Rn hurt by cold behavior

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hi

I have been in nursing for 3 yrs with Bsn 3.5 GPA, also enrolled in fnp program. Recently I got terminated from job bcoz I refused to resign. I haven't done any errors on floors but had to take leave as my mom met with brutal accident , hit by car while crossing rd. she is disabled for life, is fully vent dependant and cannot speak and lies eyes opened.i had to go back and forth From one city to another to see and follow up on doctors reg my mom. I am only child.

My supervisors started giving me warnings knowing well I don't go to see my mom . I am doing this by taking my own personal and sick hrs etc. supervisor started finding fault with me even though coming to job was some change for me sometime. slowly they started showing me that I need to resign and I did not bcoz finding job is not easy. I cannot go for FMLA as I do not qualify.

I have started hating nursing politics and mgmt because things can happen with anybody. I am sad, moral is down and feel like would I be able to go on floor again with so much cold behavior.

I don't know what to do :crying2:

Specializes in ICU.

Before my son died of cancer, I was able to take FMLA intermittently, as I was his sole caregiver. I had been at the same hospital for 8 years, and they were very good to me. Then my son and I moved, to be nearer his treatment center and his oncologist, and I took another job for the next 4 years. (Prior to that move, I had to drive 200 miles each way for his treatment. We lived in a very rural area.) I was terminated from this second hospital because my son was in the emergency room, actively vomiting bright red blood, and we were left in the ER pending an ICU bed. Well, my son died, and I was terminated because I failed to call in to the hospital that day to say I would be out. God bless you and your mother.

*Hugs apple* Breaks my heart that you were treated this way ;(

I am going to be an administrator someday, and I vow to you, this will never happen on my watch. If my boss orders me to do something like this, I would walk.

That's one thing I've known, never let a nursing employer know you have an ill family member, or have illness yourself. That will be the start of the end of your job or, it will be the reason you do not get the job you want.

Even while taking my prereqs this happened. In a medical terminology class, one student missed a test, and the next class had gone to the teacher prior to class and said she apologized for missing class. Before she could explain the teacher said she could not make up the test, and that not only did she fail to prenotify, she was not a good student. Well, this was all within earshot of the class. This student tears filling her eyes asked the teacher to hear her out, the teacher refused. She then shouted, "but my mom died of cancer yesterday, I didn't know when she was going to die, we thought we had weeks left, so I couldn't email you and tell you because I didn't know it would be so soon!" The teacher said she'd consider this and then started the class. No apologies made. After that class day, 20 students dropped it.

So much inhumanity in a world of humans....very sad.....

i'm sorry for all your pain.

as xtxrn stated, this is all about business.

if hospitals acted only on their compassion, they'd be broke.

get your unemployment and focus on mom for now.

way down the road, you may even find this termination to be a blessing in disguise.

prayers for strength and comfort.

leslie

There is a fable of the lion's thorn....

When a manager helps the lion and removes the thorn, wow, they have a motivated employee..

It is a hard balance though as some employees will take advantage of a compassionate boss.....

As twai chang kain said,

Balance is the key

Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

That sucks. I wish people who deserve support would get it and the ones that blow it for others would also get what they have coming.....:smokin:

Specializes in med/surg/ortho/tele.

Thanks for all your support . Yes, I know hospital is a business and I was no longer useful for them but I just wanted few weeks off to make things work at my family front. I believe whenever we have palliative patient we do see conflicts among family members regarding DNR or full status and I was struggling with this. I was still working according to my schedule and in fact working some weeks extra to compensate for my absences on certain days, even out of ratio took 6-7 patients assignments happily.

This is something on which I had no control. it can happen to anybody. I am sad to loose my job which I loved but well nthing can replace my mom and yes, this termination might be my blessing in disguise.

Thanks for all yr best wishes for my mom.

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

i'm sorry about your mother's injuries. that said, i don't really understand your post. it sounds as if you were fired because of attendance issues? i'm sorry you lost your job, but a hospital is a business and your manager has to make sure there are enough nurses on hand to cover her census. if you weren't dependable, i can understand her issue.

Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

I'm so sorry to read your post. My prayers are with you and your mother at this time.

Employers can be so cruel, but maybe you will be able to get unemployment and get your mom settled before looking for work again. What an awful situation. It's too bad when an employer can't work with you and kicks you when your already down. Wishing you the very best :redbeathe:redbeathe:redbeathe

Specializes in Med/Surg, DSU, Ortho, Onc, Psych.

Quit your facility & go do agency work. Then you can work days/hours you want, and where u want and still spend time with ur mum.

I do hope she gets better. sorry this has happened.

Are you certain you don't qualify for FMLA? That is so sad, my mom got FMLA because my grandmother has the beginnings of dementia. And the FMLA was only because she needed rides to her doctor's appointments, not anything close to what you are going through.

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