In light of recent posts declaring rude, judgemental, and negative behavior by nurses on this forum, I ask: why do those making these posts even care? First, these are internet strangers. Second, if they are rude, judgemental, negative, why not just call the individual on the behavior(appropriately)? What is the point of making a post complaining about it? That leads to more of the same. If there are "rude" posters, your complaining about them isn't going to change their behavior. This should be a forum where people can be candid in response to questions without someone crying in distress. If someone mocks, argues, or expresses an "offensive" viewpoint, who cares? I want to know their viewpoint even if it differs from mine, and doesn't necessary make me feel "good". I want to know their version, even if it creates dissonance. The way I see it, this forum is really a true representation of what is going on in people's minds that they wouldn't necessary tell someone to his face. What's wrong with that?
I agree with being up front with people. But that VERY old saying: No-one can make you feel inferior w/out your permission is it? is a load of BS. Of course words hurt, it's like saying time heals all wounds - time heals **** all. Words can hurt more than anything.
I think you can tell someone something in a respectful way, not just go blah, blah without thinking and making really rude, disrespectful and nasty comments like the one I saw today - "who ******* in the OPs cornflakes?"
It's the rude, nasty, obnoxious, racist people we all object to, not the forthright but respectful people. Hell, I'd rather someone was forthright with me any day of the week as I've said on other posts, but in an adult way.
Most answers on here can offer some good advice, some are just childish, argumentative drivel which I ignore anyway. No one is ever going to give you the answer you always want.
And AN HAS got very negative and snipey lately - I have noticed that. I think it's probly the US economy that has got many people down, and they're not coping with anything.
I'm the person who said who peed in the OPs cornflakes, and I did NOT use the word you said I did. I said "peed". If you're going to attack someone for language, quote it correctly please. I was being humerous. I also said it because the OP in that thread was responding to people in a defensive, angry manner. In other words, acting like the posters she was complaining of in the first place. It was obvious that the OP in that instance was itching for a reaction.
We are all grownups here and I'm getting really tired of the whining from the overly sensitive, prissy, and ultra PC crowd. You are certainly entitled to not like a post or a thread- if so, don't participate.
I don't hide behind a computer either- I have asked coworkers "who peed in your cornflakes" when they are being nasty . People usually stop and then start laughing. But then again, I don't work with people who take offense easily.
To me, a discussion forum has to be a place where all viewpoints are considered. Even if they might offend someone.
I personally feel that if you wouldn't say something to someone's face you shouldn't say it online.
In one of the threads that's being talked about, I got 'roasted', as it were. To be honest my posts were out of frustration due to our dysfunctional government. It was brought to my attention that some things I mentioned were wrong but I'm not put out by it or offended, I actually learned from the other posters.
I clicked on this thread because I thought it was going to be about ventilators with alarms going off all the time for no good reason! Aka "The oversensitive vent". Haha! :)
I was being humerous. I also said it because the OP in that thread was responding to people in a defensive, angry manner. In other words, acting like the posters she was complaining of in the first place. It was obvious that the OP in that instance was itching for a reaction.
With due respect, I was not angry. I was frustrated and amazed at some of the attacks on another thread. I wasn't looking for a reaction- MORE assumptions that were acted upon without clarification. As has been said on many threads, you can't 'read' tone or intent online.
Are we really going here again? Who's looking for reaction??? Anybody? Somebody? Nobody? Do you even know? Does the OP really care, or are they looking for a reaction?
I'm really starting to think that there is something in the air. My last week at work has been nothing but people being p****d off at each other. Everyone is snarling and snapping, people that usually get along are dumping on each other, the higher ups are yelling down the chain, the lower downs are yelling up the chain. Every conversation seems to start off fine and then detour off into some bizarre argument that catches everyone off guard because no one saw it coming and then no one can stop it from continuing until we're all hating each other.
Here in my neck of the woods we're in the middle of a heat wave, and we had a full moon, and also the political situation isn't great with all the debt ceiling turmoil. I don't know if that has anything to do with it, but there is definitely some kind of collective disgruntlement going on.
Someone actually found 'who peed in your cornflakes' offensive?
Guess I can't use my favourite line anymore....oh hell, maybe just one more time:
"Do you need help with that st!ck up your woohoo?"
It was in the context of an overall hostile thread, that didn't need to go there..... IRL, no- it's not offensive when people can see the intent and tone. :)
Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.
There is a way to be blunt, honest and not sugar coat things without being mean and nasty. I don't know why it's always assumed these things have to coincide together.
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so true, mazy.
it seems a whole lot of people are overdosing on suck pills, and it presents in different ways... none of it pleasant.
so...what's the solution for suck pill syndrome?
leslie:D