In light of recent posts declaring rude, judgemental, and negative behavior by nurses on this forum, I ask: why do those making these posts even care? First, these are internet strangers. Second, if they are rude, judgemental, negative, why not just call the individual on the behavior(appropriately)? What is the point of making a post complaining about it? That leads to more of the same. If there are "rude" posters, your complaining about them isn't going to change their behavior. This should be a forum where people can be candid in response to questions without someone crying in distress. If someone mocks, argues, or expresses an "offensive" viewpoint, who cares? I want to know their viewpoint even if it differs from mine, and doesn't necessary make me feel "good". I want to know their version, even if it creates dissonance. The way I see it, this forum is really a true representation of what is going on in people's minds that they wouldn't necessary tell someone to his face. What's wrong with that?
heron: beautifully stated! it should be known that this is the second time since i joined an that you have captured my sentiments precisely. now, if you would kindly get out of my head, xavier. (sorry, i have been watching too much x-men lately.)
exactly. i will elaborate further below...
in one of the threads that's being talked about, i got 'roasted', as it were. to be honest my posts were out of frustration due to our dysfunctional government. it was brought to my attention that some things i mentioned were wrong but i'm not put out by it or offended, i actually learned from the other posters.
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you perceived responses to your post as a [roast]"; i perceived certain responses as a logical refutation to your stated truth. other truths were not your truth. thus, points were presented to the contrary. no roasting was taking place. i am glad you learned from other posters; now i am curious of the specifics.
again, a difference of perception. i did not view the comments in the thread as an attack or hostile. you stated that you perceived it as an "overall hostile thread". you were ready to leave an altogether; i hope not based solely on that thread.
in a non-related post, i expressed open contempt towards a drunk driver that killed several people. another poster, gfm, pointed out that "everyone has a purpose, if only to set a bad example." the truth is, she made me realize that sometimes things can be learned where you don't necessarily expect them. if you don't immediately jump to conclusions, everyone is more open in the end.
another poster commented that there are regional variations, i definitely agree, as i will never forget that waitress in nyc that stated in reply to my comment of "this cake is dry" with "what do you want me to do with it, eat it?" at the time, i was so offended. nowadays, i laugh and would have had a few choice words of my own for her. think george constanza s/p fact with planning sarcastic remarks.
now, back to watching x-men, or heron, because apparently they have the same power.
i guess since i was the op on that thread, it seemed more personal, and kept going...not helping the original frustration- not anger- that i was expressing :)
I've found this forum to have become pretty rude over the years. So I stopped posting. Mostly just lurk.
I see that, considering your last post, I hate what's happening to nursing, was 4 months ago. I really enjoyed that post, by the way. Apparently, many others did too as evidenced by the amount of "kudos". I've already felt that way, and I've only been a nurse for a year. Wow, I am quite the doomsayer.
Both these comments show the childish/teenage level that AN has sunk to, instead of being a professional forum where people can come and give constructive advice and criticism.
AN has got very, very snarky, and disappointing to read. I for one hardly visit anymore due to this, in fact, it's all getting a bit tiresome. It's a game of 'I'm better qualified than you/have nursed for more years than you, and I'm going to get one up on you no matter what today'. If that's living, well good luck to you if you all enjoy that.
I enjoy most comments, but these ones are just GROSS.
The same could be said about you, carol, with recent posts I've read of yours. Just being honest (although some would call that mean).
I personally have no problem with "where this forum has gone," and even more significantly, don't really see the difference. For me, though, I appreciate honest answers. People often take honest answers as "offensive." I would find it tiring to read people constantly trying to qualify their answers in order to NOT offend anyone. If you have something to say, say it. If you disagree with something, say it. We're adults, we can take it (or we SHOULD be able to). It seems that more and more people get mad/sensitive/offended when someone challenges their viewpoint. That just means it's time to grow up.
With due respect, I was not angry. I was frustrated and amazed at some of the attacks on another thread. I wasn't looking for a reaction- MORE assumptions that were acted upon without clarification. As has been said on many threads, you can't 'read' tone or intent online.
Are we really going here again? Who's looking for reaction??? Anybody? Somebody? Nobody? Do you even know? Does the OP really care, or are they looking for a reaction?
Well, usually when somebody posts in big print, they're pretty cheesed off. But whatever, I'm not going to argue it further- obviously I wasn't alone in feeling that you were a little ticked right then.
No worries. Here, have some cornflakes. they're "pee-free".
Well, usually when somebody posts in big print, they're pretty cheesed off. But whatever, I'm not going to argue it further- obviously I wasn't alone in feeling that you were a little ticked right then.
No worries. Here, have some cornflakes. they're "pee-free".
Here, have some cornflakes. they're "pee-free". 
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you perceived responses to your post as a [roast]"; i perceived certain responses as a logical refutation to your stated truth. other truths were not your truth. thus, points were presented to the contrary. no roasting was taking place. i am glad you learned from other posters; now i am curious of the specifics.
again, a difference of perception. i did not view the comments in the thread as an attack or hostile. you stated that you perceived it as an "overall hostile thread". you were ready to leave an altogether; i hope not based solely on that thread.
in a non-related post, i expressed open contempt towards a drunk driver that killed several people. another poster, gfm, pointed out that "everyone has a purpose, if only to set a bad example." the truth is, she made me realize that sometimes things can be learned where you don't necessarily expect them. if you don't immediately jump to conclusions, everyone is more open in the end.
another poster commented that there are regional variations, i definitely agree, as i will never forget that waitress in nyc that stated in reply to my comment of "this cake is dry" with "what do you want me to do with it, eat it?" at the time, i was so offended. nowadays, i laugh and would have had a few choice words of my own for her. think george constanza s/p fact with planning sarcastic remarks.
now, back to watching x-men, or heron, because apparently they have the same power.
i guess since i was the op on that thread, it seemed more personal, and kept going...not helping the original frustration- not anger- that i was expressing :)