Should I tell my employer why I'm really leaving?

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I'm leaving my employer soon because I can't stand being there anymore. My job title is administrative assistant for an OB/GYN. I love my job duties and I love what I do but most of my work load involves correcting EVERY mistake my supervisor makes. My supervisor is the Dr.'s wife and not only is she inexperienced and incomptenent but she also has poor vision. So I have to fix every error she makes. And these errors are not your typical honest mistakes --she makes the DUMBEST mistakes...not once in a while but all the time! She doesn't know how to fill out lab requisition forms, she'll send specimen to the wrong lab, she thinks that HIPAA forms are not necessary to have at our office, and she leaves the speculums with lady partsl discharge and blood on them after she "washed" them -- I could go on and on about everything she does wrong. I've been working there for two years and not once have a said anything untill now. I told her nicely that she had to be careful with this or that and she was VERY offended and denied it and when I showed her proof of her error, she just said "ok, ok" and that was it. I am leaving because I need to have supervisor that knows what they are doing. And what bothers me the most is that my supervisor keeps telling me, "it's really tough out there, there are NO jobs out there and I know you need the money...i know your situation" lol, so yeah she's specualting on my "situation" and trying to manipulate me to stay and she thinks i'm still there because i can't get a job. What she doesn't know is that ive been working there for two yrs to gain experience and that there are a lot of people waiting to hire me right away. Honestly, I have suddenly lost respect for my current employer. I've worked my butt off for two years doing everything and getting really crappy pay. And the doctor is such a A-hole. He's always talking bad about the patients we see and i really hate that about him. I love my patients and i'm compassionate towards them but I really hate that the dr. tell me they are "whores" and that "they shouldn't be opening their legs"...stuff like that really bothers me. I'm really uncompfrtable being there now. Plus, they wont let me take a vacation, not even a 5 day break. Ive been there for 2 yrs and haven't had a break :( they just like to complain but i'm so ready to leave...they dont appreciate my work AT ALL!:o:o:o:o

Specializes in critical care, PACU.

It worries me that she is so careless with infection control and sanitization :(

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Specializes in Legal, Ortho, Rehab.

A real big part of me would want you to tell them the REAL reason, but I must agree for the sake of not burning bridges just smile, and recite the "it's time I expand my horizons" speech. Although, I do not see you returning, you don't want them trashing you, and ruining your next job offer. Believe me, I see why you are sooo tempted to tell them something. :D

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Specializes in 5th Semester - Graduation Dec '09!.
:twocents: It is your obligation to report your employer if you believe they are using dirty instruments. This is seriously frightening! :eek:
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Specializes in Telemetry/Med-Surg.

As much as I would find it hard not to get verbal diarrhea on my way out the door if I were you I think you should leave on at least a neutral note. I think maybe even say to your vapid boss that as she said before she knows your "situation" and you needed to go somewhere else in order to get out of that situation let her assume she knows what it is. She doesnt have to know that the horrid office you work in is the "situation".

PS: I think I am going to inspect the speculum myself before my pap this year!:eek:

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I lasted that long to gain experience. My supervisor is totally clueless! She's so dumb that when the W-2 forms arrived, she filed them away. She had no idea what they were!!!

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We NEVER use dirty instruments patients. I always inspect them before putting them into the autoclave. The thing is is that the boss's wife is albino, so she has poor vision and I tell her nicely but she gets VERY offended. I'm going to feel really sorry for that office when I leave. My supervisor has been working there as long as I have, so lucky for her I've been able to clean up her mess. She used to be a travel agent now she's the owner of a medical practice and what angers me the most is that she refuses to use HIPAA forms and things like that. She has no clue of what she's doing!!!!!!

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I had a job like this. Just tell them that you have found a better job that fits with your goals. The doc's wife won't get it. That doc isn't a nice man, so he won't get it. But I promise you that they will understand money.

Be ready to clean your desk out when you tell them. You never know how they will react.

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Specializes in Operating Room Nursing.
If they're not nurses, the BON can't act.

Aren't these instruments autoclaved? If instruments really are left dirty and non-sterile, you do need to get that matter fixed but might not have to go to the authorities about it.

You still have to wash and remove any debris/body fluid before you autoclave an instrument otherwise the instrument is still not considered sterile.

To the OP: I would tell my employer about why I was leaving, but not be emotional about it, just state the facts.

If a doctor even mentioned the word 'whore' around me I would inform then that I felt uncomfortable discussing patients personal lives because it's inappropriate.

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If she's half as bad about HIPAA as you say, I don't think her practice will be open much longer - unless she finds another person willing to shadow her every step.

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I lasted that long to gain experience. My supervisor is totally clueless! She's so dumb that when the W-2 forms arrived, she filed them away. She had no idea what they were!!!

What did she file them under?

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Specializes in being a Credible Source.
I'm also wondering...are all doctors like my boss? So rude? and always judging patients.
Absolutely not. I work with and trained with some fine people who also happen to be physicians. There are some pieces of work, to be sure, but they seem to be the minority so far as I've observed.
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Specializes in ER/Acute Care.
My supervisor is the Dr.'s wife and not only is she inexperienced and incomptenent but she also has poor vision. So I have to fix every error she makes. And these errors are not your typical honest mistakes --she makes the DUMBEST mistakes...not once in a while but all the time! She doesn't know how to fill out lab requisition forms, she'll send specimen to the wrong lab, she thinks that HIPAA forms are not necessary to have at our office, and she leaves the speculums with lady partsl discharge and blood on them after she "washed" them -- I could go on and on about everything she does wrong.

The dirty examination equipment is completely unacceptable and should be reported to the medical board, as it is the physician's responsibility to manage his practice. This totally contributes to why malpractice premiums are so high for OBs. If he infects someone with an STI using dirty equipment, it's his license and his business that will suffer. I'm sure he would rather sacrifice his wife's ego than pay that piper.

As far is confronting them, I probably wouldn't. From what you've mentioned, it sounds like they wouldn't take your comments constructively and it might end badly for you. Good luck with whatever you decide to do :)

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