I think I'm done answering student nurse help me threads here.
I've gotten rude answers, or they never even bother coming back to the thread to acknowledge the answers they received.
Some will ask life choice questions like "Where should I move?" or "Where should I apply?". Do they think someone is going to offer them a job here, is that why they start these threads? You have the whole internet to research towns, cities, regions, but instead you post a thread asking a bunch of strangers where you should move?
Some help me threads seem to be 'Help me do my homework' threads.
Perhaps it's a generational thing. Believe me we're all warm and cuddly compared to what we got from our parents and grandparents! The tendency these days seems to be trophies just for showing up, everybody wins and don't give negative feedback. Just about anything we say that is direct and honest, unless we phrase it so ambiguously that no one knows what exactly we're saying -- is taken has "tough," with or without the "love."[/quote']
So because what you're giving is considered superior to what you received, it makes it okay? That's pretty poor logic.
Why is it when we (nurses, seasoned,veteran,ect) vent on a post we are "unprofessional" and crazy old bats, that are looked at as out to get nursing students but when a student vents that the professor was mean or nursing school is hard everyone gives so much sympathy to them??? We should be able to vent about frustrations just like the students and since someone said if we don't like it or don't want to deal with it then we shouldnt go in that area and just scroll past well if students don't want to hear us vent then by all means keep scrolling;) that's the beauty of a public forum no one is forcing anyone here;)
Why is it when we (nurses seasoned,veteran,ect) vent on a post we are "unprofessional" and crazy old bats, that are looked at as out to get nursing students but when a student vents that the professor was mean or nursing school is hard everyone gives so much sympathy to them??? We should be able to vent about frustrations just like the students and since someone said if we don't like it or don't want to deal with it then we shouldnt go in that area and just scroll past well if students don't want to hear us vent then by all means keep scrolling;) that's the beauty of a public forum no one is forcing anyone here;)[/quote']
I never said that a student venting about a professor should be awarded automatic sympathy. I do feel, however, that as nursing is a nurturing profession, this idea that you need to be unnecessarily harsh to make a point doesn't help anyone, particularly the new generation of nurses. I have seen unnecessary treatment of nursing students. I've also witnessed and been a part of horizontal violence in the workplace. It doesn't make the seasoned nurses people I want to look up to. It makes then people I want to run from. Hell, perhaps that's their goal anyhow. Either way, they don't have to deal with me and I don't have to deal with them.
No, I'm not. Look it up. As a matter of fact, it's a common phenomenon and was just the subject of my last nurse residency. Of course, if you're being closed-minded and literal, you WOULD read violence and assume something over the top. Sheesh.
There was an old thread on here that got locked down that was a lot of fun where we were allowed to vent about the stupid things that went on here. It was a blast. I miss those days
I remember it well! Good times, now with a cringe of guilt over some of what was posted there.
Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
I don't think that's the case, either. Perhaps some of the younger nurse do, but this isn't the case for myself. Unfortunately, the culture of the older nurses being so harsh but feeling as if they're providing "tough love" is what perpetuates that stereotype.
Which is also a stereotype, too. (Said in a non-harsh, non-tough love voice.)
Which is also a stereotype too. (Said in a non-harsh, non-tough love voice.)[/quote']
It isn't a stereotype if there is evidence to support it. I have been told so, so many times to "buck up" by older, more experienced nurses because "that's what we were told to do" and I'd be a "better nurse if I figured it out on my own." None of which should ever be said to a new graduate, nor someone just shy of a month off orientation. Just because that's how it WAS doesn't mean it should be how it IS.
Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
I never said that a student venting about a professor should be awarded automatic sympathy. I do feel, however, that as nursing is a nurturing profession, this idea that you need to be unnecessarily harsh to make a point doesn't help anyone, particularly the new generation of nurses. I have seen unnecessary treatment of nursing students. I've also witnessed and been a part of horizontal violence in the workplace. It doesn't make the seasoned nurses people I want to look up to. It makes then people I want to run from. Hell, perhaps that's their goal anyhow. Either way, they don't have to deal with me and I don't have to deal with them.
I'm not going to touch your comment, but I do want to make a suggestion (in a nurturing manner). You probably should not be posting a personal picture with your personal name/portions of your name. Even the most benign comment can come back to bite you if you are recognized. There have been some people here who learned that the hard way.
Unless that's a picture of a celebrity with her name. I don't keep up with all the new pop-culture.
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