My dad died yesterday

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My dad was diagnosed with NASH three years ago, and one of the things NASH makes you more prone to is liver cancer. Back in April he was diagnosed with stage 2 liver cancer. He spent all Summer getting tested/prepped for a transplant and a couple weeks ago, developed complications with kidney involvement. Developed Hepatorenal Syndrome. My stepmother called me last Wednesday to tell me he was no longer a candidate for transplant and they were discharging him home with palliative care and hospice. He got discharged on Thanksgiving Day. I flew down to VA with my 12 year old son and 10 year old daughter to be with him, say our goodbyes, etc. Those four days were the worst, but also most special days. I am trying to be grateful that we had time to say goodbye. We put up a tree for him that the kids decorated, we told stories, we cried A LOT, he gave us each a special gift. Leaving was the hardest thing to do, but I wanted to remember him that way and also wanted my kids to remember him that way. We left Monday night and he fell into a deep sleep shortly after we left and passed away yesterday peacefully with his wife of 30 years by his side.

Losing a parent really sucks, at any age. I am most sad that my two kids will not have their amazing grandpa watch them grow up. I am 44 and this is my first experience with a very close loved one passing away. There is nothing to describe it.

Just needed to share with my virtual nursing station. I am at work as the funeral isn't until next week and a lot of the arrangements were already made before he passed away. I need to be around my sweet little K-2 kiddos to help get me through my day, so staying home under the covers was not an option for me.

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My dad was diagnosed with NASH three years ago, and one of the things NASH makes you more prone to is liver cancer. Back in April he was diagnosed with stage 2 liver cancer. He spent all Summer getting tested/prepped for a transplant and a couple weeks ago, developed complications with kidney involvement. Developed Hepatorenal Syndrome. My stepmother called me last Wednesday to tell me he was no longer a candidate for transplant and they were discharging him home with palliative care and hospice. He got discharged on Thanksgiving Day. I flew down to VA with my 12 year old son and 10 year old daughter to be with him, say our goodbyes, etc. Those four days were the worst, but also most special days. I am trying to be grateful that we had time to say goodbye. We put up a tree for him that the kids decorated, we told stories, we cried A LOT, he gave us each a special gift. Leaving was the hardest thing to do, but I wanted to remember him that way and also wanted my kids to remember him that way. We left Monday night and he fell into a deep sleep shortly after we left and passed away yesterday peacefully with his wife of 30 years by his side.

Losing a parent really sucks, at any age. I am most sad that my two kids will not have their amazing grandpa watch them grow up. I am 44 and this is my first experience with a very close loved one passing away. There is nothing to describe it.

Just needed to share with my virtual nursing station. I am at work as the funeral isn't until next week and a lot of the arrangements were already made before he passed away. I need to be around my sweet little K-2 kiddos to help get me through my day, so staying home under the covers was not an option for me.

Thanks for listening

I'm so, so sorry.

Love to you and your family.

Specializes in Med-surg, school nursing..

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I am so very sorry. Love and prayers, friend.

Specializes in School Nurse, past Med Surge.

I'm so sorry for your loss! I'm happy that you were able to see him before he died. Prayers for your family!

I'm so sorry. I'm glad you and your kids had those last days with him. Please feel free to lean on us during the next few weeks/months. I'm glad he got to experience his last days with those who loved him.

Condolences. I have lost many close relatives over the years. You never fully get over the hurt but when you get a chance to spend time with them and able to say goodbyes it means the world. Having said that, it being a parent is devastating at first but the best advice I like to share, if I may, is moving forward in life as they would want you to. I'm a granddad's brat, raised by my grandparents and when he passed on about 4 years ago I thought my world ended. But like you, my children and I were able to say goodbyes and he passed when I called him and said we made it home. He told me to call him once I got home, I did and he never spoke again afterwards....... OK, I have to stop cause I'm about to have a meltdown myself.

Sorry for your loss, keep your mom close and speak to her as much as possible, and keep your dad's memory alive by telling your children all the funny memories, and pass on all the great life lessons you learned from him.

So sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Its never easy losing a loved one. Hugs and prayers sent your way.

So very sorry for your loss. I assume losing a parent at any age is just heartbreaking. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

So sorry for your loss!

Specializes in School Nursing, Pediatrics.

I am so sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing with us!

Specializes in NCSN.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I am glad you and your children got all of those special moments before he went into that deep sleep. That is something they will be able to cherish forever.

I know nothing any of us can say can help with the pain that probably comes in waves, but know that you are cared for and supported.

Praying for you and your loved ones.

So glad you were able to get some time with him this past weekend. Those will be memories you will cherish. Peace to you and your family.

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