Should I tell my employer why I'm really leaving?

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I'm leaving my employer soon because I can't stand being there anymore. My job title is administrative assistant for an OB/GYN. I love my job duties and I love what I do but most of my work load involves correcting EVERY mistake my supervisor makes. My supervisor is the Dr.'s wife and not only is she inexperienced and incomptenent but she also has poor vision. So I have to fix every error she makes. And these errors are not your typical honest mistakes --she makes the DUMBEST mistakes...not once in a while but all the time! She doesn't know how to fill out lab requisition forms, she'll send specimen to the wrong lab, she thinks that HIPAA forms are not necessary to have at our office, and she leaves the speculums with lady partsl discharge and blood on them after she "washed" them -- I could go on and on about everything she does wrong. I've been working there for two years and not once have a said anything untill now. I told her nicely that she had to be careful with this or that and she was VERY offended and denied it and when I showed her proof of her error, she just said "ok, ok" and that was it. I am leaving because I need to have supervisor that knows what they are doing. And what bothers me the most is that my supervisor keeps telling me, "it's really tough out there, there are NO jobs out there and I know you need the money...i know your situation" lol, so yeah she's specualting on my "situation" and trying to manipulate me to stay and she thinks i'm still there because i can't get a job. What she doesn't know is that ive been working there for two yrs to gain experience and that there are a lot of people waiting to hire me right away. Honestly, I have suddenly lost respect for my current employer. I've worked my butt off for two years doing everything and getting really crappy pay. And the doctor is such a A-hole. He's always talking bad about the patients we see and i really hate that about him. I love my patients and i'm compassionate towards them but I really hate that the dr. tell me they are "whores" and that "they shouldn't be opening their legs"...stuff like that really bothers me. I'm really uncompfrtable being there now. Plus, they wont let me take a vacation, not even a 5 day break. Ive been there for 2 yrs and haven't had a break :( they just like to complain but i'm so ready to leave...they dont appreciate my work AT ALL!:o:o:o:o

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Sounds like leaving is a good move, but don't burn your bridges and remember Blood is thicker than water.

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Specializes in Pediatrics.

I am glad you are going to leave! You will be able to find a office that respects and pays you more. I wouldn't tell them why you are really leaving because you never know when you might need them. References etc. You don't know who they know either. Don't burn your bridge kind of thing. Good luck to you and am happy to hear you are moving on. Find a job you enjoy & it's not like your working at all. :yeah:

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Leave:Just don't burn any bridges.

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Start looking-NOW!

I couldn't work for people like that-if they do something wrong, REALLY wrong, they will not take the blame, they will blame it on the "other"(you) and your career could be blown....

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I'm also wondering...are all doctors like my boss? So rude? and always judging patients. I hope not. Because listening to my boss talk about pt. and judge them is really disturbing. I'm the type that just wants to go in and get the job done --not sit there and talk bad about others.

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It sounds like the administration enjoys character assassination. So... even without reason, they will probably assassinate your character with some ugly words to someone no matter what you do. Hopefully, they will not state that you are a whore.

If you have another job, just leave and turn them in to the state BON after you are gone, if you feel it is necessary. If they are truly leaving body fluids on instruments, then report them to the health dept. That is nasty!

If they are as ignorant as you say they are, they will not even understand your reason for leaving.

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Isn't it sad how we have to play hush hush games because we might need them to get another job? I worked for a doctor who touched a bloody gauze from a pt who was HIV positive, then he didn't wash. I reported it, it did no good, and now I need them as a reference.

I understand we don't want to "burn any bridges" but at the same time, what if this was your mother who was getting bloody hands from a doctor who didn't wash...Are we really a "patient advocate" if we don't speak up?

This doctors wife was "washing" the instruments and left bodily fluids on them? Get my drift?

S A D !!!!

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Sounds like leaving is a good move, but don't burn your bridges and remember Blood is thicker than water.

I totally agree.

Yeah, it's not good when you have a doc who disrespects the patients. It's terrible when your supervisor is incompetent and error-prone.

2 suggestions: remind the doc, nicely, that he should be glad the patients are whores because it keeps him in business; do not correct your boss' mistakes. Just let the specimens go to the wrong lab, let the requisitions be wrong, etc.

About vacation - have you got unused vacation days for which they must pay you? If so, do you think they will try to get by without paying you? If so, and if you want to avoid going to the Labor Board or small claims court, take the days off before you leave. Just tell them you simply need to have some R&R time and you are taking off next week or whatever to go to a wedding out of town or whatever excuse you want to give. Or just say you simply need time off. Do they take time off? They should understand that everyone needs time off.

With all of that, do not burn your bridges, do not speak your mind any more than you already have. you just never know what the future holds and you might want to go back to work for them.

Are all doctors critical of their patients? No way to know but all doctors are only human. Draw your own conclusions.

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It sounds like the administration enjoys character assassination. So... even without reason, they will probably assassinate your character with some ugly words to someone no matter what you do. Hopefully, they will not state that you are a whore.

If you have another job, just leave and turn them in to the state BON after you are gone, if you feel it is necessary. If they are truly leaving body fluids on instruments, then report them to the health dept. That is nasty!

If they are as ignorant as you say they are, they will not even understand your reason for leaving.

If they're not nurses, the BON can't act.

Aren't these instruments autoclaved? If instruments really are left dirty and non-sterile, you do need to get that matter fixed but might not have to go to the authorities about it.

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How did you last 2 years?

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I would probably lie to them and make up some compelling reason why I had to seek work elsewhere. Then after I had secured and been in the new position for a bit I would report the old office to the Health Dept or whatever authority is appropriate where you live.

Patients should not have to tolerate the conditions you describe.

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