"I'm too young for a living will"

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  1. Do YOU have a living will?

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      Yes! I want to reduce stress on my family, and reduce my chances of spending years brain dead on a tube feed..
    • 1
      No, "i'm too young"
    • 37
      Not yet, but realize i need one, even if i am young
    • 0
      Why would *I* need one? I am not terminally ill, and car accidents don't happen.

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(this is copied as it was becoming a derail on the "Slow Code" thread).

Some ppl think a living will = self DNR order. Many ppl seem to think of living wills as something old ppl should do, but young ppl don't need one.

which is a sad misconception, but a common one.

A living will can state ANYTHING!!

You can have a complete algorithm, with all various scenarios,

and state what you want done in each of those kind of situations.

~A sudden, unanticipated cardiac arrest in some recovery room? Oh yeah, code me!

~I am verifiabley brain dead on a vent for 3 days, don't code me, remove the vent, remove the tube feed.

~I want everything done, no matter what, even if brain dead, code me, code me, code me.

I don't know the specifics of the case you were involved in, (a nurse stated living wills are ignored by doctor)

but, possibly, the person's living will stated they would want to be changed to a DNR in the event ______blahblahblah_______.

Or, perhaps, the patient and doc had some conversation, and the pt's verbal instruction to the doc trumped his earlier living will.

no idea. But IF IF IF the doc DID make pt a DNR, and pt's living will stated he wanted "code me, no matter what"

then

the family can have the DNR rescinded and have pt made a full code again, based on the pt's living will. (that might not be the wisest, most compassionate thing to do, but, with a living will, that IS an option)

I am kind of disappointed, how many NURSES on this forum

are stating remarks that seem to indicate they view themselves as too young,

or it's too early in their life,:no:

to get involved with a having a living will for themselves......

AGAIN, ALL TOGETHER NOW---------------A LIVING WILL

IS NOT NOT NOT A DNR ORDER.

NOR IS IT A REQUEST FOR FULL CODES, either.

EVERYONE'S LIVING WILL CAN BE DIFFERENT from anyone else's living will.

Each of us,

might have different criteria for what WE want done.

A LIVING WILL

SIMPLY STATES

WHAT *YOU* WOULD WANT DONE

IN VARIOUS SCENARIOS.

In your living will-----------

YOU CAN REQUEST FULL CODE NO MATTER WHAT.

YOU CAN REQUEST FULL CODE UNLESS_______(whatever you want here)_________. (you do NOT NOT NOT have to wait til you are 80 years old to write this out, kids!!)

YOU CAN REQUEST TERMINATION OF TUBE FEEDS, VENTS, ETC, in the event you are certifiably brain dead, or whatever criteria you want.

You can request tube feeds and vents be left in place for eons, and full codes daily til the full codes fail, even if you are certifiably brain dead.

whatever YOU want done, is what living wills are about.

Verbally telling your next of kin IS helpful, and great idea,

but THAT might not necessarily always be enough. Remember Terry Schiavo.

You ppl who think you are "too young" to get a living will,:no:

might be inadvertently causing future stress to your next of kin by not having one. Car accidents happen.

Also, get living wills on all your loved ones, too.

Like i said earlier, i also enlisted my most assertive pal to be my "medical power of attorney" in the event i can no longer speak for myself. She knows my wishes,

and would go to bat for me. She's also perfect, because she is both a lawyer, and a nurse and my best pal, and very assertive yet would be so compassionate to my family, she knows them all very well, too.

My family would, indeed, waffle, and leave me on the vent, i know they would, bless their hearts. They would.

so i chose my pal. My family has been told of my medical POA, and of my wishes, so they wont' be shocked when Bev pulls the plug on me, ha ha.

By taking even half an hour,

most ppl CAN avoid causing their families extra suffering, and can prevent their own selves from being that tragic brain-dead victim being kept "alive" with vents, tube feeds, etc.

My living will allows 3 days brain dead, just to give my family time to 'get it', cuz, i know how they are.

lol.

btw, it costs nothing to be an organ donor,

nor to donate one's body to science,

and i am doing both. One can opt to do BOTH.

off to google how ppl who don't have best pals who are lawyers draw up living wills!

I have found these sites, can't vouch for their reliability, if these types of living wills would be treated as legit. I also think it is wise to get a Medical Power of Attorney, who will speak for you, using your living will,

when you can't speak for yourself.

This site claims to offer FREE living wills.

Living Will | TotalLegal

this one also offers free living wills:

Living Will | LegacyWriter

this "how to" site, suggests asking for a form at your local hospital,

and adds this: //"A living will must be signed in the presence of two witnesses, according to legacywriter.com. It does not need to be notarized except in North Carolina, South Carolina and Tennessee."//

this site charges some fee to do your living will:

How to Make a Living Will - 3-Step Process | LegalZoom.com

one could also call some lawyers and compare their fees

for doing living wills and medical Power Of Attorney.

It's not much. Doesn't take a long time, either.

How To Create a Living Will | Legal Wills

^good info on that site, with tips and pointers.

In my state you just choose whether or not you want to be an organ donor when you get your driver's license. Is it not like that everywhere? The back of my license has a blurb about being an organ donor that I've not paid attention to, but I know there's a little heart "icon" on the top of my photo which means I told them at the DMV when asked that I wanted to be an organ donor.

Not that I'm wishing more work on nurses, but it would be kind of nice if there was a fill in the blank type of living will that was an automatic process for being admitted into the hospital rather than just asking, do you have one?

Specializes in Medical Surgical Orthopedic.

You are torturing some readers (me) by using "ppl" so much (or at all). :arghh: Otherwise, your message is a good one.

Specializes in RN, BSN, CHDN.

A few days ago a friend of mine went in for minor surgery on her nose, stayed overnight. Nurse came in to give some IV meds and gave her an IV heart med (it wasn't in this country, and this is what her sister witnessed) which was mean't for another patient.

My friend had an immediate cardiac arrest and died.

So you just never ever know the moment, I am sure nobody would have thought that this would happen, unfortunately it does.

You need to have a Living will, but more importantly you need to make your wishes known to your next of kin, so that the living will is taken with you where ever and when ever you need treatment.

Plus they know exactly what you want!

When I was doing C&L psych at a large urban teaching hospital quite a few years ago, I saw the hospital honor advanced directives and POAs that were handwritten on notebook paper -- as long as it was in ink (not pencil), and signed and witnessed, that was good enough. The hospital's position (although I'm sure this is not universal :)) was that you didn't have to pay an attorney to draw something official up; as long as the hospital could determine clearly what your wishes were, and that they were really your wishes, that was good enough.

How can anyone working in nursing think s/he is too young for this? laughable.

How To Create a Living Will | Legal Wills

^good info on that site, with tips and pointers.

Thank you so much! I havent had time to look it over since last night but i plan to today. Thank you for taking the time to do this! Very kind of you!

In my state you just choose whether or not you want to be an organ donor when you get your driver's license. Is it not like that everywhere? The back of my license has a blurb about being an organ donor that I've not paid attention to, but I know there's a little heart "icon" on the top of my photo which means I told them at the DMV when asked that I wanted to be an organ donor.

Not that I'm wishing more work on nurses, but it would be kind of nice if there was a fill in the blank type of living will that was an automatic process for being admitted into the hospital rather than just asking, do you have one?

yes, it is the same in most states i have lived in. I only mentioned one could be an organ donor, and later, ALSO donate entire body to science, as some ppl don't know this, thinking, if some organs have been removed, that the org would no longer accept the dead body, but, that is false.

Most hospitals i've worked in, can also accept a patient as an organ donor, whose family say okay, even if the license doesn't specify it. I've sat in on many many of these conversations about organ donation, when patient is brain dead on a vent in ICU and termination of the vent is being planned. (often a family mtg with doc and nurse) and the myths surrounding organ donation are rampant. Everyone be sure to tell your family you DO want to be an organ donor. That always always helps, when one relative or close pals states, "Yes, i did hear John say he'd want to be an organ donor." Helps family make decision if they have heard it from the patient at some point.

Science orgs and medical schools will take dead bodies which have been formally embalmed, or not, or bodies which have had organs harvested, or not. Almost all diseases are accepted, too, with a very very few exceptions.

I see donating my body as a rational thing to do, if it helps some med student, plus, the free cremation is plus, imo. For $3,000 to $5,000 dollars (2012 prices, but, varies from state to state) my family could go have a good time instead. Makes more sense, imo.

You are torturing some readers (me) by using "ppl" so much (or at all). :arghh: Otherwise, your message is a good one.

such a great point to add. Having a brilliant but dyslexic person in my family, i long ago got over being pedantic about deciphering messages, took me a while, but, i did. So long as i 'get it', i'm good. I guess i just don't stress out about it now.

sorry, it's habit whenever i type now, from texting to pals whose phones only accept so many characters per msg. But, i'm working on it, okay? I also have to work on not posting LOL, too, keep doing that by accident, too. (hangs head)

so many abbreviations on most pages....

Me, as an older nurse, sometimes i find the medical abbreviations sometimes odd, these acronyms and nicknames vary sometimes from state to state,

and from decade to decade,

and every once in while, i have to google or guess what these initials, or those initials, mean. To me, so long as the person posting can be understood, it's helpful. but, i'll try harder.

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