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Started New Job and I feel like Crying

I started working at a small rural hospital the end of November, and was orientating on Day shift, I loved it, I got to do a lot of things I hadn't done since graduation 6 months ago and alot of new things, also I loved the nurses I worked with they were great at helping me.

Tonight was my 3rd Night Shift, The first night, I didn't know what to think, I worked with a bunch of very immature nurses who goofed off and made noise all night, it got pretty annoying, I was worried about getting in trouble that night:chair:

The last two nights I've worked with other nurses, and the one who has been in charge is only a few years older than me, but she talks to me like I'm stupid and acts like she knows everything, I'm afraid to make any suggestions or comments, cause I don't wanna listen to her go on and on about how I'm wrong. :nono: (Sorry I'm rambling)

Anyways this morning when I got off work and saw the day shift nurses I almost cried (I'm not sure why, maybe b/c I was relieved to go home, but wished I could work with them instead) Then again it could be totally unrelated and it's just cause my hormones are all out of wack right now. On the way home from work I was mad and depressed and wanted to cry and felt so wired that I don't know if I'll ever be able to sleep! I seriously thought about quitting, but I know that I just need to give it a little time, but I don't know if I can stand another night.

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medicrnohio, RN

Specializes in Tele, Home Health, MICU, CTICU, LTC.

Night shift in many places tends to have younger nurses. I am 27 and I'm one of the oldest nurses on night shift on my floor, I think there are 2 older than me plus the sups are older. At times the lack of maturity shows. People are loud and they goof off. Patients complain and then everyone gets in trouble. Please note: I am not saying all or even most younger people (nurses) are loud, immature,goof offs. I personally have noted less of that in older nurses.

So how do I deal with this? I separate myself from these people. I don't get loud. I ask other nurses to quiet down if they get too loud (they get mad about me asking but the patients come first). I make sure that patient room doors near the nursing station are closed if possible so that the patients can be somewhat shielded from even the normal noises of the phones, monitors, call lights, etc. I go to work and I do my job to the best of my ability.

Good luck to you!!!

DutchgirlRN, ASN, RN

Specializes in OB, M/S, HH, Medical Imaging RN. Has 33 years experience.

Is it not an option to transfer to days or at least put your name on a list? Where I work the day and night shift are so totally opposite. I don't think I could work with the other shift. I think they would be unkind to me also. Unfortunately it's this way in many hospitals. Hang in there a little longer and see if it improves. If not, I'd start looking elsewhere. Good Luck.

Sorry to hear your new job is not making you happy.

After so much work and schooling it must feel like such a let down. I hope my new job wherever it might me works out better. best wishes

GooeyRN, ASN, RN

Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, LTC. Has 12 years experience.

Im sorry things aren't working out to your liking so far. Give it a little more time and try to get to know the nurses. Maybe they aren't so bad after you get to know them.

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I would definitley apply for a day shift position and be persistent about it. Also getting used to night shift is hard on the body, and I don't think your body ever really gets used to it. I can remember working night shift for 6 months and feeling the same way you are describing. Best of luck. Keep us posted.

Sorry you are feeling bad. It is very difficult to move from the world of school where most everyone is trying to do things just right, to the world of work where sometimes people are not so idealistic. Continue to do what you know is right. I'd suggest you find a mentor somewhere in the hospital, even if they work a different shift. Ask around about who other nurses would want to be their nurse if they were in hospital. If the same name comes up several times, approach that person and tell her you had heard many compliments about her and that you'd like to be able to talk to her sometimes when you have a concern. Tell the other nurses on your shift that you are trying to figure out what makes a good nurse and ask the them their opinion. Do a lot of listening. Who knows; you might inspire some of them to get back to the core of nursing.... don't give up, you sound like a fine nurse; Dan

Tweety, BSN, RN

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac. Has 28 years experience.

I'm sorry your feeling this way and I hope that it gets better for you. Best of luck.

grinnurse, RN

Specializes in Med/Surge.

Sorry that you are having such a difficult time with this and will keep my fingers crossed for a day shift opening for you!! Maybe a little more time will make it better-if it does great, if not, hopefully they won't want to loose a good nurse and find a way to switch you to days with the other shift.

Good luck and best wishes

Fonenurse

Specializes in Multiple.

Lots of sensible things have been said by all the other posters. Please also remember that night duty has different effects on each of us - only 3 nights in your body may be taking time to stabilise... your body clock will be haywire... don't be too hard on yourself, but be true to what you know. Give it a bit more time and if ou still feel the same way, go to someone more senior you respect and talk to them.. and of course, remember we are always here...

Hi,

I'm not a nurse yet (May 06) but I have worked in healthcare for the past 15 years with 8 of those in management positions. One thing that I have learned as being "new" in jobs is that the people who are condescending usually have a superiority complex of their own and as a result the person on the other end (you) feels stupid. Try to look at it this way- Believe that you are a credible nurse who has enough integrity to ask someone for advice on a matter. They cannot make you feel stupid even if they try to because you have a higher opinion of yourself. You respect yourself enough to get the information you need. Let this person succumb to her own superiority, she will soon meet someone who puts her in her own place. People like that eventually run into a brick wall. Never make the mistake of labeling yourself stupid or feeling inferior to someone else. Let your confidence shine. No one knows everything. Who knows you may be in a position to show her something someday.....Heather

mitchsmom

Specializes in OB, lactation.

Hi,

I'm not a nurse yet (May 06) but I have worked in healthcare for the past 15 years with 8 of those in management positions. One thing that I have learned as being "new" in jobs is that the people who are condescending usually have a superiority complex of their own and as a result the person on the other end (you) feels stupid. Try to look at it this way- Believe that you are a credible nurse who has enough integrity to ask someone for advice on a matter. They cannot make you feel stupid even if they try to because you have a higher opinion of yourself. You respect yourself enough to get the information you need. Let this person succumb to her own superiority, she will soon meet someone who puts her in her own place. People like that eventually run into a brick wall. Never make the mistake of labeling yourself stupid or feeling inferior to someone else. Let your confidence shine. No one knows everything. Who knows you may be in a position to show her something someday.....Heather

Reminds me of the quote "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. " -Eleanor Roosevelt

I hope things look up for you soon!! ((hugs))

I started working at a small rural hospital the end of November, and was orientating on Day shift, I loved it, I got to do a lot of things I hadn't done since graduation 6 months ago and alot of new things, also I loved the nurses I worked with they were great at helping me.

Tonight was my 3rd Night Shift, The first night, I didn't know what to think, I worked with a bunch of very immature nurses who goofed off and made noise all night, it got pretty annoying, I was worried about getting in trouble that night:chair:

The last two nights I've worked with other nurses, and the one who has been in charge is only a few years older than me, but she talks to me like I'm stupid and acts like she knows everything, I'm afraid to make any suggestions or comments, cause I don't wanna listen to her go on and on about how I'm wrong. :nono: (Sorry I'm rambling)

Anyways this morning when I got off work and saw the day shift nurses I almost cried (I'm not sure why, maybe b/c I was relieved to go home, but wished I could work with them instead) Then again it could be totally unrelated and it's just cause my hormones are all out of wack right now. On the way home from work I was mad and depressed and wanted to cry and felt so wired that I don't know if I'll ever be able to sleep! I seriously thought about quitting, but I know that I just need to give it a little time, but I don't know if I can stand another night.

:sniff:

I sent you a private message.

Corvette Guy

Specializes in Telemetry, OR, ICU.

are you permanent night shift? or, do you have the option to alternate btwn days & nites? are these 12 hr shifts?

i worked 7p-7a on the telemetry floor when i first started nursing right out of school. i oriented on days, then for awhile alternated on day & nite shifts. i did not like going back & forth, so per my request i went straight nites. i had to learn how to sleep during the day; covered the windows for a very dark bedroom, slept with a small fan for the noise, and if it was summer time i'd cranked the ac to polar conditions.

true, the type of folks that prefer the nite shift are those that avoid the suits. in otherwords, all the professional types [dons, mds, etc.] are not around roaming the halls. therefore, the nite crew is usually a little more rowdy... carefree.

imho, you need to find a seasoned nite nurse that can show you the ropes. one thing about the nite crew nurses, they are usually strong clinical nurses since less people around, i.e. no pas, or mds readily available to probe for ideas to help critical thinking. so, if you can hang in you will most likely become a strong nurse quickly.

btw, once you've given report to the oncoming nurse... let it go. keep your work, at work, then when you get home, or wherever ... relax ;)

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Thanks everyone for all of your support. I just needed some time to cool off and relax and get it off my chest. I'm feeling much better now, of course It's been a week since I worked there now, and I have to work with the nurse I don't care for tomorrow night and she's in charge.

Unfortunately the nurses who goof off are all in their 40's at least. The only one I've had the problem with is the one that gets to be charge nurse and is in her 20's. The nights I work with her are the only nights I wish I wasn't working night shift.

I am working 2 night shifts a week from 4p-4a, and also two evenings from 2-10pm at the nursing home. I really do prefer getting off work at 4am rather than crawling out of bed at 3am, (I have a hard time making myself go to bed early at night.)

In May there may be part time day shift position available due to a nurse retiring. I know I'm probably not first in line to get it, but I don't think a whole lot of the night nurses really want to go to dayshift. So I'll just keep telling myself that it's only 5 months and I might get to go to days.

Nichole

mona b RN, BSN, RN

Specializes in Child/Adolescent Mental Health.

omg, that pic is so funny. :lol2:

are you permanent night shift? or, do you have the option to alternate btwn days & nites? are these 12 hr shifts?

i worked 7p-7a on the telemetry floor when i first started nursing right out of school. i oriented on days, then for awhile alternated on day & nite shifts. i did not like going back & forth, so per my request i went straight nites. i had to learn how to sleep during the day; covered the windows for a very dark bedroom, slept with a small fan for the noise, and if it was summer time i'd cranked the ac to polar conditions.

true, the type of folks that prefer the nite shift are those that avoid the suits. in otherwords, all the professional types [dons, mds, etc.] are not around roaming the halls. therefore, the nite crew is usually a little more rowdy... carefree.

imho, you need to find a seasoned nite nurse that can show you the ropes. one thing about the nite crew nurses, they are usually strong clinical nurses since less people around, i.e. no pas, or mds readily available to probe for ideas to help critical thinking. so, if you can hang in you will most likely become a strong nurse quickly.

btw, once you've given report to the oncoming nurse... let it go. keep your work, at work, then when you get home, or wherever ... relax ;)

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Sorry you are having a tough time on your new job.

I hope everything will work out for the best for you. Just say a prayer before you go to work and ask God to give you strenght and courage.

May God protects you and shine upon you.

Corvette Guy

Specializes in Telemetry, OR, ICU.

Thanks everyone for all of your support. I just needed some time to cool off and relax and get it off my chest. I'm feeling much better now, of course It's been a week since I worked there now, and I have to work with the nurse I don't care for tomorrow night and she's in charge.

Unfortunately the nurses who goof off are all in their 40's at least. The only one I've had the problem with is the one that gets to be charge nurse and is in her 20's. The nights I work with her are the only nights I wish I wasn't working night shift.

I am working 2 night shifts a week from 4p-4a, and also two evenings from 2-10pm at the nursing home. I really do prefer getting off work at 4am rather than crawling out of bed at 3am, (I have a hard time making myself go to bed early at night.)

In May there may be part time day shift position available due to a nurse retiring. I know I'm probably not first in line to get it, but I don't think a whole lot of the night nurses really want to go to dayshift. So I'll just keep telling myself that it's only 5 months and I might get to go to days.

Nichole

Nichole, talk to whomever it takes to get in line now for that May Part Time dayshift position.

:twocents:

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