Questions for Nurses who are married to Nurses!

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Hello Everyone!

I have been dating a wonderful gentleman that is a nurse for about a year and a half now. I will graduate from nursing school in May, 2005. Our relationship has been becomming more intense and the discussion of marriage has come up. This will not happen until I graduate, but I am wondering what life will be like married to another nurse? We love each other very much and get along great. He is so awesome and often helps me out with school. I am just looking for advice from other couples who are nurses as to what to expect. Do you argue about work? Do you work on the same unit? Do you have scheduling difficulties? I would imagine that the shift work of two nurses could be very trying to a relationship. In a perfect world we would work the same days and the same hours, but sometimes we can't do that in nursing. Any advice or comments are welcome. Thanks.

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I was married to a nurse...once! :rotfl: Now I'm not :crying2:. I was :coollook: ; she was :devil:. She made me :mad: so I had an :idea:. I left! Now, I'm still :cool: and married to an and I'm and :roll around all the time!

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I know of a woman who is married to a nurse and it works out great. I am not sure how they work their schedules but I know she is really happy !

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Specializes in Neuro/Med-Surg/Oncology.

One of my good friends met her husband in nursing school. It gets stressful at times with two nurses. I guess it's kind of like two cops being married. By the same token, if things go wrong at work with codes, bad patients, etc, the spouse really understands. They don't see each other as often as they would like. She's working evening, casual now that they have kids and he works mid morning until early evening in the recovery room. He also tries to pick up OT since she was on maternity leave. They have a 6 year old, an almost three year old, an almost two year old and a six week old. Daycare would be outrageous if they could not work opposite shifts. Two nurses is not necessarily a bad thing, but it's also not easy. You just have to make it a point to have some time together and make it quality time, I think. JMHO . . . .

P.S. They do not work on the same unit. I don't think they're allowed. Plus, it's a little easier for each one to have his/her own space away from home.

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Specializes in Emergency/Trauma/Education.

First of all...zenman, you are way too creative! :chuckle

Second, I married a nurse nearly four years ago. We didn't then, but now we work at the same facility. (So the sign-on AND referral bonuses went into the same checking account!) We work in different departments but our schedules are pretty much the same. It has been nice having an 'experienced ear' at home when I've needed to vent & it's nice having a spouse that's 'been there, done that'. Working at the same place allows for the occasional carpool & idea exchange.

(Weird fact: my parents are both teachers & taught at the same school for years! Guess I'm more like my mom than I thought!)

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my SIL and her husband are both nurses. They met while he was a student nurse at the hospital she works at. She was mentoring his friend. He started out at a different hospital with the same shift as her. She works days 7 on 7 off. Then he switched to the same hospital (granted her mother and her aunt also work there) and he got 3 12s 11a to 11p and that was a little harder. But he will be switching to 7a to 7p soon.

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My advice: Be kind to one another. Try not to get upset when it is your only day off together and you are dying to go out, and your husband just wants to sleep after hard shift :rolleyes:

And... If you want to share Christmas or Easter or Birthday with the one you love...

GET THOSE ROSTER REQUESTS IN EARLY:chuckle

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i'm not married to a nurse BUT i am married. hey, as long as you're with the person you love. it'll work out fine. goodluck!

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I wish I were married.

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Specializes in Neurology, Neurosurgerical & Trauma ICU.

I'm not married to a nurse, but........

We did have a married couple that traveled and they both worked on our unit and worked the same schedule....worked out just fine!!!

As with everything, it can work for some, and not for others!

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Specializes in Nurse Scientist-Research.

I'm married to a nurse. Helped him through school. We don't currently work together though we worked at the same hospital/same shifts while he was in school. It depends on each manager whether you can work together.

We have different ways of winding down after work; I would like to talk about work and he really wants to relax mentally and physically and not think about work for a while. We had to learn that about each other.

We try to work the same days (actually nights) fortunately I have more flexibility and can make my schedule match his so we do usually have the same days off. It's a little more challenging to get holidays off together but we usually work something out. Our families are used to celebrating Christmas on the 26th (there is also another nurse in the family).

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Thanks everyone for your replies. It's nice to know what I may be in for. I don't think that I could work on the same unit as him though. That would just be too much time together if you know what I mean. I can imagine that there will be a lot of interesting dinner conversation though.

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