Should I be offened or not?

[Cmariehart]

HI everyone... Need some opinions on this one.. Not sure what to make of it!!

I have decided to go back to school to get my RN. NOw I work in LTC as an LPN and let's just say there is one doctor that I can't stand. Mainly because he's a jerk and NEVER comes in to see his people when he needs to be there.

I came in to work early the other day because I wanted to ask my head nurse a question about pt.XXX and the doctor was there. Well I waited patiently until they were done and then i asked my head nurse my question and he just stood there listening to everything I asked her. (I was just a little annoyed) Well she answered the question and then he threw in his 2 cents worth. And my head nurse told him I was going back to school to get my RN and his reaction was weird... He looked at me and said why didn't you do that first? Do you think getting your LPN is going to give you extra experience? I couldn't even answer him because he grabbed his stuff and took off down the hall and yelled I'll be a fine RN....

Not for nothing I'm proud of being an LPN!!! I fought tooth and nail to get through school and my boards, and yes I think it gives me an extra advantage over someone that has never set foot on a unit and doesn't know how to deal with what goes on. (It's overwhelming to new people, I remember my first day of clinicals!!!)

Should I be offended by the doctor or no... thanks for listening to me vent!!

CMH

[caliotter3]

At least he acknowledged that he thinks you will be a fine RN. Some people just have trouble saying nice, positive things. He sounds like one of those people. His personal life must be limited and lacking if he acts this way all the time.

[Keepstanding, ASN, RN]

Some (most) doc's are pompas a's and this was of acting is thier calling card.

Just forget about it. You have done more than most to further yourself and your career. Be proud of your accomplishments and don't worry about what one tale hole said ! Congratulation and Best of luck in school !

Praiser \o/

[StrwbryblndRN]

If he a jerk already then it should not surprise you that he would say something to offend you or anyone else.

I would probably be offended but it is best to try and forget it and expect rudeness from him any given time. I am not sure what your facilities policies are but make sure that if the situation warrants a formal complaint, do not just blow it off.

[UNFBSN2B]

Nah...don't be offended. I had a young doc tell me once that he was considering getting his BSN in addition to his MD! Take it as a compliment and go on.

[Soup Turtle]

It sounds like he is picking up on the fact that you don't care for him and reacting to it.

[rn/writer, RN]

Here is one secret to keeping your sanity.

Refuse to be offended. Ever. Especially when it is not meant. And even when it is.

[nitetimeobnurse]

This could spin a whole new string of comments about offensive things doctors say to nurses. but it is much better to do as Miranda has the right idea, don't drive yourself crazy, especially if you know you are doing things in the right order for you, and you have every right to be proud of your accomplishments, and one person has no right or authority to undermine that.

[Soup Turtle]

Here is one secret to keeping your sanity.

Refuse to be offended. Ever. Especially when it is not meant. And even when it is.

I like that.

[pagandeva2000, LPN]

I think he was an A-hole. Physicians know NOTHING about nursing, and I think that he really doesn't know how to address people. First off, he didn't have the courtesy to leave when you wanted to speak to the nurse privately, and also, the comment that ticked you off. Sometimes, I even have to remind myself that morons are not worth my energy (usually after thinking and maybe even saying a string of cuss words enough to make a sailor blush).

[ERRNTraveler, RN]

I learned a long time ago to not care what physicians think of me. As long as I am competent in what I do, anything else just rolls right off my back. A lot of doctors (especially residents & new docs) are on a power-trip- they've got this "God" complex. I refuse to stroke their egos by attempting to "win them over." If my competence as a nurse is not enough to gain their respect, so be it. I've got better things to do than care what they think...

[brighella]

I found the fact that he stood around dipping into your conversation with the charge and offering his info without being asked more rude than the comments. But its also not really worth getting upset about. Its pretty easy to be offended when thats what you're looking for. Sounds like it didnt bother you too much - good job!