I like being a nurse but the hours make it so hard to meet somebody. I work every other weekend, nights and holidays. It seems as though every nurse I know who is married or in a relationship met their spouses prior to becoming a nurse or on the job (not possible for me). I am not super social and between my ft and prn hospital jobs, I just don't feel like I have time to meet someone especially with night shift.
NurseGirl I can relate. I found one of my best friends and running buddies through Tinder of all places! We never went on a date and never flirted, but we just really work as friends. It's perfect! The guy I'm dating now I actually met on POF half a year ago. We never dated, simply became friends. And now we're dating (casually).
Also--this is obvious but I'm just throwing it out there--I don't let guys pick me up from my house. They literally have to know me for months before they find out where exactly I live. Plus, if the date goes bad, you can leave whenever you please.
Also--this is obvious but I'm just throwing it out there--I don't let guys pick me up from my house. They literally have to know me for months before they find out where exactly I live. Plus, if the date goes bad, you can leave whenever you please.
I used to meet dates at the place we picked to meet or a very public corner; they might have thought I was creepy, but I became very cautious after my last relationship; no one was going to take advantage of me!
I would agree with the poster who said networking. Nurses you work with have guy friends, neighbors, brothers & male nurses have buddies. You might do better with somebody who also works nontypical hours, like an EMT, fireman, policeman, waiter, musician, etc.
Is there an issue really important to you? With this being an election year, find a candidate who supports that issue & volunteer some time-can be as little as an hour or two. I've met some really cool people that way. You never know who they might know to introduce you to. Good luck!
It took some time and awful dates but I ended up meeting my boyfriend on Tinder, after I swore never to do online dating again. A strict screening process is important. Also, stick to your guns. If you have deal breakers don't change them for anyone, it helps weed out the men not truly looking for something long term. Dating is very much doable when you find a worthy person who is understanding that there are people who work nights and life isn't centered around what they think is ideal. Stay positive!
I've been with my boyfriend 3 and a half years now. We met on Match.com, while I was a night shift nurse, and I had the exact same thoughts as you before finding him. He's wonderful! You do have to meet a lot of frogs before you find your prince, and for me it took about 2 months on Match, though I think I really lucked out time-wise. Most people who've met their partner online have been at it a lot longer than that.
It does take extra work and compromise on both sides to begin a relationship while working completely opposite shifts. I got a strong inkling this guy was the one when, very first date when we met, he suggested breakfast at a Dunkin after one of my workshifts, before a morning meeting he had! I thought that was so sweet that he thought outside the typical dating box right off the bat!
Good luck, and hang in there! I think patience is key.
I met my husband through match.com...while I was working nights. I showed up to our first meet after shift, had been up almost 24 hours, frazzled...thought if he can't take me at my worst, then forget it and him. We have been married over 3 years and are expecting a baby â¤ï¸
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LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN
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Meetup is an excellent way to meet people; going out with groups helped me foster great connections, some dates that led to great friendships.
I met my fiancé on MySpace.
He ended up being local-literally live 20 minutes from me-and I went from there...