Questions for Nurses who are married to Nurses!

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Hello Everyone!

I have been dating a wonderful gentleman that is a nurse for about a year and a half now. I will graduate from nursing school in May, 2005. Our relationship has been becomming more intense and the discussion of marriage has come up. This will not happen until I graduate, but I am wondering what life will be like married to another nurse? We love each other very much and get along great. He is so awesome and often helps me out with school. I am just looking for advice from other couples who are nurses as to what to expect. Do you argue about work? Do you work on the same unit? Do you have scheduling difficulties? I would imagine that the shift work of two nurses could be very trying to a relationship. In a perfect world we would work the same days and the same hours, but sometimes we can't do that in nursing. Any advice or comments are welcome. Thanks.

Specializes in Community Health Nurse.
I wish I were married.

Be careful what you wish for you just might get it -- and then some. 217.gif :rotfl:

My AWOL spouse is licensed to work as a nurse, but has no desire to...never did, but when we were together, it was nice to have him to talk to about medicine and other health related work topics. My first spouse hated that I was a nurse, and we didn't have one thing in common...well...except for the kids we share together. :rolleyes:

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Specializes in Emergency room, med/surg, UR/CSR.

At the time we met I was a medic just starting classes for nursing school and he was an EMT student doing ride-along and also just starting classes for nursing school. We went to different schools but graduated with our ASN the same year. Our "1st" official date was my college's graduation dinner dance and from then on we were on the Love Train! :kiss :chuckle

We plan on getting married sometime in the future and we both work in the ER. It's nice because we can vent to each other about how our day went and how many stupid people we took care of. We were working days together but now I switched to weekend nights so we won't be seeing each other at work and will have to be creative about finding time to spend together. Anyway, back to the original question, for us, it works fine. We are both pursing our BSN starting this semester and when we do get married, are looking forward to relocating somewhere together. (He wants to move to ALASKA!!!????) I know as BSNs we will have more opportunity afforded to us and will have great income so I think it will work out rather nicely.

Just my two cents,

Pam :)

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I am married to a nurse, and it works out well. The only thing I hate is that we work opposite, I work days, he works nights. I have several nurse colleagues who are also nurses married to nurses, we all seem to be doing fine.

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I am an RN and my husband is in the medical field,but not a nurse.He is a firefighter/emt going thru paramedic training.He was never interested in the medical field until i went to nursing school.he used to say he was in awe of me because i was a nurse.now he has "the curse" and thinks he knows more than any nurse(especially me) :chuckle it was easier when he was just a plain guy with a regular job.we can't watch an episode of er or any tv show without a complete critique. :uhoh3: all i can say is that it is just tv.he used to say he should go to nursing school when he was done with the other stuff.i couldn't imagine cohabitating with someone else that worked in the same hospital or medical area.too close to home for me.seems the curiosity of nursing has left him ...for now.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ER.

My husband is a nurse too (well, technically I'm not a nurse yet... took the NCLEX this morning.... got cut off @75). For us it has worked out OK. Scheduling is difficult, especially with a child and no extended family nearby to help with his night and my rotating shift schedule. Otherwise, it is nice to be able to talk to someone who understands your stressors and the weirdness peculiar to our profession and can relate!

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Bluesky, thanks for posting that. I wish you luck on NCLEX, although it sounds as if you did just fine. Only 75 questions thats great.

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Specializes in Hospice.

my husband and i are both nurses. we meet while working as lpn's at the same hospital. then he pushed and pushed for me to go back to school. he is so wonderful. i worked part-time and bridged while he worked one full-time job and agency to pay the bills. i just graduated last may and now he will graduate in may 2005. i never :kiss could have done it w/o him!!! we still work at the same place, i work in the or and he works med-surg. it's a small hospital so we do see each other. but, word of warning, when we did work on the floor together.... :angryfire we could clear a nurses station in 3 seconds flat when we had a difference of opinion. it works better for us in different departments. i will say this though, it's nice to have someone at home who understands what you've just gone thru for hours on end.

be happy, no matter what. :balloons:

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My husband and I are both nurses. We meet while working as LPN's at the same hospital. Then he pushed and pushed for me to go back to school. He is so wonderful. I worked part-time and bridged while he worked one full-time job and agency to pay the bills. I just graduated last May and now he will graduate in May 2005. I NEVER could have done it w/o him!!! We still work at the same place, I work in the OR and he works Med-Surg. It's a small hospital so we do see each other. But, word of warning, when we did work on the floor together.... we could clear a nurses station in 3 seconds flat when we had a difference of opinion. It works better for us in different departments. I will say this though, it's nice to have someone at home who understands what you've just gone thru for hours on end.

Be happy, no matter what

That's so funny nursediane. It's so nice to hear from people that it can work. I never gave it much of a thought at first but now that we are getting seriouse about each other it makes me wonder. Thanks for sharing.

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Specializes in Renal, Haemo and Peritoneal.

I think it can work if you don't work in the same unit.

I learnt a long time ago that you shouldn't get your meat where you get your bread!

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Specializes in ER, Burns and Plastics.

My wife and I met when we were in first year of nursing school. We were married the summer before our final (4th) year. Now, we've been married for 14 months, and are working at the same hospital, though different units. We're lucky; both of our units do self-scheduling, so we just request the same shifts, and hopefully we'll get most of them, or at least we hope we'll get the same days off. Being married to a nurse, it's certainly a major part of our lives that we share (our profession, that is), so we find that a lot of our conversations revolve around work and nursing topics. We keep thinking: 'our poor kids', they won't be able to get any sympathy :chuckle .

Anyway, bottom line: so far, so good. Just wish I got tos spend more time with her. She's great :) .

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Specializes in OR Hearts 10.

I've been an RN for a little over a year, hubby just started pre-reqs this summer. Our plan is to do the travel nurse thing together.

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