure and was heavily medicated for her pain. I sat with her for over an hour telling her that her daughter would be there the next day and I held her hand to try to comfort her. Her nurse came in, looked her over, turned to me and said matter-of-factly, "Yeah...she ain't gonna last". I was in disbelief that her nurse could treat the situation so insensitively. The next day my patient was more alert due to a decrease in her pain medication so that she would be more awake when her daughter arrived. When my patient saw me she hugged me, kissed my cheek and I just sensed that even though she wasn't alert the day before, she knew I'd been there with her.

What wonderful stories, really inspiring. As an ER nurse, I get caught up in the chaos and forget to talk to my ventilated patients . This is a touching reminder to treat those patients specifically with care and respect. I will keep this story in my mind for my critical patients. Thank you for sharing.

Specializes in Med-Surg and Ambulatory Care (multispecialty).

I used to work with Hospice patients at my former job. I always tried to make sure they had music playing or their favorite show/channel on during my shift. I talked to them when I came into the room, introducing myself like I would with any other patient and explaining what I was there to do. I would make small talk and hold their hands. Avoid gossiping about work or whatever or saying how badly the patient is doing, like they are not lying right there in bed.

I wish all nurses would remember to treat unconscious or unresponsive patients like the nurses who have posted here. It only takes a few minutes to show you care. Keep talking to them. They can hear us.

Specializes in "Wound care - geriatric care.

Yes. I have also noticed that early on in nursing. I have always been sort of attracted to this particular instance. I was very puzzled in my very first rotation by this young guy who fell from a cliff and was completely paralyzed. I know people can be paralyzed but they can still hear and understand everything around them. I do talk to people when they are unconscious or dying. Very good.

Whether your patients are alert or unresponsive doesn't mean they can not still hear everything you say. The power of communication is a miraculous thing. The words you speak to your patient during the care you provide may give them that last bit of comfort they need and it also fosters an unspoken trust between you and your patient/family that everything you are doing is for them.

I chatter to my patients as I do cares - tell them how their vitals look, their heart/lung sounds, what I'm doing, plan for the day. If they can't see outside I tell them what it was like outside when I arrived. I talk about my farm, harvest/planting, near holidays.

I do talk to my coworkers as well - ask them about their kids, their holiday plans, that kind of stuff. I want the pt to hear about things not related to their hospitalization.

I also leave the music on, or TCM, or Animal Planet. I have a couple of aides that like to leave the news channels on, and I change it immediately. Patients with ICU delirium, AMS, don't need a steady auditory diet of yelling, fear, and exaggeration. There's one station in particular I'm thinking of.