I think I'm done answering student nurse help me threads here.
I've gotten rude answers, or they never even bother coming back to the thread to acknowledge the answers they received.
Some will ask life choice questions like "Where should I move?" or "Where should I apply?". Do they think someone is going to offer them a job here, is that why they start these threads? You have the whole internet to research towns, cities, regions, but instead you post a thread asking a bunch of strangers where you should move?
Some help me threads seem to be 'Help me do my homework' threads.
This is random, but I so miss Daytonite. She was so helpful to students such as many other nurses on this site. She was just really a gem. Perhaps we could have a Daytonite section with all of her helpful post/threads broken down in categories.
Well, I am guilty of posting a nonsense thread. Sorry...
It was a "I want to get my licenses as a radiation therapist and then second degree in nursing, what do you think?" Fortunately no one responded.
No need to apologize. You had a legitimate question that likely hasn't been asked before. It was not a question that had been asked and answered several dozen times on AN.
You say "Nurses eat their young. Period. This is all it boils down to." Am I to understand that you abide by, and personally feel, that the "nurses eat their young" mentality is acceptable?
Absolutely not. I am say that the vast majority of times people say this, it plain old didn't happen. A new nurse makes an honest mistake at work. Veteran nurse correct the new nurse and show them the right way. It gets really annoying when a new nurse in that situation says "it figures...nurses just eat their young."
As for an AN example. A student asks a question. He/she gets honest answers from veteran nurses that the new nurse was not hoping for. It gets really old to hear from the student "why do nurses eat their young." (BTW, this does mean all students do this. Many will take constructive criticism appropriately and be better as a result of it. The problem is those who go on and on about "young eating" rather than say to themselves "maybe they are right...what can I do to improve?"
I'm only taking a guess here but I seriously doubt you are the type of student that the OP was referencing...and it doesn't sound like you'd be making the type of post referred to, either. Surely you do understand the need to vent about repetitiveness, and stupidity, as you mentioned....? We all have to blow off steam. Hang in there :) Signed, A Biter Old Nurse [/quote']
I laughed out loud when I saw 'biter' lol you guys are crazy! Lol
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I don't think that's the case, either. Perhaps some of the younger nurse do, but this isn't the case for myself. Unfortunately, the culture of the older nurses being so harsh but feeling as if they're providing "tough love" is what perpetuates that stereotype.
Perhaps it's a generational thing. Believe me, we're all warm and cuddly compared to what we got from our parents and grandparents! The tendency these days seems to be trophies just for showing up, everybody wins and don't give negative feedback. Just about anything we say that is direct and honest, unless we phrase it so ambiguously that no one knows what exactly we're saying -- is taken has "tough," with or without the "love."
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
A new nurse makes an honest mistake at work. Veteran nurse correct the new nurse and show them the right way. It gets really annoying when a new nurse in that situation says "it figures...nurses just eat their young."
As for an AN example. A student asks a question. He/she gets honest answers from veteran nurses that the new nurse was not hoping for. It gets really old to hear from the student "why do nurses eat their young." (BTW, this does mean all students do this. Many will take constructive criticism appropriately and be better as a result of it. The problem is those who go on and on about "young eating" rather than say to themselves "maybe they are right...what can I do to improve?"
Off topic but I'd like to say that for some of the students that ask for help, their nursing school may not be as tight knit and comprehensive as other schools, and so an online community is their best bet for seeking support and/or help in certain areas. The last thing they need to be made to feel is annoying or incompetent.[/quote']
What we are saying is we are willing to help with homework not do the homework for you. Come to us with what you have researched and tried to figure out first. Don't expect us to just give you the answer without trying first. We are also not saying that everyone student on here is just looking for answers without trying first. In nursing school if I asked my professor for the answer I had show where I had looked for the answer first. And not one student looked down on them or claimed they were evil or mean or out to cook us for a meal. If your in school you have a book the least a student can do is say "I've searched for x,y,z this is what I'm not understanding the blah blah process for this can someone help me understand it" not "what causes renal failure".
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This is random, but I so miss Daytonite. She was so helpful to students such as many other nurses on this site. She was just really a gem. Perhaps we could have a Daytonite section with all of her helpful post/threads broken down in categories.