Started New Job and I feel like Crying

mitchsmom · Jan 1, 2006

Hi,
I'm not a nurse yet (May 06) but I have worked in healthcare for the past 15 years with 8 of those in management positions. One thing that I have learned as being "new" in jobs is that the people who are condescending usually have a superiority complex of their own and as a result the person on the other end (you) feels stupid. Try to look at it this way- Believe that you are a credible nurse who has enough integrity to ask someone for advice on a matter. They cannot make you feel stupid even if they try to because you have a higher opinion of yourself. You respect yourself enough to get the information you need. Let this person succumb to her own superiority, she will soon meet someone who puts her in her own place. People like that eventually run into a brick wall. Never make the mistake of labeling yourself stupid or feeling inferior to someone else. Let your confidence shine. No one knows everything. Who knows you may be in a position to show her something someday.....Heather

Reminds me of the quote "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. " -Eleanor Roosevelt

I hope things look up for you soon!! ((hugs))

pie123 · Jan 2, 2006

I started working at a small rural hospital the end of November, and was orientating on Day shift, I loved it, I got to do a lot of things I hadn't done since graduation 6 months ago and alot of new things, also I loved the nurses I worked with they were great at helping me.
Tonight was my 3rd Night Shift, The first night, I didn't know what to think, I worked with a bunch of very immature nurses who goofed off and made noise all night, it got pretty annoying, I was worried about getting in trouble that night:chair:
The last two nights I've worked with other nurses, and the one who has been in charge is only a few years older than me, but she talks to me like I'm stupid and acts like she knows everything, I'm afraid to make any suggestions or comments, cause I don't wanna listen to her go on and on about how I'm wrong. (Sorry I'm rambling)
Anyways this morning when I got off work and saw the day shift nurses I almost cried (I'm not sure why, maybe b/c I was relieved to go home, but wished I could work with them instead) Then again it could be totally unrelated and it's just cause my hormones are all out of wack right now. On the way home from work I was mad and depressed and wanted to cry and felt so wired that I don't know if I'll ever be able to sleep! I seriously thought about quitting, but I know that I just need to give it a little time, but I don't know if I can stand another night.

I sent you a private message.

Corvette Guy · Jan 2, 2006

are you permanent night shift? or, do you have the option to alternate btwn days & nites? are these 12 hr shifts?

i worked 7p-7a on the telemetry floor when i first started nursing right out of school. i oriented on days, then for awhile alternated on day & nite shifts. i did not like going back & forth, so per my request i went straight nites. i had to learn how to sleep during the day; covered the windows for a very dark bedroom, slept with a small fan for the noise, and if it was summer time i'd cranked the ac to polar conditions.

true, the type of folks that prefer the nite shift are those that avoid the suits. in otherwords, all the professional types [dons, mds, etc.] are not around roaming the halls. therefore, the nite crew is usually a little more rowdy... carefree.

imho, you need to find a seasoned nite nurse that can show you the ropes. one thing about the nite crew nurses, they are usually strong clinical nurses since less people around, i.e. no pas, or mds readily available to probe for ideas to help critical thinking. so, if you can hang in you will most likely become a strong nurse quickly.

btw, once you've given report to the oncoming nurse... let it go. keep your work, at work, then when you get home, or wherever ... relax

BowlerRN · Jan 2, 2006

Thanks everyone for all of your support. I just needed some time to cool off and relax and get it off my chest. I'm feeling much better now, of course It's been a week since I worked there now, and I have to work with the nurse I don't care for tomorrow night and she's in charge.

Unfortunately the nurses who goof off are all in their 40's at least. The only one I've had the problem with is the one that gets to be charge nurse and is in her 20's. The nights I work with her are the only nights I wish I wasn't working night shift.

I am working 2 night shifts a week from 4p-4a, and also two evenings from 2-10pm at the nursing home. I really do prefer getting off work at 4am rather than crawling out of bed at 3am, (I have a hard time making myself go to bed early at night.)

In May there may be part time day shift position available due to a nurse retiring. I know I'm probably not first in line to get it, but I don't think a whole lot of the night nurses really want to go to dayshift. So I'll just keep telling myself that it's only 5 months and I might get to go to days.

Nichole

mona b RN, BSN, RN · Jan 2, 2006

omg, that pic is so funny. :lol2:

are you permanent night shift? or, do you have the option to alternate btwn days & nites? are these 12 hr shifts?
i worked 7p-7a on the telemetry floor when i first started nursing right out of school. i oriented on days, then for awhile alternated on day & nite shifts. i did not like going back & forth, so per my request i went straight nites. i had to learn how to sleep during the day; covered the windows for a very dark bedroom, slept with a small fan for the noise, and if it was summer time i'd cranked the ac to polar conditions.
true, the type of folks that prefer the nite shift are those that avoid the suits. in otherwords, all the professional types [dons, mds, etc.] are not around roaming the halls. therefore, the nite crew is usually a little more rowdy... carefree.
imho, you need to find a seasoned nite nurse that can show you the ropes. one thing about the nite crew nurses, they are usually strong clinical nurses since less people around, i.e. no pas, or mds readily available to probe for ideas to help critical thinking. so, if you can hang in you will most likely become a strong nurse quickly.
btw, once you've given report to the oncoming nurse... let it go. keep your work, at work, then when you get home, or wherever ... relax

NaomieRN · Jan 2, 2006

Sorry you are having a tough time on your new job.

I hope everything will work out for the best for you. Just say a prayer before you go to work and ask God to give you strenght and courage.

May God protects you and shine upon you.

Corvette Guy · Jan 3, 2006

Thanks everyone for all of your support. I just needed some time to cool off and relax and get it off my chest. I'm feeling much better now, of course It's been a week since I worked there now, and I have to work with the nurse I don't care for tomorrow night and she's in charge.
Unfortunately the nurses who goof off are all in their 40's at least. The only one I've had the problem with is the one that gets to be charge nurse and is in her 20's. The nights I work with her are the only nights I wish I wasn't working night shift.
I am working 2 night shifts a week from 4p-4a, and also two evenings from 2-10pm at the nursing home. I really do prefer getting off work at 4am rather than crawling out of bed at 3am, (I have a hard time making myself go to bed early at night.)
In May there may be part time day shift position available due to a nurse retiring. I know I'm probably not first in line to get it, but I don't think a whole lot of the night nurses really want to go to dayshift. So I'll just keep telling myself that it's only 5 months and I might get to go to days.
Nichole

Nichole, talk to whomever it takes to get in line now for that May Part Time dayshift position.

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