So I'm fired. Again.

pagandeva2000, LPN · Oct 20, 2007

I have more than a few cuss words that I can't share, or I'll surely get booted out of this forum for good.

I hate the way nurses are. We are basically ALL in the same boat, but rather than help each other, we allow ourselves to be pitted against each other like pit bulls. I see each administration conduct themselves this way. The only difference is that some units are smarter and those particular nurses work hard to keep things within the unit rather than convienently float information to hurt our fellow collagues.

SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN · Oct 20, 2007

I have more than a few cuss words that I can't share, or I'll surely get booted out of this forum for good.
I hate the way nurses are. We are basically ALL in the same boat, but rather than help each other, we allow ourselves to be pitted against each other like pit bulls. I see each administration conduct themselves this way. The only difference is that some units are smarter and those particular nurses work hard to keep things within the unit rather than convienently float information to hurt our fellow collagues.

Yeah, my butt shows a few chomps from the non-young-eating nurses I've met.

I just keep thining, though, that it must be me. Two out of three, pagandeva, y'know?

pagandeva2000, LPN · Oct 20, 2007

Yeah, my butt shows a few chomps from the non-young-eating nurses I've met.
I just keep thining, though, that it must be me. Two out of three, pagandeva, y'know?

I do know that we have to review our own behaviors to see the possible errors in our ways. This is how we improve. But many times, these things happen as a group, because some of them are intimidated by someone that they think can hurt them. The charge nurse that you mentioned seemed to be a wuss, more than a strong person. Many times, a person may have a title, but, we have to look at who is REALLY controlling the puppet strings.

Long Term Care Columnist / Guide · Oct 20, 2007

Sue, for what it's worth........it took me NINE YEARS to find my niche in nursing. Nine years to find the place I want to call home for the rest of my career. Nine years to learn what I do best, and with what kind of people I do best. I may not have struggled quite as much as you have with the nurse-eating stuff, and I can say in all truthfulness that I have NEVER had a patient complaint. But I've run afoul of management more times than I care to count just by being myself---I'm one of those with whom "what you see is what you get"---and they made life so miserable for me that I had no choice but to quit (and yes, I've been fired too.)

Being older, I know that whenever more than one person tells me I need to work on something, I have to seriously consider the possibility that they may be right. But even if your situation gives you cause to believe that there may be something you need to change, PLEASE don't be hard on yourself, and don't give up on nursing........all of us have our issues, and we are far too quick to judge other nurses for theirs, but the reality is, we don't have a nurse to waste. You are needed!

Yes, you are still inexperienced, but as we all know, the only cure for that is more experience. Hang in there, Sue..........surely better days are coming.:)

RainDreamer, BSN, RN · Oct 20, 2007

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this!

((((HUGS)))) for you.

Good for you though for turning this into a positive by stepping back and reevaluating yourself and taking classes.

I'm a big believer of "things happening for a reason" too. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but maybe this happened so you could move onto bigger and better things .... and find something that you end up falling in love with.

That's what happened with my first job. I wasn't happy, with the work or the management, politics, etc. I was pretty much forced to find something else and it was the best thing I ever did because I found my niche, I love where I work and the people I work with. It's great a great thing to be able to go into work and actually enjoy it. And I have faith that that's what will happen to you. Good things don't come easily. And I know this hasn't been easy for you .... therefore you've got great things comin' your way! Hang in there!

steelcityrn, RN · Oct 20, 2007

Lots of good advice here. Could be very useful to others who may be going through this. I like your plan of continuing on for your r.n. This was a learning experience, nothing more. Not only do we have to learn nursing skills, but we have to learn how to tolorate some of these trouble makers we have to work with. Best of luck.

SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN · Oct 21, 2007

Thanks, all.

Well, I've been working on the RN for a year now and am more than halfway through the exams. But stress immobilizes me and I haven't been doing what I should studying-wise. So I'm going to bang out the next three and then do the clinical portion.

Guys, your support and kindness through this means more than I can tell you. I've be a quivering mass of jelly had I not this place.

nyapa, RN · Oct 25, 2007

Suesquatch, think of it this way. Why do you think you have so many 'thanks'? Because you listen to ppl too. I admire you for your 'get up and go' attitude. Continue to go for gold...

pickledpepperRN · Oct 25, 2007

In the early eighties they laid off all the LVNs working in critical care at my hospital. I said what my grandma said when she was fired, "I was looking for a job when I got this one."

I had been taking one class a semester after realizing I didn't have the discipline to the the New Your Regents.

SO after applying for unemployment they took me back on med/surg.

Missed a lot of sleep going to school full time. But maybe it was needed to get my RN.

You can do it!

Remember the time will go by so you might as well get your RN. There are more opportunities, more respect, and more money too!

I'm praying for you.

Hellllllo Nurse, BSN, RN · Oct 25, 2007

Thanks, all.
Well, I have a new plan. DH and I are just going to live very frugally over the next few months and I'm going to bang out the RN classes I have left via Excelsior.
I'm not going back as an LPN, and I'm sure as heck not going back to med/surg. Once I am an RN I have options, and they are not only the nursing home or med/surg.
Thanks for all of your kind words. I'm feeling, to quote the Fuggs, like homemade shiddle-iddle-iddle it. With appologies to the TOS.
:)
I'll be ok. I just hate feeling played, which I was the last few weeks here.

Sue-

When I was an LPN, I was assaulted at work by an RN, in front of witnesses. How goofy was I- after being assaulted, I went in and took report, and went to work.(I should have called the police right then, and had charges filed; hindsight=20/20). This was nocs, and in the am, I drove to another facility and reported it to the NM.

Anyway, the NM, the RN and I were to have a meeting. The RN showed up w/ a lawyer, and my NM and the facility totally backed down- no consequences for this guy, and I was expected to keep working w/ him.

Well, I quit. I had loved that job (hospice inpt) and I was very upset. Like you have decided to do, I took the opportunity to persue my RN.

I was an LPN for 8 years, and have been an RN for 7. Being an RN is better.

I'm sorry this happened to you, but it could end up being a good thing in the end- You'll get your RN!

SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN · Oct 25, 2007

Thanks again to you all.

I'm enjoying this. My house is slowly getting clean - and with 3 cats and 3 dogs, you know it needs it - my husband loves having someone ask,"So whaddayou want for dinner?", I'm catching up on all of the home management chores that get put off when both work f/t and one is too stressed to do anything but quiver and sleep, and I'm reading for the next Excelsior exam.

Plus, it's autumn in the north country, and that's my favorite season.

:)

Hellllllo Nurse, BSN, RN · Oct 26, 2007

Glad you're enjoying your time off, Sue!