STUPID PARENTS!! (vent here)

[tgb3rn]

This may not belong in this forum but it will have nursing issues involved. On October 30th my 9yo child was ran down by another child on his mountain bike. I say ran down because this is what he did---chased her through our yard with her screaming noooo go away!!!! She fell down, he ran her over, broke her arm approx 3 inches below the head of the Humerus, then rode on home with her left screaming bloddy murder in our yard. I took her to the ER where I work and the xray showed it was below the growth plate but was displaced a great deal. There was nothing they could do that night about it (very rural hospital). She had to see an orthopedic surgon in the am approx 100miles away. He said there wasn't enough to pin so she had to keep a sling on with a wieghted chunk of plaster hanging on her elbow for traction, no cast or anything. She missed out on the trick or treat thing (bothered her alot), missed a little over a month of school(was her right hand), had to sleep sitting up in a recliner to keep it in alignment. Needless to say this was very traumatic for a 9yo girl to deal with as it was for her 36yo father (me)

The boy that ran her over has had no punishment in any way. Was out riding his bike the next day. His parents have offered nothing, not even an "I'm sorry", and they know exactly what he did. The law in Nebraska states the parent is accoutable for only $1000.00 of injuries that thier child causes. The kid can blow up a house and they have to pay for all of it--but hurt another child--1000.00 bucks. My ER bill was that much for gods sake. She had 5 visits to the orthpidic doc--have not seen thoses bills yet. We have no health insurance, could not get it and pay the bills as well--$500.00+ a month for family coverage. My DD went through all this, my family is screwed money wise, I'm so mad I'm about to go nuts.

I hate irresposible parents.:angryfire I am so close to letting my 12yo son go over and break that kids arm and then say-"thats for my sister--now we are even" but no I will not I AM a responsible parent.

Sorry about the long long LONG rant--had to get it out of my system.

Tom

[cota2k]

$1,0000. Hmmm. I hate to bring this up, but...how does this relate to malpractice limitation? Would a million dollars have made it up to your daughter? Never. While I like the idea of your 12 year old taking care of business (boys being boys, wink wink), it probably is best to turn the other cheek, and get a big dog.

[LargoLPN]

good luck, and keep us posted.

[KnoxWarEagle]

I have a friend whose dog was shot with a BB gun by his neighbors 9 year old son. John went to the family and their answer "boys will be boys." John, being the patient person he was, noticed the boy loved to play in the backyard with his dog. John collected seeds for poison ivy and spread it on their lawn after they applied their spring fertilizer. By the end of the summer there was a raging case of the itchies next door. :rotfl:

Sometimes paybacks are a lot sweeter in the silence.

Good luck with little Damien down the street. It would be a shame if he lost that little bike of his.

[SaderNurse05, BSN, RN]

I am so sorry that happened to your daughter. What a brat! I agree with you that the law is woeful in this situation. I wish I had something constructive to say but I wanted you to know you are right and this is wrong, wrong, wrong!!

[tgb3rn]

$1,0000. Hmmm. I hate to bring this up, but...how does this relate to malpractice limitation? Would a million dollars have made it up to your daughter? Never.

Not sure where you are comming from with this one. The figure quoted in here is 1000.00---one Thousand, and who ever mentioned anything about malpractice anything? Am I just missing your point?

[nuberianne_RN]

I can't believe some people want the father to get over it. :icon_evil:Anyways......

Did you get a police report? Make sure you get a second opinion from another attorney about the $1000 limitations. One more thought, just because there is a limit to the amount you can be awarded for medical bills does not necessarily mean that is the only thing you can sue for. You said that your daughter stayed home from school for a month, sounds like pain and suffering to me. I would ask a lawyer if that is something that can be compensated for above and beyond the $1000 for medical bills.

Some of you probably think that suing does not solve anything. Maybe it won't solve anything for you, but I bet it will make those punk parents think about watching their punk kid before he runs over someone else. It might also make that little snot (yes I called him a little snot!!!!!) think twice before he rolls on the wrong kid who shoots back instead of crying to mommy and daddy.

[nursecher]

That really ticks me off. :angryfire The neighbor kid definitely has some type of issues that need to be resolved. He is violent, impulsive, and out of control. It is obvious that parenting skills are contributing. I am so sorry about what happened to your daughter and your family. I have kids and therefore, have great empathy for you. Good Luck in however you decide to proceed.

[PeachPie]

Please try to press further charges. That kid is only going to get worse, as he obviously has no knowledge of right and wrong and no good examples to teach him. He sounds like a sociopath in the making.

[Jo Dirt]

Sounds to me like some country justice is in order!

...and how!

Also, my son was bullied by this rotten little creep at a church social. After threatening to tear his head off, I called the sherriff's department who told me to go to the court house and file a juvenile assault charge.

[Jo Dirt]

Again, I am shocked by the flames and angry words on this thread....I thought posting on allnurses was something I could do without judgement...guess not.

Jenny

I am finding it hard to believe you have children...

[morte, LPN, LVN]

you could take this one of two directions....as nurses we know, paper trail, paper trail......return to police and firmly insist that the child/parents be cited...even if it goes nowhere the paper trail has been started....then "drop a dime" to social services or the local equivalent...this child is both being neglected and is out of control.

now the other direction (if you can afford it) is to invite this kid over, couple times a week, feed him dinner, supervise him, set an example for him, and let him SEE what this has caused your daughter......of course he would only be allowed in the house if you were there! the interaction with persons with a healthy family would be good for this kid......

as i said two totally different directions......good luck

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

Whenever our children are involved, emotions can run high as evidenced by this thread. Let's take a break from this and I think we all agree that as much as we may like to punish this child, it is out of our hands. As several posters indicated, it may be better to just let it go, for everyone's sake.