I like being a nurse but the hours make it so hard to meet somebody. I work every other weekend, nights and holidays. It seems as though every nurse I know who is married or in a relationship met their spouses prior to becoming a nurse or on the job (not possible for me). I am not super social and between my ft and prn hospital jobs, I just don't feel like I have time to meet someone especially with night shift.
Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
Don't people go out anymore?
Society has changed...many people in this day and age do not go out nearly as much as those in previous generations.
Think about it. A young person who came of age 30 years ago had to go out and interact with people for entertainment, friendship and romance. However, modern technologies such as smartphones, gaming, computers and tablets and reduced many peoples' inclination to get out there.
A frequent World-of-Warcraft player likely has a group of internet 'friends.' A young man or woman who is in the mood for companionship can swipe the smartphone's screen to the right on Tinder and hook up with a potential partner the same night. And why go to the bar or Saturday night when one can use an IPad to have drinks and bar food delivered to the front door?
Society is losing the intangible skill of forming human connections as technology advances, IMHO. However, I do think that less people go out these days. It is a sign of the times. Many people are more disconnected than ever.
I'm not terribly outgoing, but I do see the entire internet as a dating site. I actually met my husband on Yahoo. I liked his "internet personality", so I agreed to fly to California (from Texas) and have lunch with him. We've been married for about four years and have a four month old baby.
Waiting for NOADLS to weigh in with his choices, too.
My friends met through Match and Zoosk. Match seems to be the most "long term friendly."
I'm married. I met hubs at in a grocery store.
Don't people go out anymore? When I worked nights and evenings we went out, nurses, residents, UC, etc. every Friday night. There were hookups galore, a few serious.
Yes. And I've had even worse luck with the men I've met out and about! If only I'd looked at the grocery store instead of the bar!
I'm not terribly outgoing, but I do see the entire internet as a dating site. I actually met my husband on Yahoo. I liked his "internet personality", so I agreed to fly to California (from Texas) and have lunch with him. We've been married for about four years and have a four month old baby.
Specializes in Cath/EP lab, CCU, Cardiac stepdown.
Society has changed...many people in this day and age do not go out nearly as much as those in previous generations.
Think about it. A young person who came of age 30 years ago had to go out and interact with people for entertainment, friendship and romance. However, modern technologies such as smartphones, gaming, computers and tablets and reduced many peoples' inclination to get out there.
A frequent World-of-Warcraft player likely has a group of internet 'friends.' A young man or woman who is in the mood for companionship can swipe the smartphone's screen to the right on Tinder and hook up with a potential partner the same night. And why go to the bar or Saturday night when one can use an IPad to have drinks and bar food delivered to the front door?
Society is losing the intangible skill of forming human connections as technology advances, IMHO. However, I do think that less people go out these days. It is a sign of the times. Many people are more disconnected than ever.
Oh world of Warcraft, what an addicting game that was. I really shouldn't have been playing that while I was in nursing school but I've been 3 years clean from that mess
But in all seriousness, I do find myself not wanting to go out most of the time. I don't drink alcohol anymore so when I get invited out I just feel bored. So in the battle between going out vs staying in to sleep+ takeout, the hibernating bear wins.
Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
Oh world of Warcraft, what an addicting game that was. I really shouldn't have been playing that while I was in nursing school but I've been 3 years clean from that mess
One of our former Allnurses.com moderators met her husband online while playing World of Warcraft. He was a fellow W.O.W. player who lived several states away. To keep a long story short, she relocated to be near him and they're now married with two very young children.
That's a really long frickin' time for me. High maintenance, y'all.
Pre-internet dating, I met people at church, at college, and in the neighborhood.
If you aren't into internet dating, start doing something you like outside of the house on a regular basis. I know people who met at the gym, while running, while hiking, at the library, etc.
I put myself out there looking for friends and I found a BF with benefits!! Woot!
I am extremely introverted but when I do go out, it is with family. I wish I liked drinking and partying..it would make things so much easier!
One trend I have noticed is that so many guys in my age group are into gaming. Nearly every profile I have come across lists videogames as a hobby. Not that there is anything wrong with that but of the ones I've talked to, they all barely work and dropped out of college. As someone who is working two jobs and planning on going to grad school next year, that is a turn off.
Hahhahahahaaaa! No. Not for our Princess.
Waiting for NOADLS to weigh in with his choices, too.
My friends met through Match and Zoosk. Match seems to be the most "long term friendly."
I'm married. I met hubs at in a grocery store.
Don't people go out anymore? When I worked nights and evenings we went out, nurses, residents, UC, etc. every Friday night. There were hookups galore, a few serious.
I am extremely introverted but when I do go out, it is with family. I wish I liked drinking and partying..it would make things so much easier!
One trend I have noticed is that so many guys in my age group are into gaming. Nearly every profile I have come across lists videogames as a hobby. Not that there is anything wrong with that but of the ones I've talked to, they all barely work and dropped out of college. As someone who is working two jobs and planning on going to grad school next year, that is a turn off.
Not all gamers are like that! My husband loves video games, but he still holds a full time job and helps around the house. Only occasionally do I have to threaten to break whatever game has caught his obsession.
I'm no help on the dating front. My husband and I are high school sweethearts.
I am extremely introverted but when I do go out, it is with family. I wish I liked drinking and partying..it would make things so much easier!
One trend I have noticed is that so many guys in my age group are into gaming. Nearly every profile I have come across lists videogames as a hobby. Not that there is anything wrong with that but of the ones I've talked to, they all barely work and dropped out of college. As someone who is working two jobs and planning on going to grad school next year, that is a turn off.
I am extremely introverted but when I do go out, it is with family. I wish I liked drinking and partying..it would make things so much easier!
One trend I have noticed is that so many guys in my age group are into gaming. Nearly every profile I have come across lists videogames as a hobby. Not that there is anything wrong with that but of the ones I've talked to, they all barely work and dropped out of college. As someone who is working two jobs and planning on going to grad school next year, that is a turn off.
Yeah...video games are fine. I'll study while a guy is playing them. I'll join too if he doesn't mind losing horribly! But dropping out of college and playing video games all day long? The next move for that guy is in his mom's basement.
TheCommuter, BSN, RN
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Think about it. A young person who came of age 30 years ago had to go out and interact with people for entertainment, friendship and romance. However, modern technologies such as smartphones, gaming, computers and tablets and reduced many peoples' inclination to get out there.
A frequent World-of-Warcraft player likely has a group of internet 'friends.' A young man or woman who is in the mood for companionship can swipe the smartphone's screen to the right on Tinder and hook up with a potential partner the same night. And why go to the bar or Saturday night when one can use an IPad to have drinks and bar food delivered to the front door?
Society is losing the intangible skill of forming human connections as technology advances, IMHO. However, I do think that less people go out these days. It is a sign of the times. Many people are more disconnected than ever.