I like being a nurse but the hours make it so hard to meet somebody. I work every other weekend, nights and holidays. It seems as though every nurse I know who is married or in a relationship met their spouses prior to becoming a nurse or on the job (not possible for me). I am not super social and between my ft and prn hospital jobs, I just don't feel like I have time to meet someone especially with night shift.
I made a lot of friends from online dating, they just weren't the ones. Okcupid, I only met one guy on. We went on one date, and we are actually still friends. He's a lawyer and a decent guy.", he just couldn't figure out what he wanted in life, and honestly, I wasn't going to wait. Zoosk, had a lot of weird guys on it. I ditched it after going on a couple of first dates but not connecting. It was hard to find guys who actually even had jobs on that site. I wasn't really impressed.
What I learned from it all is the more expensive sites is where you will find the more serious guys. EHarmony took too long to sign up. I like to look at the pics and read the profiles and go from there. I don't need a computer to try and match me. I want to match me!!!!
You have to give it a good chance. It's not an instant process. You can pm me if you ever want tips on how to screen or which profiles to ignore. Or even if you want to hear some wild stories because I have them!!!!
But in the end, I met my best friend and partner in crime online. And I never would have met him if I hadn't gone online. I don't do bars and I don't have time to go do adventurous things and who meets at the grocery store anymore? I know it's hard, but sometimes, you gotta put yourself out there, and in this day and age, that place is the Internet.
Don't knock grocery stores. Just go into the Produce section and handle the fruit.
NurseGirl I can relate. I found one of my best friends and running buddies through Tinder of all places! We never went on a date and never flirted, but we just really work as friends. It's perfect! The guy I'm dating now I actually met on POF half a year ago. We never dated, simply became friends. And now we're dating (casually).
Also--this is obvious but I'm just throwing it out there--I don't let guys pick me up from my house. They literally have to know me for months before they find out where exactly I live. Plus, if the date goes bad, you can leave whenever you please.
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I am one of the most socially awkward people alive and I met my husband when I was newer to nursing. I made it work. I was introduced to the two guys I dated after my divorce by friends, which made life easier. I didn't have to go on the prowl to find them and they knew I was a nurse and were friends with the husbands of my nurse friends. One was a dud and one I married. So, I guess my best advice is to see what your network of friends has to offer. My husband had to get used to my work life and schedule early on.
I met my husband on OkCupid while working nights, weekends and holidays as well. After we started dating, he would wake me up at 6 pm to bring me dinner (breakfast for me) before going off to my night shift. After he started staying over at my apartment, I would always bring him breakfast from work. It worked out great while we were dating. However, after becoming engaged, he moved in and we both decided it would be best for me to switch to day shift and now I love being able to go to sleep next to my husband every night. It is very much do-able, especially if you do online dating.
NurseGirl I can relate. I found one of my best friends and running buddies through Tinder of all places! We never went on a date and never flirted, but we just really work as friends. It's perfect! The guy I'm dating now I actually met on POF half a year ago. We never dated, simply became friends. And now we're dating (casually).
Also--this is obvious but I'm just throwing it out there--I don't let guys pick me up from my house. They literally have to know me for months before they find out where exactly I live. Plus, if the date goes bad, you can leave whenever you please.
I would add not to go to their place either. Just today this guy online invited me to coffee and then gave me the address to his place.
He seemed quite confused when I told him I wasn't looking for a hookup and he said he wasn't either (then why invite some stranger you've only messaged once over to place???).
The guys I have come across on okcupid have been very unimpressive, but I am glad it worked out for you.
I think I need to do a paid website. Eharmony sounds awesome.
I met my husband on OkCupid while working nights, weekends and holidays as well. After we started dating, he would wake me up at 6 pm to bring me dinner (breakfast for me) before going off to my night shift. After he started staying over at my apartment, I would always bring him breakfast from work. It worked out great while we were dating. However, after becoming engaged, he moved in and we both decided it would be best for me to switch to day shift and now I love being able to go to sleep next to my husband every night. It is very much do-able, especially if you do online dating.
I am extremely introverted but when I do go out, it is with family. I wish I liked drinking and partying..it would make things so much easier!
One trend I have noticed is that so many guys in my age group are into gaming. Nearly every profile I have come across lists videogames as a hobby. Not that there is anything wrong with that but of the ones I've talked to, they all barely work and dropped out of college. As someone who is working two jobs and planning on going to grad school next year, that is a turn off.
Video Gaming is a professional sports now...
If you are introverted, you might not mind a gamer so much... :)
I met my son's father on Match. I met my longest relationship on a treadmill at the gym. It's just about keeping your eyes open. You're not at work 24/7.
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Don't knock grocery stores. Just go into the Produce section and handle the fruit.