Problem...Should I Go Back Or Not

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Specializes in Geriatrics/Alzheimer's.

I left my ALF position last Monday, after finishing out my two week notice. We had the nurse from h**l working there. My administrator had asked me to take a leave of absence instead, until she figures out whether to keep the RN or not. She was that bad, always yelling and tempermental.

My administrator really wanted me to stay there in our Memory Care Unit as Care Coordinator. I know the residents well and their families. Plus, she said my unit was functioning better than it had in years. The big plus is that, that nurse WAS fired on Friday. She pissed off my boss for the last time.

This place has had so many problems since I started there. Yes, I now have/had a staff that any nurse would be proud of, but it took months to accomplish this. They teamwork well together, and the residents seem happy. And, they respect me, which takes time to earn in LTC.

Part of me wants to go back and part of me yells, no don't it will still be the same as when you left, last week.

My administrator wants me to come in tomorrow so we can talk. She wants me back, my co-workers want me back, and my caregivers and med-aide do too. She says she will give me a raise if I come back.

Why is it that part of me doesn't care about that? I have been fighting with myself all day. Real dumb I know, but a raise would be nice, plus I know my job, yet a new start would be refreshing. What would you do? UGH! What is wrong with me!!!???:uhoh3:

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Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

I'd at least go and see what she has to say, and then make a decision. Express your concerns when you talk to her. You might have a more clear answer by then.

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Specializes in Family.

Can you go back on a "trial" run? That way you'd know whether or not you could be happy since the problem nurse is gone. Good luck!

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Specializes in Geriatrics/Alzheimer's.

This is the third time I put in my notice. This time I followed through on it and actually left. They keep talking me out of leaving. :)

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This is the third time I put in my notice. This time I followed through on it and actually left. They keep talking me out of leaving. :)

If you've resigned three times, then I think you need to see a fundamental change in the way they do business, or you'll be resigning a fourth time. What is it about your facility that leads you to resign, and what is it that keeps drawing you back? Weigh those factors. Then, if it's worth staying, now that the Evil One is gone, by all means take the raise. :) But be sure they know it's not about the money, and that you will not be accepting business as usual. You'd be too valuable to any facility.

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Specializes in NICU, Telephone Triage.
This is the third time I put in my notice. This time I followed through on it and actually left. They keep talking me out of leaving. :)

I know how you feel. I'm struggling with quitting a job right now.

Just don't burn your bridges! Good luckwith your decision making...I always have problems with making major decisions.;)

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Specializes in Geriatrics/Alzheimer's.

The other two times I resigned was because there was only two nurses, myself and a nurse who had been there for 3 years. We were the only nurses there, to oversee our 100+ residents in the ALF. Many days it would be just one nurse. It was doable??, but not a safe practice.

Well, before I left last week they did hire two other nurses. So now everyday there will be two nurses in the building, unless one quits, which does happen often.

I talked to my nurse friend who has worked with me from the start and she says it has improved. She wants me to come back and I told her I will see what our boss has to say tomorrow. I just hate false promises and I refused to be conned into something. So I plan to state my needs and concerns. Plus stand up for the nurses and fellow caregivers and med-aides.

What draws me back is the great group I work with and my residents. I feel they are like an extended family.

I guess I'm just tired of being overworked then scolded for working overtime and other nonsense. That is why I leave. No.... I leave because of the disorganization of the upper management.

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No.... I leave because of the disorganization of the upper management.

HannasMom, I think you just answered your own question in that last sentence. BTW, it sounds very much like the last place I worked. Taking care of 115 patients with perhaps two nurses. Extremely chaotic, unorganized and, I felt, dangerous to my license - as well as the residents.

IMHO, if you've resigned three times, and it was not only because of the RN witch, I think you know things aren't really gonna change. I'd go and talk with the administrator and let her know all your concerns, but sometimes you just can't believe the lines they give you. They'll promise you the sun, moon and stars, then deliver nothing.

If you're still having serious doubts, I'd look elsewhere. No point in working there for another couple of weeks only to have to resign again.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

hmmmmmmmmm...........this is your third time resigning? I would venture to say that the things that truly bug you aren't going to get better. So you'll have to either move on, or accept the positives about the place and find some peace with how management does things........while expressing your needs and not accepting unacceptable management techniques if that makes any sense at all.

Good luck in whatever you do.

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Why did they ask YOU to take a leave when the other nurse was the one causing the problems? You'd think they'd want to retain mgmt.

If you've put in notice 3 times, I think you answered your own question about going back. Don't do it, and DON'T go in to talk to your mgr. She'll sucker you back in like before.

Until we all stand up and refuse to be treated like doormats, all we'll have are footprints on our backs from admin. You deserve more. Go find that!

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Specializes in Geriatrics/Alzheimer's.

Actually my boss asked me to take the leave, instead of quitting. She tries everything to keep employees, we have a high turnover rate. We have lost five nurses in one year. Last night I had alot of trouble sleeping, which usually is a sign something isn't right.

When I finally fell asleep, I had a dream about going in to talk to my boss. The place felt strange to me. (After all it was a dream.) The other nurse who works in my unit had the office all changed around to suit her. My "desk" was facing against the wall. I couldn't find my boss anywhere to talk to her. The maintenance man told me he would get my keys for me at lunch break. I answered back "don't bother, I'm not staying."

I went into the unit's dining room and it was raining hard outside. (That's odd it suppose to be 83 degrees today and sunny.) And all the caregivers were ignoring me. LOL.

I went up to the second floor and couldn't find any coffee. (There is always coffee available for all to drink in the lobby and kitchen.) Then I saw my boss who was leaving, wearing a coat of many colors....

I said to her as she left, I decided to look for work elsewhere. She looked at me and said sadly "Ok." Left then came back inside and grabbed me and hugged me, crying,. My alarm clock woke me up.

Very strange, silly dream.

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Specializes in Nursing assistant.

Allowing this behavoir in the workplace is indicative of problems in management.

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